Written By Kirsten Moodie
Here’s How Each Personality Type Feels About Being Ignored
Some people simply don’t feel ignored easily, while others despise feeling ignored for even a second. Here is how each personality type handles being ignored.
INFJs actually do become very upset if their loved ones ignore them for a long time. They can be patient people, since they understand that everyone has responsibilities and life can be exhausting sometimes. INFJs can wait patiently for a little while, but will become increasingly more hurt if their loved ones continue to ignore them. They want to be appreciated and loved, and will take this inwardly. The INFJ will likely start to feel bad about themselves, and might even take on the blame. After a while though, they will likely feel the need to separate from this person if they continue to ignore and neglect them.
ENFJs definitely dislike being ignored, especially by their loved ones. They do a lot for others and are constantly working hard to tend to the needs of everyone around them. Because ENFJs do so much for others, they simply expect a small amount of appreciation in return. They will likely become very upset if they are ignored for a long time, and will not be afraid to let this person know that they are hurt. The ENFJ can take a long time to get to this point though, since they dislike causing trouble or arguing.
INFPs certainly do not like being ignored by someone they love and care for. They enjoy having plenty of time to themselves, and completely understand when someone else requires alone time. INFPs do not expect someone to pay attention to them 24-7, but they are not foolish enough to miss when they are being ignored. When they know someone is intentionally neglected them, they will become extremely hurt by this. They might internalize it at first, and even blame themselves, feeling like they have done something wrong. After a while though, the INFP will likely realize that person may not be a good fit for them if they do not make time for the INFP.
ENFPs absolutely hate being ignored, especially by their loved ones. They take this very personally and become hurt if someone they care about ignores them. ENFPs don’t do this to be needy or demanding, they simply want to feel loved and appreciated. When they choose to be around someone, it is because they care about them very deeply. For the ENFP having someone they want to spend time with is actually a big deal, and means they have chosen that person out of the handful of other people in their lives. ENFPs simply want to know that they are a priority, especially when it comes to romantic relationships. If they are ignored they will likely resort to playful teasing or silly antics as a way to get the attention they desire.
INTJs prefer to spend time by themselves, and certainly do not require a lot of attention. They won’t become frustrated if their friends and loved ones need time to themselves, and rarely feel like they are being ignored. They can often understand that people have busy lives, and aren’t going to be at their beck and call. INTJs will become upset if they feel like their loved ones simply do not care about them and are constantly neglected them for “better” things. This will upset the INTJ and might cause them to reevaluate their relationship. They will certainly not neglect their loved ones if they are in a time of need, so they expect the same courtesy in return. To INTJs, just checking in and showing that you care about them, is more than enough to make them happy.
ENTJs definitely dislike being ignored by others, especially since they don’t demand a lot of attention. They simply want to feel a sense of loyalty from their loved ones, since they give that in return. They want to feel important and dislike if someone pushes them aside for something more interesting. ENTJs are loyal and giving people to those closest to them, and because of this being ignored can feel like a betrayal. They don’t need constant attention, and actually enjoy having plenty of space and independence in their relationships.
INTPs definitely enjoy having a sense of independence in relationships, which means they require a lot of space. They enjoy being able to do their own things, without having to answer to someone constantly. This often means that INTPs do not require constant attention in order to feel satisfied in their relationships. If someone is busy or has other things going on, they understand and don’t mind waiting a bit. If the INTP feels like someone is constantly ignoring them for something else, they will start to become frustrated though. They simply want to feel like they matter, and a simple text showing that you care is all they really need.
ENTPs enjoy their independence, and do not require constant attention to feel happy. They do not need someone to text them back immediately, or pay attention to their every whim. They do however enjoy spending time with their loved ones, and can become upset if they are ignored for too long. ENTPs are not generally needy people, and truly hate feeling like someone views them this way. If someone doesn’t want to pay attention to them, they will usually weed this person out of their lives. ENTPs do enjoy being around their loved ones though, and can become hurt if they are ignored for too long.
ISTJs value their independence, and actually prefer to spend a lot of time alone. They do not require constant attention from their loved ones in order to feel appreciated. Just having someone show that they are thinking of the ISTJ, is more than enough for them. They do not want to be doted on, and usually prefer to tend to their own needs. ISTJs also dislike feeling smothered, and because of this they rarely feel ignored. If someone is consciously neglected the ISTJ though and never responds to them, they will begin to reevaluate their relationship.
ESTJs definitely dislike being ignored, and will likely become rather pushy if this occurs. If they believe that someone is ignoring them they will become frustrated and eager to figure out why. Initially the ESTJ will make attempts to gain the attention of the person ignoring them, in hopes that they will show that they actually care. ESTJs do not require constant attention but they certainly do not appreciate being ignored. They would not ignore someone they care for, and because of this it often feels like a betrayal to them.
ISFJs can become extremely hurt if they feel like they are being ignored. They often take this very personally, and might blame themselves for it. ISFJs want to feel like their loved ones appreciate them, and want to know that they matter, If they are constantly ignored by someone they love, the ISFJ will likely be very upset by this. They will attempt to act like everything is fine, but their sadness will find a way to show itself. They may find themselves making comments about it, as a way to show that is upsets them. They don’t want to start an argument though and would much rather keep the peace.
ESFJs certainly do not like being ignored by their loved ones, and hate feeling neglected in this way. They do a lot for others, and are constantly trying to make their loved ones happy. ESFJs would never intentionally ignore someone they love, and because of this can feel betrayed if they are ignored. They will likely attempt to pretend like they are fine and appear aloof about the whole situation. ESFJs dislike causing arguments and often prefer to keep the peace in most situations. They will ultimately have a hard time hiding their feelings though and will find themselves expressing it accidentally.
ISTPs rarely feel ignored by others, and often are understanding about most situations. They realize that everyone is busy and that sometimes you just need to be left alone. ISTPs are independent people and would never attempt to take away someone else’s need for alone time. ISTPs do not mind giving people space, and because of this it does not take much to make them feel appreciated. Just having someone shoot them a quick text letting the ISTP know they still care, is usually plenty. If the ISTP truly feels like someone is neglected them or ignoring them, they might become hurt by this but will logically assess their relationship and might find it best to let that person go.
ESTPs absolutely despise being ignored, and become very upset when they are neglected. They want to know that their loved ones care about them and because of this can become angry if they are ignored. They require plenty of attention from their favorite people and might even lash out if they feel neglected. ESTPs will definitely continue to text or pester someone until they get the response they are hoping for. They prefer to have attention from their loved ones, even if it is negative attention.
ISFPs certainly dislike feeling ignored by their loved ones, and will take this very personally. They do not want to be around people constantly, but often have one or two special individuals in their lives. ISFPs want to feel like a priority to those people, since they definitely do their best to show appreciation in return. ISFPs would never dream of ignoring someone they love, which causes them to become very hurt if they are ignored by that person.
Being ignored is actually one of the worst possible feelings for an ESFP. They hate feeling like they aren’t a priority in their loved ones lives and can become extremely upset if they are ignored. ESFPs simply want to know that they are important and valued by the people around them. If they feel like they are being neglected then the ESFP might even lash out in hopes of receiving attention. An ESFP who is feeling ignored will be unhappy and even overly emotional because of it.