Written By Kirsten Moodie
Here’s How You Feel About Teasing, Based on Your Personality Type
Teasing can be something people do in a passive aggressive manner, but sometimes it is just meant to be a playful sign of affection. Everyone responds to teasing behavior differently, and some are more affected by it than others. Here is how you feel about teasing, based on your personality type.
For INFJs teasing can often be off-putting, since it can easily lead to someone getting their feelings hurt. INFJs are aware that too much teasing can be misconstrued, or even extremely hurtful to others. They don’t mind a little playful banter, but for them certain lines should not be crossed. INFJs are capable of handling a bit of teasing and can even dish it out to those they trust. While a small amount of playful joshing is perfectly fine, too much teasing is obnoxious in their eyes. INFJs realize that you can go too far and easily push people over the edge. For them it is about boundaries and understanding when it is time to stop joking.
ENFJs certainly don’t mind a bit of light teasing, but for them the boundaries are important. ENFJs simply dislike when anyone gets hurt because of someone else being inconsiderate, and so they can become quickly annoyed with teasing. Someone who constantly teases others is going to appear more like a bully in the eyes of the ENFJ. They believe in finding the appropriate line and realizing when to take a step back to avoid hurting others. ENFJs can engage in some playful banter, and enjoy teasing to some extent. They just realize that there is a time and place for everything and that if someone dislike teasing it is appropriate to leave them be.
For INFPs teasing can be a fun way to let someone know of your affections for them. That sort of playful banter can help the INFP express their feelings a bit, without embarrassing themselves too much. They enjoy joking around with their loved ones, and don’t mind teasing to some extent. INFPs are also rather self-deprecating, and because of this they can handle receiving the teasing comments back. For the INFP it is about knowing what lines not to cross, since they dislike when people are insensitive to others. They don’t want to push anyone too far and will take a step back and know when to be serious.
ENFPs are extremely playful people who often tease the ones they care for the most. They enjoy banter quite a bit and love being able to push people’s buttons. ENFPs simply have a childlike enthusiasm that keeps them wanting to engage in playful fun, without having to constantly worry about what is appropriate. ENFPs can sometimes cross boundaries though, especially when it comes to their teasing habits. Their intentions are not to hurt anyone, but ENFPs don’t always recognize when their loved ones are becoming frustrated with them. They simply enjoy being playful and don’t want to take life too seriously all of the time.
INTJs can definitely handle a bit of teasing and enjoy being able to banter with others. Someone who can keep up with them and doesn’t become easily offended, is going to make the experience more enjoyable for INTJs. They simply don’t find themselves becoming offended by every little comment, especially when they recognize that someone is just joking around. INTJs realize that certain lines shouldn’t be crossed, but they do enjoy having loved ones who can take a joke without being overly sensitive about it.
ENTJs definitely enjoy teasing from time to time, and find it enjoyable to be playful with their loved ones. For ENTJs teasing can be a useful way to show their affection towards someone, especially since they aren’t the best at showing signs of vulnerability. ENTJs don’t always know the boundaries of those around them though, and so they try not to go too far with their teasing habits. ENTJs are often away of the fact that they aren’t extremely emotional people, so they sometimes try to avoid pushing buttons so that they don’t hurt people unintentionally.
INTPs do enjoy playful teasing, but for them certain lines should not be crossed. They dislike people who use the teasing excuse just to be rude to others and get out their passive aggressive frustrations. INTPs can often recognize the difference in these situations and find people like that to be rather annoying. While INTPs don’t mind teasing, they don’t want it to become some exhausting competition. They enjoy playful teasing with people they are already very close to, or sometimes as a way to show their affections to someone new. For the INTP the teasing needs to be light and certainly not a constant things.
ENTPs do enjoy teasing and often find it to be a good way to express their affections towards someone. ENTPs are more likely to tease the people they really like, and do this as a way to engage with them. They also enjoy being able to push people’s boundaries, since it helps them understand that individual better. For ENTPs sometimes crossing those lines is the only way to truly get to know someone on a deeper level. They can sometimes go a bit too far, but their intentions are not to hurt people, simply to understand them better.
ISTJs don’t mind a little banter and can certainly have sarcastic personalities. While they enjoy teasing to some extent, they do have certain boundaries. For ISTJs teasing should not be a constant things and should only be utilize sparingly. People who constantly tease others can seriously annoy the ISTJ, and might come off as rude to them. They do enjoy the playful teasing on occasion and might even use it as a way to show their affections. For them it is something that should be done with boundaries and limits, and not as a constant things.
ESTJs do enjoy teasing and might see it as a great way to connect with others. A bit of playful banter can cause the ESTJ to feel close to the people around them. They only tease the people they like in most situations, and simply don’t pay attention to the ones they don’t. ESTJs are hardworking people who believe there are certain times when everyone should be focused on getting things done. For them there is a time for work and a time for being playful, and it should be pretty evident to others when these times are.
ISFJs don’t mind teasing to some extent but for them it can come off as rude and even cruel. They don’t mind making the occasional joke here and there, but the last thing they want is to upset anyone. ISFJs realize that teasing can often be taken too far and in many situation they might construe it as bullying. They don’t believe it is acceptable to constantly tease others, and feel like this is just an excuse to be mean. ISFJs want to maintain a sense of harmony in their environment and dislike seeing their loved ones hurt in any way.
For ESFJs teasing is something that should be used in moderation and not as a constant sign of affection. They do enjoy good banter, and like being able to be playful with their loved ones. For the ESFJ teasing is something that should be combined with plenty of positive words of affection, so that people understand it is just joking. When the ESFJ receives constant teasing without any true signs that the person is just being silly, it will actually start to bother them after a while. They need to hear that the person feels positively for them as well, or else they become unhappy.
ISTPs do enjoy teasing a bit, as long as it is done clearly in jest. They don’t like when people are just being passive aggressive and will find that annoying. For the ISTP it is important to know that the other person involved is not going to get their feelings hurt easily. They simply don’t believe it is enjoyable to constantly tease and be teased by others, and realize there is a certain point where it comes exhausting. ISTPs just like to tease as a way to show affection and enjoy being able to have fun with it.
ESTPs do like to tease a bit, but they have certain boundaries that they don’t want being crossed. They can be surprisingly sensitive when it comes to the people they truly love, and don’t want to be hurt by them. When someone says something the ESTP is already sensitive about, it can make them feel overwhelmed. They try to overcome this and pretend they are okay, but ESTPs can be offended. They enjoy a bit of jesting, and like the back forth banter between people- they simply believe that certain lines should not be crossed.
ISFPs aren’t usually fans of teasing and can often see it as an excuse for people to be cruel. ISFPs can become hurt easily when they truly love someone, and don’t want to feel someone badgering them in what appears to be a playful way. They want to constantly be there for their loved ones and want to receive that in return. Teasing is something that should be done rarely for the ISFP, and it needs to be evident that it is done in a playful manner and not to hurt those around them.
ESFPs do tease a bit for the fun of it, but they don’t believe in crossing certain lines. They can get their feelings hurt easily by the people they love and simply want to feel appreciated by them, ESFPs believe that teasing should be done in a clearly playful manner, and should not be delivered in a dry and serious tone. They want to be sure that people don’t go too far, since it can easily turn into everyone angry at one another over what was intended as a joke.