Written By Kirsten Moodie
Here’s How Important Venting is to You, Based on Your Personality Type
When we become frustrated sometimes we just need to vent about what is bothering us. Venting can help release those emotions and allow us to move forward. Here is how important venting is to you, based on your personality type.
INFJs aren’t the types to want to vent outwardly about their feelings to most people. They can be very internal when it comes to their emotions, especially their frustrations. While they might hesitate to express these feelings for many reasons, one of them is simply because they do not want to become a burden. INFJs do struggle to feel safe venting to others, but at the same time bottling up their frustrations can cause them to feel a bit miserable after a while. The INFJ simply needs someone they can trust and feel completely at ease sharing and opening up to.
ENFJs definitely need to vent and sometimes this happens naturally without them actively trying to. They spend so much energy caring for others that sometimes they become drained and easily exhausted. When the ENFJ has so many things on their mind at once, they often need to vent to someone close to them. They don’t do this to be cruel or gossip, they simply need to let out these frustrations in order to get back to normal again. ENFJs do work hard for others and sometimes they just need a little appreciation, and some time to focus on themselves.
INFPs can actually have a hard time expressing their feelings outwardly, and will keep them inside. When they are frustrated about something the INFP needs to take time by themselves to process their emotions and think things through them. They need this time alone more than they do time with others, and require space to truly dive into their own feelings. Eventually the INFP might want to express their frustrations to someone they trust, but only to someone they can sincerely rely on to understand and show compassion.
ENFPs often need time alone to process their emotions and think through what they are really feeling. If someone attempts to force the ENFP to express themselves before they have really had time to dive into their thoughts, it can cause them more frustration. ENFPs want to express themselves on their own terms, and only when they feel comfortable doing so. Sometimes it can be better for them to discuss things over text, since they have time to really think things through. Once the ENFP does feel comfortable and safe venting to someone, it can be a great release.
INTJs aren’t really fans of venting to others, and keep their feelings very much internalized. They can sometimes struggle to recognize their own emotions, and don’t really enjoy having to express them to others. If someone probes the INTJ it can leave them feeling even more frustrated, since they need time to process things on their own. They prefer to be alone most of the time, and dislike having to constantly interface with others. INTJs might have one person they trust enough to vent to, but this isn’t something they want to do constantly.
ENTJs might not want to vent to everyone but they do enjoy having people they can turn to. ENTJs are more interested in taking action and finding ways to solve their problems, but there are times when they do need to vent about something. They can be somewhat verbal when they have a lot on their minds, and enjoy having loved ones they can trust to vent to. ENTJs often need to express these annoyances in order to move on from them, and don’t do well keeping them constantly bottled up inside. It just takes a lot for the ENTJ to find someone they trust enough to vent their frustrations to.
INTPs can be extremely internalized when it comes to their emotions, so it might take some time to process them. They need to be alone for a while when they are feeling overwhelmed, and dislike being probed for information. INTPs might come to a point where they want someone to vent to, but it needs to be someone they trust not to judge and someone who can actually help them gain perspective. INTPs don’t trust easily and they don’t enjoy being vulnerable with someone who they cannot rely on entirely.
ENTPs do need to vent sometimes, especially when they find someone they feel they can trust. ENTPs can have a hard time when it comes to being vulnerable, and need a friend that will listen without judgement. For ENTPs venting is something they might not do easily, but at the same time they require this in order to move forward. They might have emotions they have been bottling up for a long time, and need someone who is willing to listen and help them process these feelings.
ISTJs don’t really enjoy opening up to others and can find venting to be a bit pointless. They often keep their feelings inside for a long time, bottling them up until they do need to find a way to release them. ISTJs are more focused on finding ways to solve their problems than they are interested in just venting about them. They want to more forward and focus on improving their lives and the lives of their loved ones. When the ISTJ does have something bothering them they need someone they trust before they will be willing to express this.
ESTJs definitely need someone they can trust to vent their frustrations to. ESTJs can become easily annoyed with inefficient behavior and often need someone who they can complain to about this. When the ESTJ encounters these daily frustrations they can often bottle them up, which leads to them become more on edge. They do best when they have someone who will listen to them vent, just so they can express these feelings and move on from them.
ISFJs can become rather reserved when it comes to their emotions and dislike being forced to express them. They don’t want to burden others with their feelings and often find it best to keep them inside. Even when the ISFJ is frustrated it can be difficult to let this out around their loved ones. If the ISFJ does have someone they can trust and who inspires them to be more open, they might find it comforting to vent their frustrations to them.
ESFJs can have a hard time venting to people they do not trust, but at the same time it is important to them. They need to have someone they can open up to and share their frustrations without judgement. ESFJs do a lot for their loved ones and sometimes they can feel unappreciated by them. When the ESFJ encounters annoyances during their day, they sometimes need to let this out even if it is just in that moment. It helps them move forward and let go of these negative emotions so that they can continue focusing on what matters.
ISTPs aren’t really ones to vent openly about their feelings, and prefer to keep things inside. They aren’t comfortable with vulnerability and don’t trust people enough to open up about their feelings. When the ISTP does find someone they trust then they might come to a point when they want to express their frustrations. In most situations though the ISTP is happiest keeping to themselves and focusing on their feelings without having to open up to others.
ESTPs definitely need to vent their annoyances to their loved ones and become frustrated if they cannot. ESTPs don’t do well when they have to bottle their feelings inside and often need someone to express them to. While ESTPs might not be the most emotional people, they do need a loved one to share things with. When they are feeling completely frustrated about something the ESTP really needs to let this out so that they can move forward.
ISFPs do need someone to vent to, but this is often just one person that they trust completely. ISFPs don’t do well having to express their feelings to everyone and dislike this level of vulnerability. For them it is important to have someone they trust and rely on, so that they can let out their frustrations. ISFPs want to be able to open up when they are feeling overwhelmed, but they need time alone to process their feelings before being able to do this.
ESFPs definitely believe that venting is important and need someone to let their feelings out to. When the ESFP is frustrated or unhappy they need to be able to talk about their feelings. ESFPs do best when they have someone who will listen to them vent and show compassion towards what they are feeling. They don’t do well if they need to bottle up these emotions for a long time, and will feel trapped and a bit miserable over time.