Written By Kirsten Moodie
Here’s How Each Personality Type Responds to Hostility
While most people dislike experiencing hostility, some can handle it better than others. Here is how you respond to hostile behavior, based on your personality type.
INFJs are not impressed by hostility and can become rather uneasy around people who are overly angry. If this anger is towards them INFJs can become anxious and upset. They become especially hurt if the person is someone the INFJ deeply cares for. They don’t enjoy hostility at all and prefer to approach things from a more reasonable point of view. If someone is being hostile towards the INFJs loved one, they will become extremely protective of that person. They don’t accept someone mistreating the people they love, and aren’t afraid to stand up for them.
ENFJs definitely don’t enjoy hostility, but they are often good at calming people down. They are sensitive to the emotions of others but might make an attempt to calm the situation. If these attempts do not work the ENFJ will definitely become uneasy and feel like pulling away from the hostile individual. They don’t enjoy when someone is outwardly expressing anger towards them, especially since they can feel it so strongly. When someone is being hostile towards their loved ones though, the ENFJ will become protective and angry themselves.
INFPs definitely do not handle hostility well, and really hate when someone is being aggressive towards others. Someone who is feeling angry and isn’t capable of containing this anger, is going to make the INFP feel rather upset and even anxious. They don’t enjoy being around these kinds of emotions, especially since they are rather sensitive to them. INFPs will attempt to calm the situation if it is someone they love, or they might avoid being around them entirely. For them it is best to give people space, but if this behavior continues they may not want to remain close to the angry loved one.
ENFPs don’t handle being around hostile individuals very well, and really hate experiencing those negative emotions. ENFPs can sometimes avoid negative emotions, and dislike fights entirely. When someone is angry at them the ENFP might try and get away from that person or find a way to deflect the situation. They simply don’t enjoy feeling like they are being attacked and would rather not experience it at all. If someone is being hostile the ENFP will likely stay far away, or they might try to charm them into submission.
INTJs can certainly handle someone who is being a bit hostile, and are rarely afraid of this. They will attempt to calm the person down but if that does not work they will simply shut them down entirely. INTJs don’t feel the need to deal with people who are being irrational, and will rarely waste their time with them at all. If that person cannot control their emotions then the INTJ doesn’t see any reason to encourage their negative behavior with much of a response. The INTJ will definitely be protective of their loved ones if someone is being aggressive towards them though.
ENTJs can handle hostile people, and often respond by shutting them down. They are naturally capable of being a bit aggressive themselves, which makes them less fearful of others. The ENTJ will try to take control of the situation by asserting their own sense of dominance. They don’t appreciate people trying to push them around and will be sure to show that they are capable of standing their ground. While the ENTJ will stand up in the moment, they will likely remove this person from their lives in the future.
INTPs don’t really appreciate someone being hostile towards them, and will become a bit uneasy. They don’t like being around overly emotional people and prefer individuals who can control themselves. When the INTP is around someone who is behaving in an angry and aggressive manner, they are not afraid of standing up for themselves. INTPs can definitely display a sense of dominance towards someone who seems to be attacking them unnecessarily.
ENTPs enjoy new experiences, and are open to taking on things that might make others uneasy. The ENTP will likely respond to a hostile individual by trying to find ways to calm them down. They often know how to control most situations or sway them in a certain direction and actually enjoy being able to utilize this skill. ENTPs might even enjoy being able to take on this new challenge, and find a way to manipulate the situation. ENTPs don’t like when someone is being hostile towards their loved ones though, and will step in defensively.
For ISTJs it is important to maintain a sense of rationality and respectfulness in their environment. They don’t respond well to someone who is being completely disrespectful towards them, and will become angry themselves. ISTJs prefer to spend their time with people who are capable of controlling their emotions without overreacting. If someone is behaving with hostility, the ISTJ will attempt to shut them down completely. If this does not work they will likely disconnect from this individual and avoid them entirely.
ESTJs aren’t afraid of someone who is acting hostile towards them, and will likely being angered by this. ESTJs might assert their dominance towards that person and try to make them calm down. They don’t enjoy someone who is attacking them, and will try and find a way to take that person down a peg. If the individual continues in their behavior the ESTJ will simply cut them out completely and won’t waste their energy on that person and their negative behavior.
ISFJs dislike when someone is expressing blatant hostility, and will try to calm the situation. They desire to create a sense of harmony in their environment and work hard to maintain this. When someone starts behaving in an angry manner the ISFJ will attempt to calm them down or find a way to make things better. If this does not work they will become frustrated and rather upset, since they are naturally very sensitive to the emotions of others.
ESFJs are very sensitive to the emotions of others, which can make hostility upsetting for them. If someone is angry at the ESFJ and expressing it in an intense manner, it can cause them immense anxiety. They don’t appreciate this blatant expression of anger, and do better with people who can express themselves in a calmer way. For ESFJs it can cause them to shut down completely and feel rather nervous around that person. They can also respond with an equal level of anger if they feel it is necessary to stop the person.
ISTPs definitely don’t appreciate hostility directed towards them, and will definitely become angered by this. ISTPs prefer to keep to themselves most of the time and don’t enjoy someone who refuses to respect them. They younger ISTP might engage the angry individual and respond with equal hostility. As they get older the ISTP likely feels like this is a waste of time and will simply walk away from the hostile individual. While they may not engage someone who is angry at them, they will definitely dislike seeing that person behave hostile towards others and might even step to their defense.
ESTPs can appear charming and friendly, but they don’t appreciate someone behaving hostile towards them. In most cases the ESTP will respond with anger and frustration and will immediately retaliate. While they seem like logical and factual people, they can also respond emotionally sometimes. When the ESTP feels attacked they will likely respond by attacking that person, and will attempt to win the argument by proving themselves right.
ISFPs truly dislike dealing with hostile people, and can sometimes appear timid. They don’t enjoy being attacked and want to avoid people who behave this way. For ISFPs it is important to be around people who they can trust and rely on. They will likely try to pull away from the angry person, especially if they continue to act this way towards the ISFP.
ESFPs don’t enjoy hostility or anger in their direction and can become rather upset by it. They are emotional people, especially when they feel personally attacked. If the ESFP is faced with a hostile individual they can become anxious and will attempt to get away from that person. They don’t enjoy this sort of negative behavior and will likely respond with uneasy emotions themselves.