Written By Kirsten Moodie
Here’s How Each Personality Type Behaves as an Only Child
Everyone responds differently being the only child in their family, while some thrive others become far too secluded. Here is how each personality type behaves as an only child.
INFJs as only children often end up isolating themselves rather easily, and might even find this more comfortable. They can become rather lonely in this situation though, and may struggle to develop trust with others. Spending so much time by themselves will cause the INFJ to easily retreat inward, and lack socialization that is important even for them. Some INFJ only children will focus much more on drawing close to their parents, especially if there is a good relationship there. They will likely mature very young, because they emulate and observe their parents as a way to grow and develop themselves. The INFJ only child who experiences loneliness, simply needs to learn to take on hobbies that they truly enjoy- and to allow themselves to trust in people who deserve it.
ENFJs as only children can become very lonely, and often push to grow a healthy social life. They might try to draw close to their parents, as a way to keep themselves connected to others. They likely have a lot of pressure on their shoulders to impress their family, since they are the only child. ENFJs often have very high standards that they set for themselves, and being the only child only makes the pressure stronger. They want to be sure to please their family, and will push themselves to do whatever it takes. They also want to juggle a social life, and will likely try to be the ideal and perfect child as well as the popular one in their friend group.
INFPs as only children often find it very easily and natural to isolate themselves. They will attempt to seek a connection with their parents, and if this happens it will create a wonderful bond for them. If the INFP struggles to connect with their family, it will be difficult for them to connect with people as well. They might find it easier to simply avoid people altogether, which can become lonely eventually. It takes a little more effort for the INFP only child to learn how to connect with people, and to allow themselves to trust eventually. They certainly want to find these connections, it just does not come easy and it can become disheartening for the INFP.
The ENFP only child is often boisterous and independent. They thrive as the only child and are often great at receiving the attention they want and need in life. The ENFP who has grown up as the only child in their family, is usually very popular in school and quickly learns to seek out friendships there. When they do not have siblings to push them in one direction or another, the ENFP is likely to develop a stronger sense of self. They grow up having the freedom and space to learn who they are, and who they want to become in life. This helps the ENFP develop a strong sense of internal morals, which is not something that is easily shaken.
INTJs are often very comfortable as only children, since they enjoy being by themselves. Being able to nourish their independence is a wonderful thing for INTJs. They enjoy having the space to themselves, and especially like being able to learn more about themselves and what they want in life. The INTJ only child will likely spend a lot of their time focused on research, and relish in the chance to learn as much as they can. They likely have a hard time fitting into a mold their parents make, unless they have parents who favor intelligent and independence. The INTJ will certainly be capable of being impressive in school, which might just be enough to garnish them freedom from their parents.
ENTJs enjoy the independence, which can make being an only child a positive experience for them. They are likely very impressive for their parents, since they are good at being efficient and likely good in school. ENTJs know how to balance pleasing others, but also prioritizing their own needs. They likely do well as only children, but will have a very rich social circle to keep them company. They enjoy being able to have time to themselves but also require plenty of time with friends in order to feel charged up. ENTJs are perfectly capable of adapting to throughout life, which makes them handle being an only child well.
INTPs as only children are often independent, and a bit secluded. They are commonly seen as the oldest sibling, taking on a protector and teacher role. When it comes to being the only child the INTP might become frustrated with their parent’s expectations. They want have plenty of freedom to be themselves, and can actually feel more alienated if their family does not give them enough space. The INTP only child can struggle when it comes to developing social connections, and might have a hard time trusting people since this was not learned from childhood. They do enjoy the space and time alone, but at the same time can become a bit lonely.
ENTPs as only children are independent and strong-willed people. They are very focused and enjoy constantly trying new things even from a young age. They are adventurous people who enjoy being able to explore new possibilities, without feeling held back. ENTPs can struggle when it comes to their families expectations, especially if they are the only child. They do want to please others, but at the same time they need to have room to grow on their own terms. ENTPs certainly do not have a hard time making friends, which is beneficial for them as the only child.
ISTJs often do very well as only children, since they have a natural awareness of what is appropriate. The ISTJ enjoys their space and independence, which makes them happy when they have plenty of alone time. The ISTJ only child also does well with parental pressures, since they likely already apply those pressures on themselves. They will be skilled at doing well in school, and want to push themselves to be successful. ISTJs are also good at making friends when they want to, which makes it easy for them to handle the role as an only child without becoming too isolated.
ESTJs as only children often dislike the loneliness attached to it, and prefer to make plenty of friends outside of their family because of this. They enjoy being able to spend time with others, and will likely strive to make plenty of friends throughout life. Being the only child does not push the ESTJ into isolation, but rather helps them search for ways to connect with others instead. ESTJs also handle parental pressures by trying to push themselves even harder to become successful and impressive to their family.
ISFJs as only children can become a bit secluded, and will try very hard to please their parents. They do enjoy the time they get alone, since ISFJs rarely receive this in life. Being that they are introverts they require plenty of time by themselves in order to recharge, which makes being an only child beneficial for ISFJs. They rarely struggle to find ways to socialize, and will seek out connections when it is necessary. People are often drawn to the selflessness and warmth of the ISFJ, making it easy for them to make friends.
ESFJs as only children often put a lot of pressure on themselves to please and impress their parents. When they are the only child there is a lot of natural pressure to be successful and make their parents proud of them. ESFJs always aim to please their loved ones, and this often begins from childhood. They rarely have a hard time socializing, even if they do not have siblings the ESFJ learns from a young age how to respond to people. They likely find circles to associate themselves with, and people they can connect with.
ISTPs as only children often do very well, since they enjoy having that time to themselves. They are naturally independent people, who can become overwhelmed if they feel smothered by others. ISTPs enjoy being able to retreat to their own space, without constantly having to deal with noise and interruptions. They might isolate themselves a bit too much though, but they often find it easy to find friends when they want to. ISTPs can struggle with the pressure of their parents though, and will want to make them happy but also want to have their freedom.
ESTPs as only children often find ways to seek out socialization in their friendships. They can become very unhappy if they are alone or isolated for too long, and do best when they have people around them. ESTPs are charming people, and have a way of making friends with a crowd they connect with. They might actually enjoy being an only child, because it allows them their independence while giving them room to make connections on their own. ESTPs dislike being forced into anything, and want to feel free to make their own choices in life.
ISFPs as only children often become very isolated, which can become difficult for them. They naturally are independent and secluded people, but when they don’t have siblings they have a hard time forcing themselves to make connections. They are likable and charismatic people, they just struggle to force themselves outside of their social comfort zone. When the ISFP has siblings they are forced to interact and this helps them adjust to it. ISFPs as only children can often feel a lot of pressure from their parents to live up to their expectations, but they often struggle to actually do so. ISFPs are independent people, who often dance to the beat of their own drum, and do not want to feel pressured by others.
ESFPs as only children can have a hard time with their time spent alone. They enjoy being around people, and need to feel connected to others. The thing that helps the ESFP only child is the fact that they are naturally capable of making friends because of their charisma and friendliness. ESFPs do enjoy a sense of independence, but can become overwhelmed with their parents demands on them. They enjoy having siblings to deflect from that pressure, since ESFPs like to make their own choices in life.