Written By Kirsten Moodie
Here’s How Smothering You Can Be, Based On Your Personality Type
While some people enjoy their own space, others can be a bit hovering towards their loved ones. Here is how smothering you can be, based on your personality type.
INFJs definitely don’t try to smother people, and want to have plenty of space themselves. They do want to feel connected to their loved ones, but this is often just based on an internal feeling. INFJs don’t need to constantly communicate with someone to feel that tight bond with them. They don’t like feeling smothered since they need plenty of time alone in order to recharge. When INFJ scare for someone though, they will make time especially for them and often enjoy their presence even when they are sitting in silence.
ENFJs don’t mean to be smothering people but they can often hover over their loved ones. They simply want to make people happy and are very focused on the needs of their loved ones. ENFJs really don’t want to feel like they are smothering their loved ones, but it can be difficult for them to take a step back. They work hard to tend to the needs of others and are very connected to their emotions. When someone they love is upset the ENFJ wants to do whatever they can to fix the problem and make them happy.
INFPs are definitely not smothering people, since they enjoy being on their own most of the time. INFPs actually enjoy having plenty of space to themselves, and need this in order to feel recharged. While INFPs do require time alone, they can require a lot of attention and affection when they are around their loved ones. They simply enjoy feeling close to them, and don’t want to feel any sense of emotional distance with the people they truly love. This can feel a bit smothering to people who aren’t extremely emotionally expressive and have a hard time with this closeness.
ENFPs are independent people who enjoy being able to make their own choices. They don’t want to be in a relationship that makes them feel smothered, and need to have space to do their own thing. ENFPs try not to be smothering people, since they don’t enjoy that in return. There are times when they can be a bit pushy with their loved ones, since they do enjoy having plenty of affection and attention. ENFPs have moments of being smothering but in most situations they try to give space.
INTJs are not smothering people, since they enjoy having plenty of space to themselves. They don’t feel the need to smother their loved ones, and enjoy being around people who have a strong sense of independence. For INTJs it is important to be self-sufficient and they don’t want to feel like they are having to hover over their loved ones. INTJs can be a bit distant if anything, since they enjoy being on their own most of the time.
ENTJs are definitely not the type of people to smother others, since they enjoy being independent. They don’t feel the need to constantly hover over people and would rather give plenty of space. ENTJs are often busy people who need time to themselves to focus on their goals and get things done. They do want to feel close to their loved ones and don’t mind helping them out with certain things. While ENTJs enjoy being close to people, they also don’t need to smother them in order to feel connected.
INTPs are not the type to smother people, since they enjoy being alone most of the time. They don’t feel the need to constantly communicate with people in order to feel close to them. INTPs enjoy being able to connect with their loved ones, but they also require plenty of time by themselves. INTPs don’t enjoy feeling smothered by others, which is often why they try to give plenty of space. They can sometimes be a bit possessive, but somehow they do this in a more passive way which isn’t viewed as smothering.
ENTPs are naturally independent people who don’t want to smother their loved ones. They enjoy having space and room to do their own thing, without feeling controlled by others. ENTPs also don’t want to be a burden or be someone who smothers their loved ones in any way. They enjoy being around people who are independent and can take care of themselves without constantly needing help. ENTPs know how to give proper space, and feel like it is important to have their own lives.
ISTJs definitely don’t want to smother their loved ones, and enjoy having plenty of time to themselves. While ISTJs are independent people there are moments when they witness their loved ones are in need. If they are help them out in a practical way the ISTJ will likely try to fix the problem without being asked. This can sometimes feel like smothering, but in truth it is just the ISTJ trying to make sure things are getting done properly for the people they love.
ESTJs aren’t intentionally smothering people but they do have a hard time letting things slide without sticking their nose in. They simply believe in doing things efficiently and sometimes this requires their own efforts. ESTJs can witness their loved ones struggling and even if those people don’t want their help, the ESTJ will have to jump in and fix the problem. They know how to get things done efficiently and can become frustrated when others can’t seem to perform tasks the right way.
ISFJs don’t mean to smother but they do sometimes have a hard time keeping their distance. When the ISFJ cares for someone they want to do whatever they can to take care of them. They can struggle to hold themselves back when they witness a loved one is in need. The ISFJ will work hard to tend to the needs of others and will often go above and beyond to take care of them. It can be rather difficult for them to give proper space, especially when someone they care for is struggling.
ESFJs hate the idea of being smothering, yet sometimes they can be just that. They simply want to take care of their loved ones and work hard to try and make them happy. ESFJs care deeply for others and hate seeing them unhappy in any way. They will go above and beyond to make sure the people in their lives are happy and properly taken care of. ESFJs also care about the feelings of their loved ones, and will try to find ways to support and care for them. This can feel smothering sometimes, especially for people who want their own space.
ISTPs are not smothering people, and actually enjoy being on their own most of the time. They are highly unlikely to smother their loved ones, and enjoy being around independent people. ISTPs believe in having their own space to do whatever they please without feeling obligated to someone else. While ISTPs care about their loved ones, they don’t feel the need to smother them with attention all of the time.
ESTPs are independent people who don’t like to be smothered, but at the same time they can be a bit hovering towards their loved ones. When ESTPs truly like someone they want to receive attention from that person when they request it. ESTPs can be a bit possessive towards the people they truly care for, and dislike feeling ignored by them.
ISFPs can be a bit reserved at times and enjoy being on their own. They enjoy having plenty of space, but at the same time they want to feel loved by those closest to them. ISFPs can sometimes be smothering when they feel as though they are being ignored. If they feel as though someone important to them is avoiding their affection, the IFSP might start to seem a bit smothering. Most of the time though, they enjoy having their space and time to themselves.
While ESFPs are independent people they do have a tendency to smother their favorite people. ESFPs dislike feeling ignored and want to receive affection from the people they love. They will sometimes smother people, especially if they feel like they aren’t getting enough attention. ESFPs enjoy being around people, and dislike being on their own too often. They don’t really care if they seem smothering, since ESFPs do a lot for the people they love.