What Each Myers Briggs Type is Like As a Parent
Everyone has their own unique parenting style, and even the best parent is not perfect. Here is how each type might behave as a parent.
INFJ- The Protector Parent
As parents INFJs are eager to raise their children into kind and independent individuals. They want their children to make the right choices, and become caring adults. They are very affectionate parents and may struggle with discipline at times. They want their children to be able to be themselves without feeling like they are being too structured. As parents they may use manipulation to get their children to do the right thing. INFJs are often seen as loving and warm parents.
ENFJ- The Generous Parent
As parents ENFJs are eager to be as supportive and loving as possible. They are pleased with the opportunity to care for their children’s needs and desires. They may have a hard time with discipline, and might use guilt manipulation to control their children. They put forth a lot of effort to making sure that their children are well cared for and as happy as possible. They are openly affectionate and warm, and want to be the best parents they can be.
INFP- The Idealistic Parent
INFPs as parents are pleased to pass on their morals to their children. They want to provide a warm and open environment for their children to grow. INFPs may be too passive as parents, and fail to administer the proper discipline. Instead they may become passive aggressive towards their children when they do something wrong. They want their children to live up to their full potential, and be considerate and moral individuals. They have a natural protective attitude towards their children, and want them to be capable of growth. As parents they often provide a warm and loving environment.
ENFP- The Enthusiastic Parent
ENFPs are eager to create a positive and loving environment for their children. They strive to pass on their strongly held ideals and values onto them, and want to encourage individuality. Sometimes ENFPs can be inconsistent and all over the place as parents, which can be confusing for children. Their creativity and passionate nature, provides an exciting environment to grow up in. They are very openly affectionate, and will constantly strive to show their children just how much they care about them.
INTJ- The Academic Parent
INTJs wish to raise their children to be independent and intelligent thinkers. They may not be the most outwardly affectionate parents, but will be supportive and caring. They will give their children space to be themselves, and want them to strive to be their best. They will believe in their children and expect a lot from them because of it. They have the capacity for deep caring, but may struggle with openly affectionate children with a Feeling preference. As parents INTJs desire to pass on their enthusiasm for knowledge, and they often succeed in doing so.
ENTJ- The Executive Parent
As parents ENTJs are often pleased to be able to teach their children and give them the appropriate structure. They can be somewhat harsh, and have high expectations that they demand for their children to live up to. They strive to provide their children with the appropriate necessities. They will be supportive and encouraging, and push them to become the very best they can be. Their drive and thirst for knowledge is something they desire to pass on.
INTP- The Logical Parent
As parents, INTPs desire to pass on their vast knowledge to their children. They want to raise their children to be strong and independent adults, that they can be proud of. The INTP may experience difficulties expressing their affections outwardly to their children. Although they can be deeply caring, they sometimes struggle with how to express this. They do not wish to shelter or change their children in any way, and are very supportive of the child’s need to be themselves. They do not see their kids as lesser, and will respect their unique voice.
ENTP- The Innovative Parent
As parents the ENTP are enthusiastic and encouraging. They strive to turn most of their children’s lives into a learning experience. They are willing to learn from their children, as well as teach them. They have a sporadic and sometimes inconsistent nature, which can be difficult. They may become distracted with others things, and neglect giving their children enough affection. When they are focused, they are very supportive parents.
ISTJ- The Dutiful Parent
They wish to raise children in a comfortable and well balanced environment, so that they may one day grow up to become valuable members of society. They will maintain a certain level of order and structure in the child’s daily lives, and make sure that they are following the rules and being diligent. They may set high expectations and fail to give enough warm feedback, or enough room to allow the child to be unique. As parents they will be extremely devoted and giving, and always strive to give their children the very best.
ESTJ- The Chief Parent
As parents ESTJs will be excited to pass on their genes and do what is expected of them. They are eager to be someone that their children can look up to and admire. They may have a tendency to be harsh with their children. This especially occurs when the child does not keep their rooms clean or live up to the ESTJs standards of efficiency. No matter how frustrated they become, they will continue to be devoted and loyal parents. They will put aside their own needs to make sure their children are provided for, and will be very dependable parents.
ISFJ- The Natural Parent
As parents the ISFJ will be eager to care for and teach their children the ways of the world. They will probably put a lot of thought into raising their children so that they become well rounded adults. They may experience difficulties if their children aren’t growing up to be “normal” and struggle fitting into society. To them those differences may seem like setbacks to the child, and they will fear it is their own fault. Although any parent has their flaws, the ISFJ is known to be extremely nurturing and giving to their children. They will provide the appropriate structure, as well as the right amount of affection and concern for their children.
ESFJ- The Nurturing Parent
As parents the ESFJ will be excited to experience all the joys that parenting has to give. Some negative aspects are that the ESFJ may be incapable of directly punishing their children, and may have a hard time seeing their mistakes. They will be extremely protective of their children, and will stand in anyone’s way who tries to harm them. They will set a well-structured household, and do their best to provide guidelines for their children. As parents they are very nurturing and affectionate, always wanting to make sure their children know they are loved.
ISTP- The Laid-Back Parent
ISTPs are generally not one of the types who are most eager to become parents. They may have a tendency to allow their spouse or mate to create the structure and rules in the household. Although they may have a tendency to keep their distance from their children’s personal lives, they will often be very laid back and relaxed parents. They will be capable of providing their children with a fun environment, where they aren’t judged or expected to be anything other than themselves. They will often be good at spending one on one time with their children, experiencing new things together.
ESTP- The Active Parent
As parents the ESTP may be very good at living in the moment and teaching their children as life comes at them. They may not be extremely structured or set out a ridiculous amount of guidelines, but they will try to teach their children as much as they can. As parents ESTPs aren’t always the most affectionate with words, but will often be supportive and try to provide them with what they need. Although they can have short tempers, ESTPs are often seen are giving and active parents.
ISFP- The Gentle Parent
As parents ISFPs often do not have very high expectations set on their children. They are supportive and easygoing, and are often very accepting of their children. They encourage their children to be themselves and are very understanding of their differences. They may be too lenient on their children, and fail to give the appropriate structure as parents. They are often very fun and active parents, who enjoy doing things with their children.
ESFP- The Fun Parent
The ESFPs outgoing and fun loving personalities often translate into parenthood. They can often have a back and forth attitude when it comes to discipline, which can be difficult for children to understand. They may jump from being laid back and not wanting to discipline, to becoming frustrated and attempting to scold their children. The lack of appropriate structure can sometimes be a struggle for their children. As parents they are often affectionate and try to express their love openly to their children. They also have a knack for throwing parties, and might try to throw lavish events for their children and shower them with gifts.