Written By Kirsten Moodie
Here’s How Emotionally Supportive Each Personality Type Actually Is
Some people are naturally emotionally supportive, while others struggle when it comes to the feelings of others. Here is how emotionally supportive each personality type actually is.
INFJs are extremely emotionally supportive people, especially when it comes to their loved ones. They enjoy being there for people, even if it can be overwhelming for them sometimes. When an INFJ cares for someone they will do whatever they can to make them happy and to ease their suffering. They are very focused on the emotions of others, and are often great at saying the right things to be supportive. They try very hard for the people they love, even if it is difficult for them. INFJs are some of the most emotionally supportive people, simply because they want to see others happy.
ENFJs are very emotionally supportive people, and have a natural awareness of the feelings of others. They can often sense when someone is upset and will quickly jump to their aid. ENFJs want to make sure other people are happy, and will do what they can to ensure this. ENFJs try very hard to be there for others, and spend most of their time trying to make sure those around them are happy. ENFJs are sometimes overly supportive when it comes to their loved ones, which can be a bit smothering at times. They simply want to be sure that the people they care for are not upset or hurting in any way.
INFPs care very much about others, and definitely try to be emotionally supportive. INFPs have a deep understanding of their own emotions, and simply want to feel their support returned. They want to be there for their loved ones, and enjoy sharing with them. If someone they love is in need of emotional support, the INFP will do their best to listen and be there for them. They are actually very good listeners, and will try to relate to whatever that person is struggling with. If the INFP is personally overwhelmed and needs time alone, they might have a hard time being supportive and will need to recharge first.
ENFPs definitely want to see their loved ones happy, and enjoy being there for them. They do have moments where they are distracted, and unintentionally struggle to give emotional support. If the ENFP realizes that the people they care for are truly in need of support, they will quickly jump to their aid. Sometimes ENFPs simply do not realize the seriousness of the situation, so they really just need others to be upfront and clear with them. When they are aware that their loved ones need emotional support, they will be there with a warm hug and a willing ear.
INTJs might struggle when it comes to being emotionally supportive, since they have a hard time recognizing certain emotions in others. INTJs want to be there for their loved ones, and do not avoid emotions because they do not care. They simply are not focused on emotions, and are more naturally skilled at analyzing and understanding the facts of a situation. If their loved ones learn how to express their needs clearly to the INTJ, then they will be willing to listen and be there for their loved ones. They may not always say the right things to show emotional support, but they will certainly be there when needed.
ENTJs are not the most emotionally supportive people, simply because emotions are a bit foreign to them. Obviously ENTJs have their own feelings, and they do care about the emotions of others- they simply are not natural skilled at reading those emotions. ENTJs are more focused on facts and logic, and can struggle to understand someone who is overly emotional. They would much prefer to find a practical solution to someone’s problems, and might struggle when the problems are emotionally focused.
INTPs sometimes struggle when it comes to emotions, especially their own. They feel things very deeply but have a hard time openly expressing themselves or even understanding their emotions. INTPs want to be supportive when it comes to their loved ones, and will definitely do their best to listen to them. They will definitely be there for their loved ones, they just don’t always know how to respond properly when someone is upset. The INTP will likely try to find solutions, or will struggle to relate to the person in need of support.
ENTPs can struggle when it comes to being open about their feelings, but they are actually very good listeners. They are great at lending an ear when their loved ones are in need, and will do their best to be supportive. ENTPs often try to lighten the mood by making jokes, which can sometimes be off-putting for others. The definitely intend to be emotionally supportive, and often want to make a joke or witty reply as a way to make the other person feel better- as well as to make the situation less tense for themselves.
ISTJs are not the most emotionally focused people, and will often struggle when it comes to being emotionally supportive. They are great at being there for their loved ones in more practical ways, and will often go above and beyond. ISTJs are great at finding solutions to problems, and will always try to be there for others. When it comes to being emotionally supportive ISTJs can struggle, and simply want to find a practical way to fix whatever is bothering the other person.
ESTJs are pragmatic and driven people, which makes them more focused on getting things done. They are very caring when it comes to their loved ones, and strive to do what they can do make their lives easier. ESTJs are practical people, and are better at tending to the more physical needs of others. ESTJs struggle when it comes to being emotionally supportive, and can become upset and confused if their loved ones are upset.
ISFJs are extremely emotionally supportive people, and try very hard to tend to the needs of others. They want to be sure that their loved ones are happy, and this includes making sure they are emotionally at ease. ISFJs enjoy keeping the peace in their environment, and do not want to see their loved ones sad. They will do whatever it takes to make others feel better, even if that means listening to them talk for hours about their struggles.
ESFJs are naturally aware of the emotions of others, which makes them strive to be as supportive as possible. ESFJs want to be sure that their loved ones are happy, and this includes tending to their emotional needs. They will go above and beyond in order to make sure that the people they care for are happy and feel loved. ESFJs can sometimes become overwhelmed and when this happens they are less emotionally supportive than usual. Normally ESFJs are supportive both practically and emotionally to their loved ones.
ISTPs can sometimes struggle when it comes to emotions, simply because they are not always aware of them. ISTPs often struggle to understand their own emotions, which makes it even more difficult for them to be aware of the emotions of others. ISTPs are often polite and cordial people, but they can struggle when it comes to overly emotional or upset people. They want to be there for their loved ones, they simply aren’t always skilled at observing emotions and finding ways to respond to them the proper way.
ESTPs try very hard to be emotionally supportive, and want to be there for their loved ones. They aren’t always naturally aware of the emotions of others, but they are capable of being supportive when problems do arise. ESTPs aren’t necessarily supportive of everyone and can become overwhelmed by emotional people. When it comes to the ESTPs favorite people, they try very hard to be supportive of them and will listen to them vent about their problems and their feelings.
ISFPs are very aware of their own emotions and try very hard to be supportive of others. Sometimes their need to have space and time alone can cause them to seem distracted. If their loved ones are feeling upset during a time when the ISFP needs to recharge, it can be hard for them to be supportive. If someone is truly in need though, the ISFP will do their best to stay focused and be attentive to their emotions. They are good at listening, even if they aren’t always ready with a practical solution.
ESFPs care deeply for their loved ones, and try very hard to be there for them. ESFPs are naturally more aware of their own emotions, which can make it difficult for them to be emotionally supportive of others. They definitely want to be supportive, but are easily distracted. ESFPs dislike dwelling on negativity, so they will often try to push the conversation in a more positive direction. ESFPs often prefer to distract their loved ones when they are upset, instead of letting them vent.