The Importance of Being Someone Others Can Confide In For Each Personality Type

For some people it is truly important to be someone that others can lean on or confide in when they are struggling. For others this can feel like more work than they are willing to give, and can be sincerely draining for them to be this type of person. While some people might not naturally become the confidant of others, there are people who put off an energy which draws others in and makes them feel at ease around them. Here is how you feel about being someone that others confide in, based on your personality type.



INFJs actually do enjoy being someone that others can confide in, especially when they are struggling. It is often something that comes naturally for the INFJ, since they know how to give good advice but just be supportive when needed. They don’t put off a demeanor which makes others feel judged, instead they often feel comfortable around the INFJ. For them it can be tiring after a while though, since so many people often seek out the INFJ for a sense of comfort. They simply need time to themselves after a while, in order to recharge and feel like themselves again.


ENFJs definitely strive to be someone that others can confide in when they are in need of a supportive ear. ENFJs become that person who takes care of others and is always there to make them feel better about themselves. Being the confidant of those around them is truly something that makes the ENFJ feel happy and valuable. They don’t like feeling as if they aren’t someone others can trust, instead this is something they often aspire to. For the ENFJ it is both important and rewarding to be someone that others can completely confide in even with their darkest of secrets.


INFPs do want to be someone that others can confide in, especially with their deeper feelings and thoughts. They don’t like listening to people complain about shallow or pointless things though, since this can be truly exhausting for them. For the INFP it is more rewarding to be the person others comes to when they have more serious things to share and discuss. They enjoy being the shoulder for their friends and want others to feel safe coming to them with things. For the INFP too much pointless chatter is exhausting, but the truly in depth and meaningful conversations are rewarding.


ENFPs do want to be someone that others feel they can trust, especially their loved ones. While they want to be there for the ones they love, ENFPs don’t necessary want everyone to confide in them. For the ENFP it is more about having those closest to them feel at ease sharing their deepest darkest secrets and feelings. While they care about others and want to be supportive, having everyone constantly need their help can actually be draining for the ENFP after a while.



INTJs don’t necessary want everyone to feel comfortable confiding in them, since this can be sincerely draining for them. While INTJs really do enjoy helping others, having people constantly come to them is sincerely exhausting. They need a lot time alone and require plenty of space to do their own thing. INTJs take care of their own needs most of the time, and so they often require time to get important things done. Having people constantly confide in them is likely to exhaust them, and leave the INTJ feeling a bit overwhelmed.


ENTJs don’t want people constantly confiding in them, simply because this much neediness is going to exhaust them. While ENTJs want their loved ones to ask for their support and look to the ENTJ for help, this isn’t something they expect from everyone. Too much emotional neediness is truly draining for the ENTJ and leaves them feeling a bit overwhelmed. While they want to be a support system, being someone that everyone confides in is certainly not something the ENTJ is hoping for.


INTPs don’t often feel comfortable having everyone confide in them, simply because too much can become draining after a while. They do enjoy being someone that people turn to though, especially since they can learn so much from this. INTPs often enjoy helping others come to conclusions which can really benefit them, and so being someone others confide in is often something they do like. They just don’t want constant emotional conversations, since reciprocating can be draining for them.


ENTPs enjoy being someone their loved ones confide in and trust, since they want these deeper connections. While they do often like helping people and want to be deemed trustworthy, too much of this can be draining after a while. For the ENTP this can feel like emotionally neediness after a while and is something that will be a bit exhausting for them. They enjoy being helpful and do want others to feel safe confiding in them when it is truly important, just not for every small thing that occurs.



ISTJs do want to be someone their loved ones trust and confide in, but they don’t feel this way towards everyone. They often have private connections and believe in bonding with the people in their lives. When they care for someone and are committed to them, the ISTJ does want to be someone they can confide in and trust with anything. They want to be that support system, even though long emotional conversations are sometimes taxing for them, they do want to be there for the people they care about most. ISTJs don’t often want strangers to confide in them though, since this can become draining and feel a bit too much.


ESTJs do want to be someone that their loved ones can confide in with just about anything. While they feel it is important to be this support system for their family, they don’t feel this way with everyone. ESTJs can become drained if every single person wants to come to them for things, and often would rather focus on themselves and their family. While ESTJs don’t mind helping on occasion, they often save their energy for the people they love and care deeply for.


ISFJs definitely believe it is important to become someone that others can confide in. They care about people and are often the shoulder their loved ones can cry on. This is something that ISFJs often become naturally, since they have a way of putting others at ease. When the ISFJ cares about someone they will do just about anything for them, and value being someone they feel they can trust. For the ISFJ being this person others confide in is both rewarding and deeply important.


ESFJs definitely value being someone that others will confide in and feel safe around. They want their loved ones to feel comfortable opening up to them and sharing their deepest feelings and even secrets. For the ESFJ it would be truly upsetting if the people in their lives did not open up or confide in them when they need it. They want to be someone that people come to and rely on for anything. When the ESFJ cares for someone they will do just about anything to protect them and make them happy.



ISTPs don’t really feel it is vital to be someone that others confide in, since it can be draining for them sometimes. Emotional discussing seem to leave the ISTP feeling exhausted and a bit overwhelmed. They care about their loved ones and do their best to be supportive of them, but constantly being someone others confide in isn’t high on their list of priorities. ISTPs want to be there to help the people they love and will certainly do their best to problem solve for them, but after a while they need some time to themselves in order to recharge.


ESTPs want to be someone their loved ones confide in, especially the people who matter most to them. They want to be there for others and enjoy being someone these people can trusts. For the ESTP it is more about having a deep connection and feeling like they are an important part of other people’s lives. They do enjoy being that person that others confide in, and will certainly feel proud of this. For the ESTP it can be draining after a while, but that doesn’t mean they don’t appreciate it.


ISFPs don’t feel a need to be someone that everyone confides in, instead they just want this from their loved ones. When the ISFP is very close to someone they want this connection to run deep, and this means building something build on trust and affection. For the ISFP it is important that this person feels safe confiding in them all of the time, and they want this to be reciprocated as well. It is important to have this open line of communication and trust for the ISFP.


ESFPs care about their loved ones and so they want to be someone they feel comfortable confiding in. For the ESFP having a strong communication and bond with these special people is vital. ESFPs enjoy connecting with others and often have a knack for making them feel at ease. They are outgoing and friendly people who just want to make connections and get to know others. They are often very open and expressive and they enjoy when other people are this way as well.



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