Written By Kirsten Moodie
How Good Each Personality Type is at Taking Care of Themselves
Self-care is an extremely important part of being a well-adjusted individual. In order to be a caring and giving person, it is important to also keep yourself in good mental and physical health. Here is how well each personality type does at self-care.
INFJs are extremely compassionate individuals, who focus most of their actions on helping others. This innate desire to please those around them, can sometimes cause the INFJ to forget about their own internal and external needs. If they begin to think about themselves for too long, the INFJ guilt often begins to settle in. They feel like they are uncaring or selfish, for simply taking time to tend to their own needs. This is something that INFJs struggle with throughout their lives, and often takes time to adjust to. It is vital that they learn to care for themselves, and stop putting everyone else above them. In order to properly take care of others, it is vital to heal yourself and remain mentally and physically healthy. It is not easy for the INFJ to practice self-care, but it is absolutely vital. Taking time to spend by themselves, doing what they enjoy in order to recharge- this is not selfish, it is necessary.
ENFJs are absolutely horrible at caring for themselves- since they often put everyone else’s needs first. They will tend to the required daily needs, but won’t find time for themselves. They struggle to make their own needs a priority and will often ensure that everyone else is cared for before themselves. This is something that can cause the ENFJ to burn out, especially if they do not feel appreciated. The ENFJ needs to learn to take time for their own needs, and to understand that this is not a selfish act. In order to properly care for their loved ones, they need to be sure that they are mentally and physically healthy as well.
INFPs often understand the need to spend time alone in order to recharge, and they will often find the time to do this. They enjoy being alone, and are often good at tending to their own emotional needs. They care for others, but are aware that they are no good to anyone if they are drained. INFPs might be good at caring for their own emotional needs, but they often struggle to care for their physical needs. The INFP might go a long period of time without eating properly, and might neglect their need to manage their physical health. This can be a struggle for them if they are especially engrossed in their rather vivid inner minds. Spending too much time inside their own thoughts, can cause the INFP to forget that eating is a priority. They ignore their physical body, because they are so attached their minds and emotions.
ENFPs are often fairly good at understanding their own boundaries, and will be able to take care of their own emotional needs. They know that it is important to take a step back and process what they are feeling. ENFPs may struggle to take care of their physical needs, since they are not always present in their bodies. ENFPs have a tendency to explore many different possibilities, and will find themselves easily distracted. Their minds are constantly running through a million different thoughts and ideas, which can result in the ENFP forgetting to eat. They will be more aware of their need to eat than an introvert might, but they can go a while before noticing they aren’t feeling well. This is especially likely to happen if the ENFP is caught up in a video game, or some sort of new project.
INTJs are extremely focused on self-improvement, and often realize that tending to their needs is important. They know how to care for themselves, and are extremely independent people. They understand how to set boundaries, and take the appropriate time by themselves in order to recharge. INTJs are often great at fulfilling their own mental and emotional needs (what emotion needs they do have), but might find themselves lacking as far as their physical needs go. INTJs may become so engrossed in a new project that they find themselves forgetting to eat or take appropriate medication. If they get on a set schedule though, they will do much better with this. INTJs also need to find time to exercise, or else they will find themselves far too trapped inside of their own minds.
ENTJs are often great at taking care of their physical and mental needs, and understand the important of self-care. They realize that in order to get their work done to the highest of standards, they need to also make time for themselves. ENTJs are hardworking and driven people, but their sense of logic often helps them prioritize properly. Where ENTJs might struggle, is when it comes to their emotional needs. They might neglect something that is upsetting them for a long period of time, in hopes that it will simply go away. They dislike being seen as emotional, and do not want to seem overly expressive. It is important for the ENTJ to process their emotions, and be open with whomever has upset them.
INTPs can often struggle with the idea of self-care, and are much more focused on their inner worlds than their outer ones. INTPs are intelligent people, and they truly enjoy focusing on new ideas and possibilities. INTPs might spend so much time inside of their own heads that they completely forget to eat. Without having someone around to remind them, can sometimes be important for the INTP- especially during a time where they are feeling intensely introverted. INTPs also struggle to care for their emotional needs, and might push those aside for things they deem more important. They can often neglect their emotional desires, and will be afraid to appear emotional in front of others. The INTP is great at feeding their minds, but not so great at feeding their physical and emotional needs.
ENTPs are extremely focused on exploring new possibilities, and enjoy feeding their minds. This can cause the ENTP to struggle when it comes to both their emotional and physical needs. As time goes the ENTP might forget to eat, or even take care of their health. They are so focused on what is going on inside of their minds, that the ENTP can become easily distracted. It is important for them to take time to care of their physical needs, and to also process their emotional needs. ENTPs can bury their feelings for a long time, pretending like something is not bothering them. They need to remember to process these emotions, in order to properly move on.
ISTJs strive to work hard, but also realize when it is time to tend to their own needs. If they require time alone, the ISTJ will set boundaries in order to be able to do so. They realize that their own needs are important, and are not afraid to make themselves a priority. They are very loyal and caring people, they simply understand their limits. ISTJs may struggle however, when it comes to caring for their own emotional needs. They don’t always know how to express their feelings, and might struggle to make it known when they are upset.
ESTJs are often fairly good at taking time for themselves, since they realize how important this is. They do not become guilty when they have to tend to their own needs- unless they have a loved one who is making them feel this way. ESTJs want to provide for their loved ones and this can sometimes be a cause for stress in their lives. They know that tending to their own needs is vital in order to be their absolute best selves. ESTJs can falter when it comes to caring for their own emotional needs though, since they do not want to be seen as whiny. It is important for the ESTJ to take time to process their feelings, in order to move on from them.
ISFJs can often struggle to take care of their own needs, since they are so focused on caring for those around them. This can be difficult for the ISFJ, especially since they require plenty of alone time in order to recharge. They might find themselves attending a party or event, even when they know they should be spending time by themselves relaxing. ISFJs can often forget to care for their emotional and mental needs, simply because it feels selfish to spend too much time focused on themselves. It is important for the ISFJ to remember that they matter to, and that they cannot properly care for others if they do not care for themselves.
ESFJs can often struggle with self-care, especially when they are younger. They have a tendency to focus on the needs of others, and often put their own needs dead last. ESFJs will put aside their emotional and mental needs, for the well-being of their loved ones. They can become emotionally exhausted, and overwhelmed because of this lack of self-care. ESFJs need to remember that in order to properly provide for those around them, they absolutely need to take care of themselves. You cannot supply others from a well that has run dry- and without properly tending to their own needs the ESFJ will fall short.
ISTPs are very aware of their physical body, and will likely be capable of tending to their needs in this way. They know that it is important to set boundaries with others, and will be able to take the appropriate alone time to recharge. Where ISTPs might struggle, is when it comes to caring for their own emotional needs. They can often neglect or ignore their feelings, even if they have been upset for a while. ISTPs might find that their emotional needs are less important than their physical or mental health- which can cause them to neglect this part of themselves.
ESTPs can sometimes neglect their emotional and mental needs- especially if their loved ones are pressuring them. They do not want to be seen as selfish, and even though they are logic minded people- the ESTP can be seen as somewhat of a caretaker. They want their loved ones to be happy and impressed by them, and because of this the ESTP can sometimes push themselves too hard to be successful. ESTPs can also engage in reckless behavior, if they are under a certain amount of stress. They do reach their limits though, and will finally realize when they need to take time to care for themselves.
ISFPs understand that they need alone time in order to recharge, but might struggle to do this if their loved ones call upon them. It is important to the ISFP to do the right thing, and to hold strong to their morals. ISFPs can sometimes neglect their mental needs, especially if they are afraid of appearing odd. ISFPs are great at taking time for their emotional needs though, and dislike having to be fake in any situation. ISFPs are also aware of their physical bodies, which can help them to maintain their bodily health.
ESFPs understand the importance of self-care, especially when it comes to their emotional needs. They know that it is important to take time for themselves, to recharge and feel mentally better. ESFPs might enjoy taking a friend or loved one along for the ride- but they are more than capable of setting boundaries. ESFPs are often good at caring for the physical needs as well, and are acutely aware when something is wrong with them. They are very conscious of their physical body, which helps the ESFP practice proper self-care.