Written By Kirsten Moodie
The Things Exhaust Each Personality Type the Most
The world can be a rather exhausting place- but we are all drained by different things in life. Here is what exhausts each personality type the most.
INFJs become exhausted by too much social interaction, and will quickly need time to themselves. If they are forced to be around loud or overbearing people, the INFJ will become quickly drained. They also struggle to be around people who try to force their own beliefs upon others. INFJs prefer to live their lives on their own terms, and also feel like other people should be allowed this freedom. People who are demanding or pushy, are extremely frustrating to the INFJ. They are especially exhausted by people who love to participate in small-talk- since this is one of the worst and most exhausting things for an INFJ. They hate pointless chatter, and would much rather enjoy the silence. If someone has an interesting and truly meaningful topic to discuss, the INFJ will likely enjoy this type of conversation very much. One of the most exhausting things for INFJs is actually people- even though they are caring and giving individuals. They will likely become energized by the presence of someone they love, especially if that person gives them space to be themselves. INFJs simply cannot be around individuals who are needy and demanding- especially if those people feel the need to blabber about pointless subjects. INFJs also become exhausted if their powerful intuition is telling them something, but other people refuse to accept it. Knowing that they can make a difference, but not being allowed to do so- is a terribly draining thing for INFJs.
Although ENFJs are naturally social people, they still need time for themselves. ENFJs have a tendency to give too much to others- without ever taking time to focus on their own needs. If they go a long time with needy or demanding people in their lives, this can actually exhaust the energy of the ENFJ. They need to feel appreciated for all that they do, and cannot be around too many people who simply continue to ask more from them. They enjoy helping others, but they also need to be valued for their tireless efforts. ENFJs need time to relax and unwind with their loved ones, without feeling pressured to get things done. If they don’t get some time for themselves, they will become overly exhausted. ENFJs care about their relationships, and will become overwhelmed and exhausted if they feel like they aren’t living up to other people’s standards. If their loved ones are disappointed in them, it will become extremely exhausting for the ENFJ. They need to feel connected to the people they care for, and losing that connection is seriously detrimental to them.
INFPs are introverts, which means that they need plenty of time by themselves to recharge their batteries. If they are forced into large social-gatherings for a long period of time- the INFP will feel increasingly miserable. This interaction is very draining for the INFP, and will make them feel like retreating rather quickly into their shell. They also struggle at many parties, because the conversations are usually shallow and pointless. INFPs despise small-talk, and prefer to discuss sincere and meaningful things. If the INFP is allowed to tap into a deeper conversation with someone, it will keep them going much longer before they become drained. INFPs rarely pay attention to truly superficial conversations, and might find themselves tapping into their own inner thoughts- daydreaming and drifting somewhere else. INFPs also become exhausted by people who are pushy or mean. They have rather valuable inner morals, and dislike seeing people who are rude or inconsiderate. To the INFP there is nothing worse than being cruel to others, and they will quickly become angry and exhausted by people like this.
ENFPs are exhausted by schedules, especially if they are forced to follow a very strict routine. They prefer to explore new ideas, and hate having the possibilities blocked off from them. ENFPs want to make life exciting and passionate, and hate having to be shoved into a box. If they cannot explore and grow, the ENFP will become exhausted and unhappy. They need to options to be open to them, so that they can decide in the moment what they truly want to do. ENFPs also become exhausted by too much negativity, and will be miserable around people who are constantly bringing them down. They want to focus on the positives in life, in order to truly keep moving forward with a good attitude. ENFPs will struggle with people who are constantly making comments that upset them or make them feel bad about themselves. They need people who can inspire them and ignite their passions- not bring them down.
People who are loud or self-obsessed, are quickly going to drain the INTJs energy reserve. They cannot stand people who try to force attention onto themselves, and will feel like this is extremely fake. They also struggle around willfully ignorant people, and prefer individuals with an open mind. They understand that most people are going to be ignorant about certain things, and will be forgiving towards people who are eager and willing to learn what they do not know. INTJs need a lot of alone time in order to process their thoughts and the information that they gather- if they are not allowed this time to themselves they will become extremely exhausted. INTJs will often find ways to get away from people though, and are not afraid to demand the alone time that they so desperately need. They enjoy having thoughtful and interesting discussions with people, but will despise small-talk. If someone is blabbing about a pointless or self-involved topic- the INTJ will likely find a way to shut them down rather quickly.
ENTJs will become exhausted by too much emotional sharing. They are often very caring people, but simply cannot focus on feelings for too long. If someone is overly emotional around the ENTJ, they will become frustrated and exhausted by this. They simply feel like their energy could be spent doing something much more productive, and will become increasingly uncomfortable by long emotional conversations. ENTJs need to communicate emotions in short bursts, and will need a break from this rather quickly. If someone is demanding that the ENTJ open up, it will become exhausted and upsetting for them. ENTJs also become exhausted by inefficiency, and will be frustrated by people who cannot seem to get things done properly. They know the best way to get the job done, and want others to follow this instruction without failure.
INTPs are often caring individuals, with a very intense depth of emotions inside of them. They do feel things very deeply, but they also struggle to express this side of themselves. If the INTP is forced to focus on their own emotions for a long period of time, they will become extremely exhausted. They enjoy growth, and want to be capable of becoming a better version of themselves. They simply cannot take emotional focus for too long, without becoming drained. If someone is constantly trying to force emotions out of the INTP, it will be hard for them to cope with. They need time in order to grow this side of themselves, and do not need someone trying to force them into it. INTPs require patience in order to be successful, and will become drained by people who put a lot of pressure on them. They need plenty of time by themselves in order to process their thoughts and emotions- and will become exhausted if they cannot get this time to themselves. INTPs have rich inner minds, and they need to be able to feed their thoughts with plenty of new ideas. Having people around them who constantly shut down the exploration of their ideas, is going to exhaust the INTP immensely.
ENTPs become emotionally and mentally drained by strict schedules being forced upon them. They require plenty of space to explore new ideas and possibilities. If the ENTP is in a situation where they cannot break the rules or be spontaneous, they will become miserable and exhausted. They need the opportunity to try new things, and have the freedom to make their own decisions. Being held down or stifled by someone, is one of the worst possible things for the ENTP. Not being allowed to voice their opinions for fear that it will upset people, is absolutely horrible for an ENTP. They need people who fuel their passions and are willing to debate different topics with them. Without this the ENTP will become quickly drained, and will likely need a break from these people. They also also struggle when it comes to emotionally manipulative people, and will become drained by this constant battle. They need people in their lives who are sincere and upfront about things.
ISTJs enjoy being able to entertain and keep their loved ones happy- but they will become drained if they have to do this for a long period of time. Hosting a family gathering that goes on for a while, can become exhausting for the ISTJ. They want to be polite and appropriate, and will often force themselves to keep entertaining. They will likely hit a wall though, and will need to retreat back to their own private space in order to recharge. High expectations placed upon the ISTJ can actually be rather exhausting for them. They are already have rather high standards for themselves, so having other people apply too much pressure on them can be even worse for the ISTJ. They can also become rather exhausted by too many emotional conversations, especially if they have a loved one who is upset. They want to be able to provide for others, but they prefer to do this in a practical way. Emotions can be hard to assist with, and this is often frustrating for ISTJs.
If their loved ones are being overly emotional, this can become extremely exhausting for the ESTJ. They want to provide for the people in their lives, but simply do not know how to assist with an emotional crisis. They will often attempt to problem solve and find a way to fix the situation, but if they cannot do this they will become upset and exhausted. If they are surrounded by people who are constantly emotional or upset, it will become extremely draining for the ESTJ. They also become exhausted by inefficiency, and prefer to have things done the right way. If they are have people in their lives who are messy or lazy, it will be extremely miserable and exhausting for the ESTJ.
ISFJs care very deeply for their loved ones, and because of this they often push themselves too hard. They will become exhausted by social gatherings that go on for too long, since they are actually introverted individuals. ISFJs require time to themselves in order to recharge and become energized once again. If they are forced into a situation where they have to entertain for a long time, the ISFJ will become exhausted and will need to focus on relaxing for a while after the event is over. They want to please their loved ones, and will often push themselves to socialize longer than they truly should. ISFJs can also become drained if they are forced to break from routine for too long. They prefer living by a schedule and become exhausted if they have to try too many new things at once.
ESFJs become drained if they are around emotionally demanding individuals. They are constantly focused on helping their loved ones, and truly want to make them as happy as possible. If the people in their lives are demanding too much from them, without showing any appreciation, the ESFJ will become rather miserable. They will often push themselves extremely hard in order to make their loved ones happy, and this alone can cause the ESFJ to become exhausted. If their loved ones are cold and do not express affection for the ESFJ, it will actually become rather draining for them. They need people who are willing to be open and who help to build them up. It is best for ESFJs to have giving people in their lives, since they are constantly giving to others. They can also become drained if the focus is on them for too long, and actually struggle to express their emotions for prolonged amounts of time.
ISTPs become exhausted by people, and often need plenty of time by themselves. If they are forced to engage in social situations for too long, it will become rather draining for the ISTP. If they are around people who are overly emotional and are constantly needing something from the ISTP, it will be exhausting for them. They also struggle around people who are loud or obnoxious and demand that the attention be focused on them. ISTPs prefer sincere and logical people, and dislike emotional or flighty individuals. This is why they often prefer to be by themselves, unless they can find someone who actually understands their need to be alone and do their own things.
ESTPs actually become emotionally and mentally exhausted if they are forced into seclusion for too long. They need people who are willing to go on adventures with them, and who are eager to explore. ESTPs want to make life fun, and hate being forced into strict schedules for too long. They have to be free to make their own decisions, and to explore the possibilities in the world around them. They enjoy being able to do this with other people, especially people they deem worthy. ESTPs need excitement in their lives, and become exhausted if they are forced into routine for too long. ESTPs do best if they are around people who ignite their passionate side and help them to explore new thrills.
ISFPs become exhausted by too many immoral people in their lives. They need to be around people who are open and sincere- and who don’t focus on the negatives in life. ISFPs also become quickly drained if they are forced into social gatherings for a long period of time. They enjoy people, but do not want to be involved in too many shallow or pointless conversations. After too much social interaction the ISFP needs to be able to retreat to their room. They need time to themselves in order to recharge and refresh their souls. ISFPs who are forced to be around other people for too long, will become exhausted. They don’t mind being around one special person though, and often have someone in their lives who helps them recharge and feel at ease.
ESFPs become quickly drained if they are forced into seclusion for too long. They need to be around other people in order to fully energize themselves. If they are ill or need to be confined to their room for a long time, the ESFP will become emotionally and mentally exhausted. They need to be able to interact with people, or else they will become rather unhappy. ESFPs thrive on the positive energy of others, and enjoy being around happy people. If the ESFP is around too many negative individuals for too long- it will be seriously exhausting for them. They need positivity and people who are excited for the future, in order to truly be themselves.