Here’s How You Handle the Expectations of Others, Based on Your Personality Type

For some people the expectations of those closest to them can be overwhelming and stressful, but to others it seems insignificant. Here is how you most likely feel about the expectations of others, based on your personality type.



INFJs definitely struggle with the expectations of their loved ones, and strive to make others proud. They constantly put these expectations onto themselves, causing them to have a lot of pressure to succeed. INFJs can definitely be hard on themselves, and having people who expect a lot from them only makes this worse. They simply want to please others and themselves, and are constantly trying to be perfect in ways that impossible. This pressure can be overwhelming for the INFJ at times, and makes it difficult for them to figure out what they actually want from life.


ENFJs can feel overwhelmed by the expectations of others and will constantly strive to live up to them. They are empathetic people so they naturally feel that pressure coming from others, and often feel burdened to take care of everything around them. If someone is upset they instantly feel like they are the ones expected to solve the problems and make them feel better. ENFJs put pressure on themselves to be perfect and are constantly trying to live up to the expectations of those around them. This is something that can weigh heavily on them after a while, even though they will likely pretend they are fine.


INFPs do often feel pressure from others to do things a certain way, but it only causes them to lose motivation even more. INFPs want to please their loved ones but they don’t like feeling pressure to do so. Having these expectations makes the INFP feel anxious and like they simply could never live up to what is expected of them. They prefer to live their lives on their own terms, and have strong inner feelings about what they should and should not do in life.


ENFPs try not to let the expectations of others get to them, but regardless they often do. The ENFP might not be good at following through with things and might struggle to meet certain expectations. Sometimes the stress and pressure of having to perform a certain way can actually cause them to lose motivation entirely. They want to please their loved ones but they can become distracted easily and often have so many things already on their minds. ENFPs want to feel free to do their own thing sometimes, and certain expectations often hold them back and stress them out.



INTJs don’t really allow the expectations of others to affect them most of the time. They try to focus on their own goals and have a strong internal sense of what they believe is right. INTJs do care about their loved ones, they simply don’t like allowing their pressures to cause them internal stress. INTJs aren’t really in touch with the emotions of others, and so it doesn’t come natural for them to focus on what they want or expect from the INTJ.


ENTJs don’t really like allowing the expectations of others to hold them back. They aren’t great at recognizing how other people are feeling, so this can sometimes help them avoid their pressures. ENTJs do care about pleasing their loved ones and want to be able to impress them to some extent. They simply don’t like having to live up to expectations, since they don’t always recognize what they are. ENTJs have plenty of goals themselves and already have enough internal pressure to succeed.


INTPs definitely don’t like feeling the pressure and expectations from those around them. They have a hard time simply doing what others expect of them, and prefer to follow their own path. While INTPs might try to brush off these feelings, it can actually become frustrating and overwhelming for them. When someone constantly requests something from them it can make the INTP feel like they need to change in order to please others, and this is definitely upsetting for them.


ENTPs definitely have a hard time when they feel expectations from those around them. They want to focus on doing their own things and don’t like having to follow the rules that other people set for them. ENTPs aren’t really in touch with the emotions of others, but they do sense them just enough to feel a sense of pressure from those around them. ENTPs try to let go of this, trying to focus on their own goals and wants. While they try not to let it bother them, sometimes these pressures can be a bit stressful.



ISTJs do care about providing for their loved ones, but this often comes from an internal place. They don’t really want to focus too much on the expectations of others, since this can only lead to stress. ISTJs aren’t really in touch with the emotions of others, or themselves that much, so they don’t naturally find themselves in tune with their expectations. They simply want to focus on providing for their loved ones in a practical manner, which is something they are good at.


ESTJs do put a lot of pressure on themselves, but it doesn’t usually come from the expectations of others. They work to provide for their loved ones but they do this by practical means, instead of constantly looking towards what their expectations are. ESTJs work hard to take care of everyone around them but they don’t like constantly having to pay attention to their emotional needs, since this does not come naturally for them.


ISFJs definitely have a hard time when it comes to the expectations of those around them. They are naturally in tune with the emotions of others, which can weigh heavily on them sometimes. They want to be able to please the people in their lives, and this often puts a lot of pressure on the ISFJ. They work hard to make everyone happy and will go above and beyond to meet these expectations.


ESFJs definitely recognize the expectations of others, and oftentimes they work to live up to them. They try hard to do whatever they can to please others, and simply want to make their loved ones happy. It can be challenging for ESFJs sometimes, and this pressure can weigh on them after a while. They do so much for their loved ones that they can naturally feel their expectations, and this can actually put too much pressure on the ESFJ.



ISTPs don’t really focus on what others expect of them, since they have very independent minds. They want to spend their energy doing what feels right for them, and don’t really have energy to allow others to dictate their actions. ISTPs do care about their loved ones and their opinions, but they try not to become overwhelmed by their expectations and pressures.


ESTPs try to live their lives with a sense of independence, and want to work on doing their own things. While ESTPs prefer to live in the moment and enjoy themselves, there are times when the expectations of others can overwhelm them. Their loved ones can definitely cause the ESTP to feel overwhelmed, but they don’t like having to adhere to these rules and expectations.


ISFPs have a hard time adhering to the expectations of others, and this often feels unnatural for them. They are free-spirits who often have to follow their own path in life, even though this can be hard sometimes. When their loved ones have certain expectations for the ISFP, it can put a lot of pressure on them. They want to make others happy but they simply cannot go against their own hearts, and sincerely need to do what feels right for themselves.


ESFPs care about their loved ones and they do want to please them, but following their expectations is not natural for the ESFP. They will often do their own things without having to follow what someone else expects them. They want to make their loved ones happy but they simply have to follow their own path and do what feels right for them. ESFPs live in the present moment and want to follow their own hearts.


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