Written By Kirsten Moodie
Here’s How You Handle Suppressed Emotions, Based on Your Personality Type
While some people dislike expressing their emotions, it is necessary for everyone sometimes. Here is how you handle your own suppressed emotions, based on your personality type.
INFJs can sometimes suppress their emotions, since they don’t want to burden anyone with their feelings. When they do hold things back for a long time it can leave them feeling both stagnant and unhappy. INFJs need someone in their lives who they can express their feelings to, in order to get them out and actually feel heard. They don’t necessarily need those emotions to be solved in some way, but really just need to know that someone is listening and actually understands where they are coming from.
ENFJs will often suppress their own emotions to avoid becoming a burden to others. They don’t want to upset people so they often hold back how they are feeling. ENFJs are naturally focused on the emotions of others and find it much easier to understand them. When they suppress their emotions for too long the ENFJ can become frustrated and a bit on edge. They might find themselves feeling overextended and unappreciated by their loved ones. They may begin to snap a bit, when they would normally be calm and understanding.
INFPs don’t handle suppressing their emotions well and really need to be able to express themselves. They become stressed when they are forced to hold things in by others, and feel extremely stifled. They do best when they are around people who support them and are willing to listen to their thoughts and feelings. INFPs can really struggle when they are forced to pretend they aren’t upset by something, and will slowly begin to lose connection with who they are. When this happens the INFP might become rather secluded and feel the need to avoid people altogether.
ENFPs definitely need to feel free to express their emotions, and become frustrated if they are stifled. If they feel neglected or ignored it can start to bother them immensely. ENFPs need to feel free to be themselves without receiving judgement from the people close to them. It is important for the ENFP to have people who will support them and listen to them when they are upset. If they are stifled the ENFP will begin to grow depressed and will feel secluded.
INTJs will naturally suppress their emotions and are much more interested in focusing on facts. They don’t want to allow feelings to get in the way or cloud their judgement in any way. For INTJs it is important to focus on the task at hand, and suppressing emotions often comes naturally for them. INTJs will become more frustrated when someone attempt to force them into expressing themselves. If they do suppress something for too long it can begin to find a way of expressing itself without much control. The INTJ will likely have small emotional outbursts, expressing their frustrations in ways they normally would not.
ENTJs naturally suppress their emotions, since they prefer to focus on facts and logic. They don’t want their feelings to cloud their judgment and hold them back from doing what they need to do. For ENTJs it is can be rather awkward to express themselves, and they feel a bit uncomfortable with this. While ENTJs would rather keep their feelings to themselves, there are times when they might suppress them for far too long. When this occurs they might have emotional outbursts, where they can no longer contain the things they are upset about.
INTPs find themselves suppressing their emotions often, and dislike feeling too vulnerable. They become uneasy when they have to express themselves, and feel much more comfortable keeping things to themselves. INTPs focus on logic and facts, and prefer to approach things from a level-headed perspective. While INTPs don’t enjoy expressing their emotions, they do possess rather deep feelings. When they find themselves suppressing something for too long, it can find a way to creeping to the surface. When they become overwhelmed the INTP might react in a way even they dislike, and will have outbursts of emotion.
ENTPs do often suppress their emotions, since they prefer to focus on logic and facts. While they use their head more than their heart, ENTPs do realize that it is important to express themselves with more serious things. They might find ways to subtly expressing their emotions, by using humor or sarcasm. For ENTPs it is important to find someone they can trust to discuss their feelings with, when they believe it is most important.
ISTJs can often suppress their emotions, and aren’t naturally in tune with them. They find it easier to focus on practical matters and strive to get things done efficiently. When the ISTJ has something that is bothering them they can often bottle this up for a long time without really noticing. When they suppress something for too long though, it can start to bother them internally. The ISTJ will find themselves on edge and a bit grumpy towards their loved ones. They need someone who can help them express what they are feeling without putting pressure on them.
ESTJs naturally suppress their emotions and find it much easier than having to connect with what they are feeling. ESTJs focus on more practical things and work hard to get things done efficiently. They don’t enjoy having to focus on feelings and can become uncomfortable with them. When the ESTJ is upset about something they will likely try to bury it for a long time. Eventually this will start to eat away at them, and they might find themselves having emotional outburst when they least expect it.
ISFJs are somewhat reserved people who like to keep their feelings private most of the time. They do best when they have someone special they can trust to open up to, without feeling like a burden. They don’t want their own emotions to upset others or get in the way of the people they love. So ISFJs often suppress these feelings so they can avoid hurting someone else. After a while though it can become upsetting and they try to find someone who appreciates and understands them.
ESFJs don’t want to feel like a burden to others, so they can often suppress their own emotions. They will try and avoid disrupting the harmony and will bury their feelings for the sake of everyone else. After a while though this will begin to bother the ESFJ immensely, and will leave them feeling unappreciated and unloved. They will find themselves feeling short-tempered and they might start to snap at the people they are normally patient with.
ISTPs naturally suppress their own emotions and aren’t very focused on their feelings. They prefer to focus on logic and accuracy and dislike letting feelings cloud their judgement. While ISTPs may not be comfortable with emotions, they do possess them like anyone else. When they bury their feelings for too long and can cause them to feel a bit anxious and grumpy towards others. They need to find a way to accept their feelings without becoming bogged down by them.
ESTPs will likely try to bury their emotions so they don’t have to deal with them. After a while though, this will start to cause them anxiety and stress. The ESTP will begin to have emotional outbursts, and will find themselves feeling overly emotional during these times. It is important for them to have a loved one they can talk to without feeling like a burden. ESTPs try to remain strong and prefer to focus on logic and facts, but at times they need to express their feelings or else they become stagnant.
ISFPs definitely need to feel free to express their emotions, and will become frustrated if they cannot. They need someone in their life who they trust and can fully be themselves with. ISFPs need to be able to express themselves and let their feelings out openly. When their loved ones do not support them and try to stifle their emotions, the ISFP will become depressed and stagnant.
ESFPs definitely don’t handle suppressed emotions well, and truly need to feel free to express themselves. They become overwhelmed if they aren’t allowed to open up, and need to feel free to express themselves. For ESFPs it is important to let their feelings out, and will become rather depressed if their loved ones cannot accept this. The ESFP who has suppressed their emotions for too long will become emotional and short-tempered with everyone.