Written By Kirsten Moodie
How Each Personality Type Can Bounce Back From Defeat
It can be hard for anyone when something knocks us down- but there are always ways to get back up again. It may not be easy, but nothing worthwhile ever is. There is nothing more rewarding than becoming successful after you have hit bottom, it just takes a little push in the right direction. Here is how each personality type can bounce back from defeat.
INFJs can often set standards for themselves that are impossibly high, and can only lead to disappointment. They are their own worst critic, and judge themselves far harsher than they would ever imagine to judge someone else. This can lead the INFJ to hit a sort of rock bottom, or find themselves in a rather miserable slump. If the INFJ feels like they are at a real low point, it is important for them to gain some proper perspective. They need to stop isolating themselves, and take a real look around. Sometimes just realizing how hard they try, and taking notice of their own strengths, is a great way for the INFJ to move forward. It also helps if the INFJ can seek refuge in a friend, especially if that someone sees them for who they are. Just having someone who can highlight their talents, will help the INFJ accept those qualities in themselves as well. Another important step when the INFJ has been knocked down, is simply to take action. Instead of allowing themselves to isolate and disconnect, the INFJ needs to reconnect to those things that fuel their passion. Remembering back to hobbies, or events that made them feel excited and proud, can really help the INFJ get back to that place.
ENFJs are very focused on the needs of others, but what happens when they cannot hold it all together forever? When the ENFJ feels defeated, they often try to ignore their own emotions for a long time. Eventually though, these feelings force their way to the surface. It is most important for the ENFJ to simply take action, no matter what that action is. After they have experienced a period of rest, the ENFJ needs to force themselves to move forward. Once they begin a task, they are likely to find themselves getting back into their normal rhythm. ENFJs are naturally good at picking themselves up after they experience a defeat, since they are constantly moving forward anyways. Their goal oriented nature, makes the ENFJs one of the least likely types to give up on themselves or others.
INFPs are sensitive souls, but often have a way of keeping themselves carrying on even through the toughest challenges. They might appear weak to others, because of their warmth and sensitivity- but INFPs are actually rather strong people. When they are knocked down, they often need to take time to process the situation. If the INFP attempts to neglect or ignore their feelings, they will likely become overwhelmed by them later. Once they can sort through everything going on with them, they simply need to take action. Remembering the things that comforted them and made them happy, is a great way to begin building towards that again. If they simply recall the last thing that brought them great joy, the INFP can focus on diving into a similar hobby that inspires them.
ENFPs are constantly pushing forward and trying new things. They are rather passionate individuals- but this can sometimes cause them to get knocked down. ENFPs feel things so very deeply, and have an immense capacity for emotions. This natural connection to their feelings, can sometimes cause the ENFP to get hurt rather easily. Being vulnerable and getting hurt, can be an extremely painful experience for anyone. In order to pull out of their feelings of defeat, the ENFP needs to focus on the people that they care about. Instead of reverting to destructive behavior, they need to connect with their people they care about. Surroundings themselves with loved ones and doing the things they love together, can really help the ENFP remember what matters to them.
INTJs can become beaten down if they feel like they are not living up to their own expectations. They try very hard to keep themselves educated, and do not want to walk into any situation blind or unaware. INTJs can set themselves up for failure because of this desire to get everything right in their lives. When they are feeling beaten down, it is important for the INTJ to try something new. Sometimes breaking out of their norm, can really help them to get back on a positive track. Trying to explore new avenues can open up the INTJs mind to everything the world has to offer them. It is especially helpful if the INTJ can use their knowledge to educate someone else, and help them figure out a problem that needs to be resolved. This can help them to regain their confidence, which is extremely important in moving forward and bouncing back.
ENTJs are constantly pushing themselves forward and working hard in order to accomplish their goals. This drive can sometimes cause the ENTJ to feel rather defeated when they fail at something big. They put a lot of thought and planning into their tasks and most of the time they will reign supreme. When they do fail however, the ENTJ might become a bit disillusioned. It is important for the ENTJ to recognize their emotions, instead of attempting to bury them. Once they can acknowledge what they are feeling, the ENTJ can work towards moving on and pushing forward. They might need to try something new, in order to explore some different possibilities. This can help the ENTJ find a new path, which will lead them to even greater things.
When an INTP feels defeated, they will often retreat and begin to seclude themselves from others. They are extremely hard on themselves, and will take their failure much worse than anyone else would. It is likely that the INTP will be their own worst critic, and might assume that others feel the same way towards them. They expect a lot from themselves and apply pressure internally to become successful. It is important for the INTP to accept their failures, and accept the emotions they are likely feeling because of it. If they attempt to bury these emotions, it can make the situation even worse. Overanalyzing is something that can force the INTP inward even more, so it is important that they just accept the failure for what it is, and move forward. Once they have accepted the situation, the INTP needs to find something else to occupy their time and their thoughts. Trying something new is a great solution for the INTP, and will likely help them bounce back from their defeat.
ENTPs can sometimes feel defeated, especially when they have tried so many different avenues but haven’t found one to stick to. This bouncing around, can actually pull the ENTP down if they do not find something the commit to. They enjoy being able to explore, and being stifled certainly won’t help them move forward. If the ENTP feels like they have failed, or are feeling a bit defeated, it can really help to be around the people who care for them. Feeling comforted by their loved ones, can actually be really beneficial for them. This is especially good, if the people close to the ENTP will support them and not try to hold them back in any way. Being allowed to explore something they are passionate about, can really help the ENTP gain perspective.
ISTJs are constantly finding ways to keep motivated, and are actually very good at pushing themselves forward. If the ISTJ does feel defeated however, it is important for them to gain some perspective. They need to remember what has driven them this far in the first place, and take time to recognize their efforts and hard work. The ISTJ also needs to connect with their loved ones, even if it is just one special person who matter most to them. They are often focused on succeeding, in order to please the people around them and provide for their practical needs. The ISTJ needs to take some time for themselves, before bouncing back from their defeat. If they can find a place where they are appreciated, the ISTJ will do very well. Sometimes it is best for them to try a path that is slightly different from the one they were on, in order to escape their previous failure.
One of the best ways for an ESTJ to bounce back from their defeat, is by finding people who appreciate them. Sometimes they will feel secluded from their community, and that is definitely going to make things worse. The ESTJ needs to reconnect with their sense of community, and find people around them who understand them. If they can relate to others will similar goals as them, they will definitely begin to feel motivated once again. An ESTJ who feels appreciated for their hard work, is going to feel eager to bounce back from their failure.
ISFJs are hardworking people, and will often find ways to push forward even when they feel overwhelmed. If the ISFJ does feel defeated, they will often retreat inward and attempt to ignore those negative emotions. This can cause the ISFJ to remain stagnant, which often means they need to explore something that they have forgotten or left behind. Remembering a hobby or event that made the ISFJ feel passionate and happy, and diving back into that, can really help them to feel motivated once again. It also helps the ISFJ to spend time with family and loved ones, since this brings back positive memories as well.
ESFJs often become defeated if they feel like they are failing their loved ones. They want to feel loved and appreciated, and this expectation can make it difficult for them sometimes. When the ESFJ feels defeated, they need to find something that makes them feel confident in themselves. Whether this is a hobby, a job, or any kind of task that helps them realize their strengths. The ESFJ needs to connect with themselves, and remember what makes them entirely worth loving. Once they feel confident, the ESFJ can reconnect with their loved ones and will do best to find people who are supportive and who appreciate them.
ISTPs are often rather laid-back individuals, and have an acceptance that life cannot be perfect. They usually realize that failure is a part of life, but that doesn’t make it any easier to endure. ISTPs often need to spend some time alone, in order to process their negative emotions. If they attempt to ignore what is going on, it will only make things worse. Once the ISTP can process what they are feeling, it will ultimately help them to move forward. They will do best to take some time to explore the possibilities around them, and to find new and exciting avenues to dive into. Trying new things is a great way for the ISTP to overcome whatever defeat they have encountered.
ESTPs work very hard to maintain their lifestyle, but when they experience defeat it can hit them rather hard. They might need some time to process what is going on, and may even require a night or two out on the town. Once the ESTP has blown off some steam, they need to push themselves to solve the problem at hand. Even if they feel like they have been defeated in some way, the ESTP often knows that there is a solution to their problem if they look close enough. Once the ESTP finds a way out of their current mess, they will feel like themselves once again.
ISFPs can often feel defeated, especially if the world around them begins to seem like a dark place. ISFPs care very much about their loved ones, and the feelings of others. They want to make the right choices, and sometimes this pressure can weigh very hard on them. In order for the ISFP to bounce back when they feel defeated, it is important for them to surround themselves with positive energy and loving friends. Being around a positive environment will really affect their state of mind, and help them to move forward.
ESFPs can feel defeated if all of their efforts and simply not making any progress. When they feel overcome with negativity, the ESFP needs to be surrounded by loved ones. Making plans for the future, and focusing on happier times, is a great way for the ESFP to bounce back from their defeat. They rarely will succeed in this alone, and truly need to feel loved and supported by family and friends in order to move forward.