Written By Kirsten Moodie
How High Maintenance Each Personality Type Actually Is
Nobody wants to admit to being high maintenance, which makes it a somewhat touchy subject. There are moments though, when we simply want things done a certain way. Here is how high maintenance each personality type actually is.
INFJs can appear emotionally high maintenance to the people they love and trust. This is simply because they need to feel connected and understood by their loved ones. It is important for an INFJ to receive this feedback in order to assess their relationship and where it is going. They want long lasting relationships, whether they are friendships or romantic partners. INFJs want someone they can connect with who will be by their side no matter what. They do not want to invest their emotional energy and their heart into someone who is not in it for the long haul. INFJs are not high maintenance in the conventional sense of the word, but they do require emotional support and compassion from their relationships.
ENFJs can be somewhat high maintenance, but they prefer to maintain themselves. They have high standards that they set, but are always willing and ready to accomplish those goals. ENFJs want things done a certain way in order to please their loved one and are always eager to get the job done. They can be somewhat emotionally high maintenance, and want to feel supported and loved by the people closest to them. They won’t necessarily to be open about this need, since they do not put their own desires above others. It is important for the ENFJs loved ones to comfort them and show them appreciation without having to be asked for it.
INFPs often prefer to be on their own, which makes them appear much less high maintenance. They can sometimes alienate themselves from others, and prefer to rely on themselves for most of their needs. When the INFP finds someone special they can connect with though, they can be a bit emotionally high maintenance. They want that person to support them and show them compassion and warmth when needed. INFPs do not rely on other people for most things, but they do want to feel connected and loved by the person who is most important to them.
ENFPs can be somewhat high maintenance, but they might not like this side of themselves. They do not make demands on people, but truly enjoy having tings the way they like. They want to remain positive, which can sometimes be difficult when it comes to avoiding arguments. ENFPs enjoy being around their loved ones, and want to soak up all of their attention when they can. They enjoy feeling emotionally supported and validated by the people that are special to them. ENFPs also enjoy having their own space to do as they please, when they want alone and relaxation time. This can appear a bit high maintenance, since the ENFP will bounce from one whim to the next.
INTJs certainly like to have things done a certain way, but they prefer to do this themselves. They are not asking that someone else get the job done for them, which is essentially very independent of them. Their need to be accurate and do things in a detailed manner, can sometimes cause the INTJ to appear more high maintenance. They have simply spent plenty of time learning about what they like, and how they want things done. The INTJ doesn’t pretend for the sake of other people, because they want to be upfront and sincere. They do not place demands on people and have a “take it or leave it,” sort of attitude, which makes them less high maintenance than they appear.
ENTJs are not socially high maintenance people, and prefer to give their relationships room to breathe. They can appear somewhat high maintenance in a work environment, simply because they like to get things done. ENTJs often know how they want things to be done, and will not relax until it all comes together nicely. They have often spent plenty of time researching and learning about the best way to proceed with a task. This can cause them to appear somewhat high maintenance, since they certainly do know how they want things to be done. In many cases though, ENTJs are not high maintenance and enjoy being able to remain calm about things.
INTPs can be extremely precise individuals, which can cause them to appear high maintenance. They desire accuracy in their lives, and can sometimes bother people with this. INTPs do not demand a lot from their loved ones though, and require just a small amount of affection to feel satisfied. In most cases the INTP prefers to be alone, and are very independent people. Their desire to spend most of their time by themselves helps the INTP to avoid the title of high maintenance. They can handle most things without requesting help from others, but when they do ask for help it is certainly not in a high maintenance way.
ENTPs are rarely seen as high maintenance people, and have a much more go with the flow attitude. They like to take life as it comes at them, and will face most things head on. ENTPs do not demand much from their loved ones, and actually enjoy being independent. In most cases the ENTP just needs someone to spend time with them and partake in the occasional debate. They do desire precision in certain aspects of their lives, which can appear a bit high maintenance at times. In most cases though, the ENTP is seen as charismatic and easy to get along with.
ISTJs are very independent people, and prefer to get things done themselves. They do not like to place demands on their loved ones, but they do know how they want things. They can be somewhat particular about certain things around the house, and simply want people to respect that. This can appear a bit high maintenance, but ISTJs rarely express themselves in a way that is upsetting to others. They enjoy having their lives organized the way they like it, but are often capable of taking care of these things themselves.
ESTJs are not socially high maintenance people, and are often easy to get along with. They don’t need constant emotional reassurance from people, and will do just fine with the occasional displays of affection. They can be somewhat high maintenance when it comes to work situations though, and like to see things getting done properly. If the ESTJ sees that people are not being efficient at work, they can become a bit demanding. They don’t need to be particular, but want to see that their standards are being properly met.
ISFJs certainly like things done a certain way, especially when it comes to their home. They often take on all of the work in order to ensure that things look and feel the proper way. ISFJs will rarely be demanding though, and simply want their loved ones to feel happy and comfortable. They also enjoy plenty of alone time, but do desire emotional support. ISFJs can be somewhat emotionally high maintenance, but do not want to make this obvious to others. They would never dream of asking for appreciation, but they do need it regardless.
ESFJs can appear somewhat high maintenance, but they are perfectly capable of handling most things themselves. They often take on a handful of tasks in order to please everyone around them. They care very much for their loves ones, and are constantly focused on ensuring that everyone else’s needs are met. ESFJs actually desire a lot of emotional reassurance and connection from their loved ones, but will have a hard time asking for this. They can be a bit emotionally high maintenance, but will try very hard not to let this side of them show. It is important that their loved ones show them warmth and appreciation, in order to keep the ESFJ happy.
ISTPs are very low maintenance individuals, and actually prefer to be left alone most of the time. They are rather independent, and prefer to get things done by themselves. They do not ask much from others, simply that they respect their wishes and their space. ISTPs are rarely high maintenance in relationships, and do not need much affection in order to feel loved by their partner. Just knowing that that person cares and will support them, is more than enough for the ISTP to be completely satisfied.
ESTPs try not to be high maintenance, but can be somewhat emotionally needy when it comes to their loved ones. They are not high maintenance with acquaintances, and only become this way with the people who are extremely close to them. They need emotional reassurance to feel loved and appreciated, especially since they do so much for the people they love. ESTPs do enjoy going with the flow though, and will try to refrain from placing demands on other people.
ISFPs are not high maintenance people, and simply prefer to be on their own most of the time. They enjoy peace and quiet in their lives, without needing too much to keep them happy. They are often comfortable going with the flow, and don’t become upset when things don’t go their way. ISFPs do need emotional support from the people they love and trust though. They want to feel loved and comforted when things go wrong, but they will absolutely give this back in return.
ESFPs definitely like to have fun and go with the flow, but they can be a bit high maintenance. They often enjoy having things their way, and make specific demands about how they want things done. ESFPs do not mean to be this way, and will not deliver things harshly on purpose. They simply enjoy having things a certain way, in order to really soak up the present moment. ESFPs enjoy trying new food, but can be particular about how they want it served. They also enjoy going out and trying new events, but also want their loved ones to join them.