Written By Kirsten Moodie
Here’s How Important Kindness is to Each Personality Type
While kindness is universally a positive quality, some people value it in different ways. Here is how important kindness is to each personality type.
INFJs definitely believe that kindness is important, and try to live their lives with compassion. They don’t want to harm others, especially when those people are innocent. INFJs always strive to be kind towards other people, and hate feeling like they have hurt someone. While INFJs believe in kindness, they can also be a bit harsh when they see someone committing an injustice. They are often the type to defend someone who is being attacked, and are capable of flipping their switch and becoming a bit aggressive towards those people.
ENFJS definitely believe in being kind, and try to live their lives always giving and sharing with others. ENFJs don’t enjoy seeing people in pain, and want to do what they can to prevent this. They always try to be compassionate and warm towards others, and believe that sharing kindness is extremely important. ENFJs actually want to make a difference in the world around them, and try to do their part. ENFJs try to always tend to the needs of others, and strive to live a life filled with kindness and giving.
INFPs definitely strive to be kind and loving people, and believe in making a difference in the world. INFPs don’t enjoy seeing others suffering, and become upset by people who are cruel to others. INFPs really believe that they are meant to serve a greater purpose in life, which often ties into helping others. They have very strong inner morals which they strive to follow and can be rather hard on themselves if they fail. INFPs simply believe that being kind is an important part of living a positive and valuable life.
ENFPs can be playful and even a bit teasing to their loved ones, but in truth they believe in being kind to others. When it truly matters the strong inner morals of the ENFP will come out, and they will certainly show kindness to others. They don’t enjoy causing others pain, and feel truly good when they can make someone feel good about themselves. ENFPs are charming people who have a knack for saying the right thing to make people smile. They believe in being kind to those who need it, and want to make a difference for others.
INTJs may be seen as cold people, but this is simply because they aren’t overly expressive when it comes to emotions. INTJs do believe in kindness, they just evaluate what it means to be kind in different ways than others. For the INTJ spreading knowledge and educating people is actually one of the kindest things you can do for someone. They value knowledge and strive to remove ignorance in themselves, so giving this gift to someone else is truly a deep kindness. INTJs also believe that honesty towards someone is showing kindness and respect towards that person, even if it doesn’t seem tactful to others.
ENTJs value efficiency more than anything else, which can sometimes trump their desire for kindness. ENTJs value kindness in different ways, and often believe that helping someone learn and better themselves is one of the biggest signs of respect they can show. ENTJs want to be honest with the people they care for, and often believe that is more important than tact. Being sincere and upfront is being kind in the eyes of the ENTJ.
INTPs may appear cold and closed off to others, but deep down they feel things in a very powerful way. INTPs simply aren’t open to express their emotions, and can even struggle to understand them. While INTPs might not be the most emotional people, they do believe in being kind to others. They are often very respectful to strangers and try to give everyone plenty of space. While INTPs want to be kind, they often see honesty and information as an important way to show that they care for someone. They might not be the most tactful people, which seems to others like they are being unkind. This is simply because the INTP wants to actually help make a difference in the lives of others, and they realize that honesty can do that.
ENTPs are independent people, who value logic and reason above many other things. While ENTPs try to be kind towards others, they can often lack tact which ultimately hurts others. They don’t want to upset people, they just value knowledge above most other things. For the ENTP it is important to be honest with their loved ones, in order to help them grow and become better. They have their own idea of what it means to be kind, and sometimes that can lack sensitivity.
ISTJs are hardworking people, who do know how to show a certain level of respect towards others. They are often surprisingly kind people, even if they aren’t very emotionally expressive. They have strong inner morals and actually strive to do what they believe is right and good. ISTJs are always trying to provide for their loved ones, and believe in doing what they can for them. This is their way of showing kindness, which is why ISTJs work so hard to improve themselves.
ESTJs value efficiency above most other things, and will often rank it above kindness. They do want to make their loved ones happy, and will always strive to improve their lives. For the ESTJ helping others is important, but they can sometimes lack tact when it comes to how they communicate. They simply want to assist their loved ones in improving their lives and becoming better, which to them is showing a sense of kindness. ESTJs also work hard to provide for others, which is their way of being kind and giving.
For ISFJs kindness is very important, and they always strive to be warm and compassionate towards others. ISFJs do not want to harm people, and try to always be sensitive to their feelings. They have big hearts, which is why they value kindness and compassion so much. ISFJs are respectful people, who would rather bite their tongue than say something that might hurt someone else’s feelings. For the ISFJ being kind means providing for the needs of those around them, and always being sensitive to their emotions.
Kindness is extremely important to ESFJs, and is one of their biggest values in life. They strive to care for their loved ones, and always want to be sensitive to their emotions. ESFJs also try to be kind to strangers, and dislike doing anything that could possibly harm someone. They try hard to be good to people, and want to extend kindness to anyone they can. ESFJs feel happiest when they are giving to others and want to spread that kindness when they can.
ISTPs value honesty and logic much more than they value insincere kindness. They do respect people and don’t seek to harm others, they just won’t hold back the truth in order to be sensitive. For ISTPs loyalty and sincerity is showing a greater kindness than fake words. They aren’t the most emotionally expressive people but they will certainly do what they can for the people they love. ISTPs prefer to have space most of the time, and believe that it is kind to show respect for other people’s space.
ESTPs can be somewhat tactless, which makes them seem less kind to others. They simply value knowledge and facts, and strive to teach others when they can. They won’t be unnecessarily rude, but they also won’t go out of their way to be kind to strangers. ESTPs are giving and loving people when it comes to those closest to them, and will always try and provide for those people. ESTPs simply aren’t the most sensitive people, so they can seem a little harsh at times.
ISFPs are moral people, who certainly believe in being kind to others. They always strive to do the right thing, and are very sensitive to the feelings of other people. ISFPs dislike causing harm, and simply want to live their lives with a sense of peace and kindness. They can sometimes get caught up in the moment, even still the ISFP always tries to show kindness when they can.
ESFPs definitely believe in being kind to others, and they want to receive that same kindness in return. They try to do what they can to make people happy, and don’t want to say or do anything hurtful. While ESFPs do strive to be kind people, they can sometimes say things that are a bit harmful. This is not their intention most of the time, ESFPs simply live in the present moment without much thought to their words or actions beforehand. They follow their instincts, which can create a bit of a problem sometimes.