Written By Kirsten Moodie
Here’s How Much Each Personality Type Complains
Some people never seem to complain, while others feel the need to constantly vent their frustrations. Here is how much each personality type complains.
INFJs are the type of people who rarely complain to strangers or people they are not close to. They will likely suck it up and go through their day with a guarded smile on their face, even if something is bothering them. When the INFJ trusts and cares for someone deeply, they become an entirely different person. They will feel comfortable enough with that person to vent about their troubles, and won’t be so afraid to complain. They may get a little nervous on occasion though, and become fearful that their complaints will upset their loved ones. INFJs don’t enjoy being negative, but they can become bothered by the injustices in the world around them.
ENFJs are often seen as forward moving and positive people, which makes them appear less like complainers. They prefer to focus on getting things done, and rarely have time to sit still. The fact that ENFJs are always pushing themselves, often leaves little room for complaining. They also dislike being seen as negative, and do not want their complaints to make them appear weak in anyway. Because of the ENFJs desire to be strong and capable, they will often avoid complaining to others. They sometimes have a special person in their lives who they trust enough to share their complaints with, but this is very rare for the ENFJ.
INFPs are very introverted people, which often means they keep their feelings to themselves. When it comes to people the INFP does not feel extremely close to, they will likely be quiet and reserved. When the INFP trusts and cares for someone, they are much more open expressing themselves to them. The INFP feels things very deeply, which often means they need to vent about these feelings. When an INFP cares for someone they often want to share every part of themselves with that individual. They will likely feel the need to complain about their troubles, but they also want to hear what that person has to say.
ENFPs definitely do not like to complain about things, and prefer to remain positive. They can become rather upset if they are around negative people for too long. When someone is complaining constantly the ENFP become frustrated and often wants to get away from that person. ENFPs prefer to look on the Brightside of things, even when they are feeling down. Of course they do have times where they need to complain or vent about something, this is only when something serious is bothering them. ENFPs simply dislike too much negative and often feel like it does not help them move forward.
INTJs do not mind complaining about certain things, especially when they are feeling frustrated. When the INTJ trusts and enjoys someone as a person, they will feel more at ease expressing themselves with that individual. They will likely complain to them in a more sarcastic and witty manner, as a means to vent and get out of their frustrations. They likely won’t be complaining a whiny way, but more in an amusing and funny tone. INTJs do not like to complain to certain people, since they feel far too exposed by doing this. In most cases they prefer to keep these things to themselves, especially since it serves no productive purpose.
ENTJs definitely do not like to be seen complaining, since it may be seen as a sign of weakness. ENTJs prefer to focus on getting things done and absolutely hate being stagnant. If the ENTJ is angry about something, they do not express themselves in a whiny way, but in a more serious and direct tone. They do not enjoy complaining simply for the sake of venting, and will only do so if they feel it will help change someone’s actions. ENTJs are more focused on action, and will rarely complain to people they do not know well. If the ENTJ truly trusts someone they might feel more comfortable opening up to them.
INTPs can sometimes complain about things that frustrate them, without even realizing they are doing it. They will often complain in a well thought out and logical manner, which can easily be disguised as a debate. INTPs become frustrated with people and their stupidity rather easily, and often feel overwhelmed by an inability to change certain things. Because of this the INTP often needs to be able to vent about their frustrations, and do best when they have someone who is willing to listen to them. Having someone who is open to listening to their complaints is truly a wonderful feeling for the INTP, since they realize that most people are not great listeners.
ENTPs often dislike feeling like they are complaining too much, and will try to avoid this. They prefer to focus on the possibilities around them, and dislike being too negative. ENTPs will occasionally complain to someone they trust, but might find themselves pulling back if they complain too much. They do not want to burden others with their negative thoughts, and often want to appear like they are perfectly fine. ENTPs dislike being seen as weak by others, which can sometimes force them to push through their frustrations. ENTPs are excellent at masking their troubles with humor, and will often use this as a way to complain or vent.
ISTJs definitely dislike complaining too much, simply because they keep most things to themselves. They can have a somewhat cynical personality at times, and might use humor as a way to vent about things. ISTJs have moments where their sarcasm comes out immensely, and this is often their way of complaining to others, but in a more guarded way. It helps them vent without people taking it too seriously, since ISTJs often are capable of handling things themselves. They do not want people to dote on them, which is why they don’t want to outwardly complain.
ESTJs certainly don’t mind complaining about things that upset them, and will often do so openly. When the ESTJ is upset about something, other people will hear about it. If they keep these things bottled up for too long, then they will become extremely anxious and on edge. ESTJs do best when they are free to complain about the things that anger them. This helps the ESTJ vent and feel much more comfortable moving forward after something frustrating happens to them. They do not want to be viewed as complainers though, and simply want to have people to talk to when they are frustrated.
ISFJs are the quiet complainers, and will not do so in a big or obnoxious way. They will often hint at the things that are bothering them, in hopes that people will take notice. The ISFJ does not want to shove things done other people’s throats, so they often take things in stride. When the ISFJ has something that is getting on their nerves, they will likely find a “subtle” way to express this to them. They want to be able to let change things, without having to force someone.
ESFJs don’t mind complaining when they are feeling frustrated or overwhelmed. They rarely complain to people they don’t trust, and might feel like they are overwhelming them. They do not want to complain to people especially if they believe they are simply going to be a burden on them. ESFJs often want to appear strong and like they are in complete control of their lives. Complaining can often be perceived as a weakness, which makes them avoidant of this. When the ESFJ trusts someone though, they will often feel at ease venting their troubles to them. This often causes the ESFJ to complain more often than they realize, simply because they feel comfortable.
ISTPs like to complain in a more sarcastic way, and enjoy using humor as a way to deflect. They rarely feel the need to openly complain, and might believe it is a waste of energy. ISTPs prefer to focus on the things that they enjoy, rather than focusing on the negative things in life. They prefer to live in the present instead of dwelling on the past, which causes them to complain much less. ISTPs are often seen as more laid back individuals, because they do not let themselves become stressed for no reason.
ESTPs do not mind complaining, but they do it in a more lighthearted way. They will often use humor as a way to vent about what is frustrating them. ESTPs do not want to be seen as weak, and will often make themselves appear more put together than they actually are. In many cases they will only complain in a joking manner, except for with their close loved ones. If the ESTP trusts someone they will complain to them much more, and will vent about what is bothering them.
ISFPs do not like to complain, but can sometimes have a hard time keeping their feelings to themselves. If the ISFP has something that is bothering them, they will not find it easy to just bottle that up. They are open people, who have a depth of emotion inside of them. ISFPs become extremely upset when they see injustices in the world around them, and often feel a need to express this to other people. They are not whiny people, but they often have a hard time keeping their complaints quiet.
ESFPs are often seen as positive people, who dislike being dragged down by too much negativity. ESFPs do however, feel the need to complain and vent about their troubles. They do not have the ability to bottle up their emotions, and often need to express them to others. ESFPs are simply very open people, and do best when they can be honest and express themselves. They will often complain about something that is bothering them, and only want their loved ones to understand and be compassionate towards them.