Written By Kirsten Moodie
Here’s How You Handle Feeling like a Burden, Based on Your Personality Type
While no one enjoys feeling like a burden, some people can be more sensitive to this emotion. Here is how you handle feeling like a burden, based on your personality type.
INFJs can feel like a burden rather easily, and they hate this feeling. They don’t want to burden others with their problems or even their feelings. The INFJ can often neglect to express themselves to others when something is bothering them because they don’t want to feel like they are unloading their problems onto someone else. For the INFJ feeling like a burden is truly an awful feeling, which is why they can keep a lot to themselves. They are happiest when they have loved ones who appreciate them and who will listen to their problems without letting them feel like a burden.
ENFJs can definitely feel like a burden easily, and this is something they dislike. They work hard to maintain a sense of strength and are more likely to be the one others lean on. ENFJs don’t want to do anything that might make the lives of their lives ones more difficult, which is why the ENFJ goes above and beyond to avoid being a burden in any way. They almost seem to work themselves too hard when it comes to their desire to tend to the needs of everyone around them, but this is simply who the ENFJ is.
INFPs definitely don’t like feeling as though they are a burden, but they aren’t overly obsessed with this idea. They want to be able to depend on their loved ones and vice versa. For the INFP it is important to have this sort of bond and connection with the people close to them, and don’t want to feel disconnected from them. They don’t like not being able to share their feelings and even their troubles with someone, without feeling as though they are burdening them. INFPs are happiest when they have loved ones who allow them to share their feelings, and who also enjoy sharing with the INFP.
ENFPs definitely don’t enjoy feeling like a burden, but they don’t feel this way without warrant. While some types feel like a burden easily, ENFPs require someone showing clear judgement towards them in order to feel uneasy. They care about their loved ones and want to be able to help one another and depend on each other when they are feeling down. When someone is treating the ENFP like a burden it can really hurt their feelings, and leave them feeling frustrated. They might want to avoid this person at times, and will try to prove that they won’t be a burden in the ways they described.
INTJs don’t appreciate having someone make them feel like a burden, especially since they are independent people. They prefer to handle their own affairs and rarely ask others for help. INTJs do things on their own and don’t like feeling as though they have to depend on others, which leaves them rarely feeling like a burden to others. They would much rather have a sense of space from others and don’t want to feel like they owe someone something. If someone does make the INTJ feel like a burden it can be extremely frustrating for them, and likely lets them know that person isn’t someone they want in their lives.
ENTJs are independent people who rarely depend on others for things. They prefer to get things done themselves in order to ensure they are taken care of efficiently. Since ENTJs don’t really rely on others and rarely share their feelings, they don’t easily feel like a burden. If someone does make the ENTJ feel like they are a burden, it can leave them feeling rather defensive and annoyed. They work hard to take care of their own problems and even be someone others can depend on, so if someone implies that they are a burden it is likely untrue and even a bit hurtful.
INTPs are independent people who work hard to take care of their own problems. They aren’t overly expressive people and often keep their feelings and even their sadness to themselves. INTPs struggle to be open with others, and a part of this is because they dislike feeling like they are a burden in any way. INTPs can become frustrated if someone implies or even hints that they are a burden, and will want to remove themselves from that situation entirely. The INTP would rather be around people who don’t make them feel this way about themselves, since they strive to be independent.
ENTPs are independent people and this makes them strongly dislike feeling like a burden. They prefer to take care of their own problems and don’t want to look to others for help when they can do it themselves. ENTPs tend to take care of their own problems and often time will keep their feelings to themselves, instead of burdening others with these emotions. If someone makes the ENTP feel like they are a burden it will likely cause them to reassess the relationship, especially if they aren’t doing much to behave like a burden. ENTPs would rather be around individuals who they can trust and who actually care for them on a deeper level.
ISTJs don’t like feeling like a burden, but they rarely feel this from others. They work hard to take care of their own problems and be someone that others can rely on for things. The ISTJ is steadfast and focused on taking care of their own needs and even providing for the practical needs of their loved ones. They aren’t emotionally expressive people, which also means they rarely burden others with their own feelings or needs. ISTJs don’t easily feel like a burden to others, and if someone implies this it will likely frustrate them immensely.
ESTJs are efficient and hardworking people who rarely feel like a burden to others. They work hard to get things done themselves and don’t rely on most people for help. The ESTJ would rather take care of their own problems rather than constantly look to others for assistance. While they don’t easily feel like a burden to others, they will become rather frustrated if someone implies this to them. ESTJs might feel a need to argue this point, since they are usually the ones helping everyone around them and caring for their practical needs.
ISFJs definitely don’t enjoy feeling like a burden, which is why they work so hard to avoid this. ISFJs will often neglect their own needs in order to tend to the needs of their loved ones. Instead of burdening others with their problems the ISFJ will likely try to take care of things themselves. They also might struggle to express their emotions, since they don’t want to feel like they are burdening the people around them with their feelings.
One of the worst feelings for the ESFJ is to be considered a burden, which is why they avoid this at all costs. They often go out of their way to take of others, and rarely depend on anyone else for things. ESFJs work hard to be the one others can rely on when they are in need, but don’t often find themselves leaning on others. They simply don’t want to burden their loved ones with their needs or their feelings, but this can leave them feeling neglected after a while.
ISTPs are not likely to feel like a burden to others, since they spend so much time on their own. They are independent people who prefer to tend to their own needs and solve their own problems in life. While ISTPs rarely feel like a burden to others, they don’t mind the idea of helping people out when they can. For the ISTP it is more important to enjoy the moment and not become caught up in these underlying emotions and frustrations.
ESTPs are actually hardworking people when it comes to most things in life, and prefer to take care of their own needs. While they do enjoy living in the moment and taking on new adventures, the ESTP isn’t incapable of being responsible when it is important. They don’t often feel like a burden to others, since they work hard to take care of their loved ones. For the ESTP it is important to have a sense of give and take, and they enjoy being able to receive as well. They don’t enjoy relationships where it is completely one sided, so they aren’t going to obsess over the foolish idea of being a burden.
ISFPs are caring people who want to feel connected and bonded with their loved ones. If someone makes them feel like a burden it will likely upset the ISFP deeply. They want to be close to people who enjoy hearing about their feeling and who actually want to let the ISFP rely on them. They enjoy a relationship that goes both ways, and are happiest when their loved ones can rely on them as well.
ESFPs really hate feeling like a burden and are happiest when they feel connected to people who actually care for them. ESFPs give a lot to their loved ones and they want this given to them in return. They hate feeling like a burden and will definitely be very hurt by this, especially if it comes from someone they love. ESFPs want the people around them to appreciate them and dislike being neglected or ignored. Feeling like a burden implies that their loved ones don’t truly care, and this is something that will affect them immensely.