How Each Myers-Briggs Type Handles Being Single
Some people thrive on everything that the single life has to offer. While others are constantly drained by the search to find a committed relationship. Regardless of your long-term goals, everyone feels differently when they are single. Here is how we believe each personality type copes with their time being single.
INFJs when they are single are often comfortable. They have an often calm exterior, and enjoy having their own space. Of course after long periods of time anyone is bound to become lonely, the INFJ doesn’t require a constant romantic relationship to feel satisfied. They thrive on deep and meaningful connections and are willing to wait for something real instead of just jumping into the first relationship that comes along. INFJs have a habit of taking care of others needs and neglecting their own, which makes them more focused on the people close to them than finding a romantic relationship. When the right person comes along they will be willing, but until then they are just fine with their friends and family.
ENFJs enjoy being around people and thrive in romantic relationships. They are capable of being single but that just means they will be taking out their need to care for someone on their friends or family. They want to be able to be supportive of people and lend a helping hand. They do best when they can apply this to a deeper romantic connection and want to find someone special. They may be the type to flirt with multiple prospects, in search of someone that they can feel strongly about. Time with friends is something that the ENFJ will cherish, and can enjoy that time as a single person.
INFPs are often romantic and search for long-lasting and deep connections. They do not enjoy vapid or meaningless friendships or relationships. INFPs can often have high expectations for the person they are in a relationship with, but they do desire to find something real. They enjoy having someone to share their lives with and want to experience all that a romantic relationship has to give. INFPs can handle being single, as long as they have supportive friends to supply the deep conversations they need. Ultimately the INFP craves something deep and strong, and thrives more in a relationship than they do being alone.
ENFPs actually do very well enjoying the single life. They want to explore new possibilities and can often feel bogged down by a committed relationship. They desire deep connections and can often have high expectations for relationships. Because of these expectations, the ENFP actually enjoys the freedom of being single. They love being around their friends and meeting new people constantly. They want to learn from others and absorb all of the new experiences that they can. When an ENFP is in search of a serious relationship, they may jump from their options in search of something real and lasting.
INTJs do desire real connections and value their romantic relationships greatly. That being said they are often very comfortable being single. They often have many goals that they want to accomplish in life and can be completely fulfilled in their own company. They enjoy time to reflect and be alone, making them comfortable only relying on themselves. They aren’t likely to juggle options and bounce from person to person when they are single. They are more likely to enjoy being alone, while they search for the right person.
ENTJs are very independent but also strongly enjoy the company of others. They are perfectly comfortable being single and like the opportunity to explore new avenues in their personal lives. Spending time with friends and focusing on work often, the ENTJ has enough to keep them preoccupied while they are single. They aren’t likely to bounce around from person to person, and are more likely to wait for something meaningful. ENTJs actually do very well in relationships, and prefer having someone in their romantic lives.
INTPs might spend a lot of time single, since they lack the desire to aggressively approach others. They aren’t eager to lock themselves down into commitment right away, but also don’t enjoy playing the field. INTPs are likely to enjoy spending time with close friends and also spend a lot of time on their own. They are independent and like having the time to themselves to do what they wish. The freedom to figure themselves out and take time for themselves is good for the INTP. They ultimately do enjoy having a romantic relationship, but would rather wait for something of value than just jump into dating someone they do not trust.
ENTPs feel very comfortable with the single life. They are independent and don’t feel the need to be in a relationship with someone constantly. They are outgoing and often have many friends to explore exciting new things with. They enjoy testing the waters to see what they like, and don’t mind playing the field in an attempt to figure it out. When they are single ENTPs are often the life of the party and enjoy being well-liked. They enjoy flirting and getting to know new people.
ISTJs enjoy following the rules of society, and don’t really favor being single. They want to find the right person to share their lives with and aren’t exactly the most patient when it comes to waiting. They don’t enjoy playing the field, and are very loyal. When they are single they are more likely to focus strongly on their work and family lives, while they search for something meaningful.
ESTJs aren’t great at being single, but are comfortable exploring new possibilities. They are outgoing and enjoy being around friends, and will probably spend a lot of time focusing on their work life. They enjoy having fun and socializing, but often prefer to have some sort of romantic relationship in their lives. Having someone to have fun with is preferred, until they find the person they want to settle down with.
ISFJs enjoy having alone time, but often are unhappy when they are single for too long. They will probably focus on taking care of their family and loved ones. They may even become doting and controlling towards those closest to them, in hopes of replacing their need for a romantic relationship. ISFJs are very loyal and dislike the idea of jumping from person to person. They often desire a committed relationship and may become too reclusive if they are single for too long.
ESFJs are very social and outgoing individuals. They enjoy experiencing the dating world but mostly want people in their lives to care for. ESFJs are fine with being single and will focus on work and friends, but ultimately they want to be in a committed relationship. ESFJs may find themselves searching very hard for the person that they want to spend their lives with, which can lead them to some unfortunate dating experiences. They aren’t always the most patient individuals and honestly just want to have someone to care for and share their lives with.
ISTPs are often very comfortable living the single life. They enjoy their space and the freedom to make their own choices without affecting others. They like to be able to take life as it comes, and have a spontaneous personality. They will probably spend their time figuring out new things to experience and enjoying life. They don’t mind casual dating and probably enjoy being able to bounce in and out of people’s lives.
Although ESTPs definitely enjoy having their fun, they often enjoy being in relationships as well. ESTPs do enjoy spending time with friends and will probably enjoy the single life a good amount. They will experience new things and enjoy being able to flirt with many different prospects. Having the freedom to make their own choices will make the ESTP very happy. Some ESTPs do prefer to date, even if it is not serious they aren’t really fans of being alone.
ISFPs enjoy having their alone time, and are capable of handling the single life. Although they are comfortable being single, they desire to have a deep and committed relationship. They are often romantics at heart, and want someone to experience their lives with. A single ISFP will probably focus on spending time with friends and meeting new people in hopes of finding someone they can connect with. They might even enjoy the dating field, since it is filled with new experiences.
ESFPs are perfectly fine being single, and might even prefer it sometimes. They enjoy having fun and being free, making the single life a good time for them. They will probably spend it hanging out with friends and meeting as many new people at parties, as they can. The ESFP will enjoy the chance to play the field and date new people, absorbing all the fun that flirting has to offer.