ENTJ Manipulation: How ENTJs Deal With Manipulation and Coercion
Everyone is capable of manipulating others, some are just more prone to this behavior than others. Being a manipulative person is rarely tied to someone’s personality type, but the ways in which someone can manipulate often is. While manipulation is not going to be more common in certain types, each personality type has their own methods of trying to adjust a situation so that they can get the results they want. It can help to understand these methods in a more personal way, so that we can be more conscious of someone’s intentions and actions. It is also important to understand how each personality type handles feeling a sense of manipulation from others, as some will be much less forgiving when this happens to them.
ENTJs are not naturally drawn to manipulation as a means of getting things done, as they believe in being more honest than this. For the ENTJ there are so many other options as far as being efficient and getting what they want. While they do believe in working hard and fighting for what they want, ENTJs often have certain boundaries for manipulation and when it is necessary. They certainly don’t believe in trying to manipulate their loved ones for selfish reasons, and so they don’t want this done to them in return. For the ENTJ honesty and loyalty are important qualities, and so there is just a line they don’t want crossed between those they are closest to. When it comes to their work life they certainly have different agendas, but that doesn’t mean they don’t still have certain morals which hold true.
When it comes to manipulation ENTJs are often acutely aware of it, and so they realize that others might be conscious when it is happening as well. They are very driven people who believe in working hard and fighting to accomplish their goals. There are certain situations in the workplace where they might feel like a bit of coercion is necessary, but they don’t want to take this too far. For the ENTJ there are times when it might just happen naturally, since they do have a conscious awareness of how to best get what they want out of a situation. Their best means of manipulating a situation is often by using facts and information as their strength. ENTJs spend a lot of time researching and learning about different things and are good at remembering all of this. They can often recall certain details in order to prove themselves right, and convince someone else of this information. This can certainly be used to make a useful business pitch, but most of the time it is still honest and sincere and not used to manipulate. There might be times when the ENTJ sees that the right information could be used to coerce or manipulate someone into something they would not normally do, as long as this is beneficial for everyone the ENTJ could see the potential in doing it. They don’t like manipulation which is purely selfish and won’t benefit everyone as a team, since this can feel immoral. If it does bring everyone on the same page and benefit the group, then they don’t really see this as manipulation at all.
When it comes to loved ones the ENTJ would rather be completely upfront and honest with them. They don’t want to feel like they are being insincere and in many cases trying to manipulate would feel this way. If the ENTJ sees something their loved ones could be doing better, they will simply tell them this. ENTJs can sometimes be blunt but this is because they don’t want to be dishonest or keep things from those they care for. They believe that trust is important and so they want to nurture that trust, rather than do things which could damage it. Of course the unhealthy version of the ENTJ is going to behave differently, and might be more prone to manipulative behavior in order to get whatever they want. But the healthy version of the ENTJ is often one to shy away from manipulation tactics, and sees them as unnecessary. They would rather focus on making strategic plans which they know will work, instead of trying to cut corners and be dishonest about it. They especially don’t want to do anything which could make their loved ones feel used or betrayed by them, since loyalty is so important for the ENTJ. They would become deeply hurt if their partner or close friends were trying to manipulate them, and so they believe in considering that before doing anything themselves.
For the ENTJ being around people who seek to manipulate or control them, won’t go well at all. They are often capable of recognizing this behavior, and they find themselves instantly frustrated by this. They will likely call this person out, or find ways of avoiding them entirely. They don’t want people in their lives who attempt to control them or manipulate them into doing things their way. ENTJs value being in control of their own lives and choices, and this is why manipulation is not really something they care for. They are often very confident in their own path and choices, and don’t respect someone who tries to push them in another direction in a dishonest way. If someone wants to try and convince the ENTJ of something, they would much prefer them to use facts and information as a means of getting to them. Someone trying to play into their emotions or trying to find other means of manipulation, really is not going to sit well with them at all. ENTJs can have a somewhat intimidating side as well, and the more someone tries to manipulate them the more likely they are to witness this part of them. They go after what they want, and don’t like people attempting to stand in their way or steer them off course.