HSP INTJ: The Highly Sensitive INTJ
Someone who is an HSP or highly sensitive person, experiences life in a much different way. They are naturally sensitive to the world around them, whether this be through emotions or even physical stimulus. They find themselves rather sensitive to things in ways that make them feel different from the majority of the people around them. Some HSPs will hide these traits, wanting to fit int and avoid standing out too much. Experiencing ridicule for being “too sensitive” is something which can only make those feelings harder to process. Being an HSP does not make someone an emotional mess, it does not make them weak, in a lot of ways it can be used as a strength or tool to connect with people and the world on a much deeper level. Being an HSP is not something which is naturally correlated with personality type, although some might be more commonly seen with these types of behaviors.
INTJs aren’t always viewed as the types who would be considered “sensitive” but this comes from a misunderstanding of what being an HSP actually is. Just because someone is highly sensitive, doesn’t mean they are an emotional wreck. It is often much more connected to the physical world and struggling with too much stimuli all at once. The HSP INTJ is not all that uncommon, they just try not to show signs of their hyper sensitivity to their surroundings. They are likely to need a lot of time to themselves because of this, sometimes alienating themselves so they don’t feel exposed to surroundings which are draining and inundate them with too much at once. They also might be more aware of changes in behavior and someone’s emotions, which is a bit more unusual for the INTJ.
The HSP INTJ might even be more conscious of emotional overload, and can find themselves needing to be alone in order to process this. They don’t usually feel comfortable showing these vulnerabilities around others, but sometimes it is hard to hide it. When they are upset about something or see someone hurting, they are often more sensitive to this than an INTJ who is not an HSP would be. Instead of being able to push aside these emotions and focus on the facts and problem solving, the INTJ can get upset themselves and that can be confusing for them at times. Being someone who is so naturally focused on facts and trying to be logical, but yet feeling things so deeply that they cannot ignore those feelings, can put them in a tug of war with themselves. This can actually cause some HSP INTJs to be mistyped, since they are more sensitive to emotional responses and their own feelings when they experience something which moves them deeply.
When it comes to being an HSP, the INTJ can become frustrated with feeling overwhelmed at times. They like to feel as if they are always in control, and feeling like their surroundings are too much can be a bit annoying to deal with. They are capable of analyzing the situation and figuring out ways around it, but that doesn’t make it any less of a challenge to deal with. The INTJ will feel overwhelmed by certain noises, smells and even tastes, and find themselves highly sensitive to these things in ways that most people aren’t. They might feel like they are disconnected from people this way, just another thing which makes them feel easily misunderstood. They might even keep these sensitivities to themselves, not wanting to expose themselves and be vulnerable.
Being an HSP makes them hyper aware of their surroundings, able to pick up on small details and changes in their environment. They can certainly utilize this as a strength and can often figure out ways to strategize using this information. INTJs use their minds and enjoy analyzing what they learn and see, and this is no different for the HSP INTJ. When they pick up on things that other people miss, they can use this to their advantage. They are good at taking all of this information and finding an intelligent and often creative use for it. They will try to strategize with these details and facts, and use them to figure out the best way to navigate their environment and the people around them. Sometimes this even helps the INTJ to read and understand people better, which isn’t always a natural skill for the INTJ. They might be good at recognizing certain things about people, but emotions really aren’t their natural strength. The HSP INTJ is often a bit more aware of these things, they can see when someone is upset much easier and might be able to navigate this person better because of it. Sometimes it is about reading the physical changes, but other times it is about changes in behavior which they might not have noticed otherwise.
How to Cope
For the INTJ who is an HSP often research is a key for them, since understanding is so important. They need to first accept that they have these HSP traits, and not feel like it is something to be fixed or changed. It is not a diagnosis or a negative thing, it is simply another part of what makes them a bit more rare. They can certainly learn how to balance these feelings and responses, without feeling constantly drained by them. The INTJ can learn which environments aren’t right for them and which situations leave them feeling like they need to escape. Sometimes it is best to avoid those surroundings, especially when they don’t have any real reason to be there. Setting boundaries is something the INTJ is often good at, they simply need to take the time to figure out what their own personal boundaries need to be. They can analyze these different environments and learn where they need to draw the line with people and themselves.