Written By Kirsten Moodie
Here’s How You Handle People with Anger Issues, Based on Your Personality Type
Dealing with someone who has anger issues can be rather uncomfortable and sometimes intimidating. Here is how each personality type handles someone with anger issues.
INFJs definitely don’t enjoy being around people who cannot seem to contain their anger. They prefer to connect with individuals who can control themselves when things become overwhelming. They prefer loved ones with proper coping mechanisms, at least when it comes to expressing their anger. INFJs want to allow people to feel their emotions, but when that person cannot manage their anger and becomes overly aggressive towards others it can become very upsetting for them. They feel these emotions and don’t want them to affect others negatively.
ENFJs definitely don’t appreciate people who cannot manage their feelings of anger, and might become upset by this. They feel other people’s emotions very easily, so they can become affected by someone who is overtly angry. ENFJs often try to calm people down or find ways to make them feel better about the situation, but when someone cannot control their anger this is entirely different. They dislike when someone attempts to intimidate others and will likely want to avoid being around this individual entirely.
INFPs don’t enjoy trying to control the feelings of those around them, and do want to allow them to feel their own feelings. While they want to provide a safe place for others to express themselves, someone with anger issues can be an entirely different scenario. If this person is overly aggressive and cruel to others, it can really upset the INFP. They don’t enjoy being around people who try to suck out all the air in the room with their own personal issues, and can become frustrated around someone like this. A person who has anger issues is certainly going to leave the INFP feeling uneasy around them, and they will either avoid them entirely or find a way to express their dislike of this behavior.
ENFPs are rarely intimidated by others, and often find ways to overcome certain uncomfortable situations. When someone is constantly expressing their anger in an unhealthy way, the ENFP will either avoid this person entirely or find a way to express to them that they won’t tolerate their behavior. ENFPs know how to set certain boundaries when it comes to people who try to push them around, and will certainly not be afraid to stand up for themselves and their loved ones. In most cases the ENFP will want to remove this person from their lives entirely, but if that is not possible they will simply find ways to express their limits.
INTJs definitely dislike being around people who cannot seem to control their emotions. INTJs can respond to an angry person in different ways depending on the situation in front of them. In some cases the INTJ will ignore this childish behavior entirely, and will make it clear that they don’t give people like this the time of day. They might even remove this person from their lives entirely, especially if their anger problems do not improve. If the person who clearly has anger issues is someone that the INTJ cares for or has to be around for some reason, they will find a way to make their boundaries clear and will shut them down immediately.
ENTJs believe in controlling their emotions and can become frustrated with someone who cannot seem to handle their own anger. While ENTJs can be aggressive and direct, this is not quite the same as someone with clear anger issues. The ENTJ simply wants things done efficiently and will work hard to ensure this happens. When they encounter someone who does have anger issues they will likely assert their own dominance, and make their boundaries very clear. They are rarely intimidated by others, and they want this to be something people are well aware of.
INTPs don’t appreciate being around people who cannot seem to control their own emotions, especially when this person is constantly angry. INTPs are not cold people even though they appear this way, they will feel compassion towards someone who is emotional because they are in pain. When it comes to someone with clear anger issues, they can become rather frustrated by this. If this individual is constantly attacking the INTP or their loved ones, they will find a way to shut them down or remove them from their lives entirely. They might attempt to educate this person at first, and will show them ways to seek help for themselves. If this does not work the INTP is not afraid of moving on and separating themselves from someone who is unhealthy.
ENTPs are unique people in the sense that they are always looking for new ways to explore the world around them. They often find themselves intrigued by unusual characters, since they want to learn how to understand the way they tick. ENTPs might deal with someone who has anger issues by finding out how to poke at them in some ways, to either calm them down or entice their anger. ENTPs can often see people as puzzles to solve or figure out, and enjoy being able to push their buttons in some ways. While the ENTP might find it interesting at first, ultimately they don’t deal well with overly emotional people and will want to avoid someone who cannot seem to control themselves.
ISTJs definitely do not appreciate someone with anger issues attempting to intimidate them or their loved ones. They prefer to maintain a sense of control over their own emotions, and they often expect this from others to some extent. Someone who has clear anger issues and does not seek help, will likely frustrate the ISTJ immensely. They will attempt to avoid this person, and if that does not work they will attempt to set very clear boundaries about what they will and will not accept from this individual.
ESTJs can be rather aggressive people and will especially be willing to defend their loved ones. If someone around them has anger issues the ESTJ will want to set very clear boundaries. They want this person to know that they are not afraid of them, and that they will not tolerate their behavior. ESTJs can be extremely protective when it comes to their family and loved ones, and dislikes having someone who cannot control their anger within close proximity of someone they love. If they have to find a way to remove this person from their lives entirely, the ESTJ is capable of doing this.
ISFJs definitely don’t like being around people with anger issues and can become extremely uncomfortable by this. They prefer to maintain a sense of calm and harmony in their environment, which leaves them feeling uneasy when someone disrupts this. ISFJs might try to keep this person relaxed, and will work hard to avoid letting them become angry. When this does not work the ISFJ might blame themselves, and will feel overwhelmed by the situation. When the anger continues they will likely express their frustrations, and this might lead to the ISFJ removing that person from their lives entirely.
ESFJs can become extremely uncomfortable when they are around someone who has anger issues. They feel the emotions of others so easily, and will often feel overwhelmed by this anger. They can sense when this person is about to become verbally abusive, and will want to avoid letting that happen. The ESFJ might attempt to manipulate the situation so that they can keep this angry person calm, but if that doesn’t work they will become upset. They might want to avoid being around this person entirely, unless they go after someone they love and in that case the ESFJ will want to come to their defense.
ISTPs are definitely not interested in spending their time with people who cannot control their emotions, especially their anger. ISTPs prefer to enjoy the present and live their lives with a sense of wonder. When they are around people who are constantly incapable of keeping their anger in check, it can leave the ISTP feeling a bit smothered and stifled. They will likely try to express this frustration towards the individual, but if things do not change they are not afraid to cut them out of their lives completely.
ESTPs can often find themselves connected to people with anger problems, simply because they don’t always recognize this behavior at first. ESTPs are drawn to people who intrigue them, and sometimes this leads them to unhealthy individuals. At first the ESTP might attempt to make this person happy and avoid them getting angry entirely. When they realize this will not work they become set off themselves, and will react with their own anger. ESTPs simply want to enjoy the present moment and dislike being around people who constantly bring them down.
ISFPs can become extremely uncomfortable and unhappy around someone who has anger issues. While ISFPs understand allowing people to express their emotions, someone who is aggressive and angry with certainly upset them. This type of behavior can really upset the ISFP, since they prefer a sense of peace in their environment. They want to be around people who are caring and compassionate, and dislike individuals who are constantly allowing their anger to consume them.
ESFPs can become extremely upset around someone who clearly has anger issues. At first the ESFP will attempt to stand up for themselves and will combat this person’s behavior. Ultimately though this can really wear down the ESFP and cause them to feel unhappy. They want to be around people who are positive and who want to enjoy the present moment. Someone who is constantly negative and angry will certainly cause the ESFP to feel unhappy and uncomfortable in their own skin.