ENTP Post-Breakup: Dealing With The ENTP Heartbreak
Enduring heartbreak is something most everyone has to go through at some point in our lives. While it is a part of life and a very common human experience, that doesn’t make it any easier to get through it. Each person has their own process and needs to go through their breakup in certain ways in order to move on and really cope with what is going on inside of them. It is important to understand ourselves better so that we can figure out the best way to heal from heartbreak.
As rationals the ENTP often seeks out logical explanations, and tries to analyze even their heartbreak. They seek out means of understanding what has happened, and try to figure out a way to learn from what they have gone through. The shock of it can be hard at first, and while ENTPs might not outwardly focus on emotions they still feel them very deeply. They find it hard to fully process the feelings in a way that others might be able to understand, which is why they sometimes seek to do this alone. ENTPs have many ways of coping with breakups, but it does often involve a process of trying to understand the situation and even wanting to seclude themselves because of the negative painful they are experiencing. While they might not appear like the most emotional people, when ENTPs care for someone it can be hard to just “get over it”.
How They Cope
Heartbreak can actually weigh rather heavily on the ENTPs soul, and can feel like a complete devastation to them at first. They are unlikely to share this with most people, unless they have someone they trust and feel totally safe with. For them, this process can be draining at first, and they can feel themselves become a bit reclusive because of the emotional exhaustion. ENTPs want to understand everything, and this can make it hard to completely let go after a breakup. When they cared about the person they often want to figure out what went wrong, and might even try and reason with their ex in hopes of making things work. They will want to figure out ways to fix the problems, and will over-analyze to the point of complete exhaustion. They might try and figure out why their partner and them are breaking up, and will become adamant that things can be fixed. The ENTP might even try to remain friends with this person, hoping that down the line they can rekindle something. This is likely a beginning stage, and once they really process their feelings and look back on things logically, they will find it easier to move on and even let go of the past. The struggle for the ENTP is focusing too much on their introverted sensing function, which sends them down a rabbit hole of memories. These memories can make it hard to detach or find ways to move on, and cause the ENTP to analyze even the smallest of details from the past.
ENTPs might start seeking out reckless behavior, although this is more commonly younger or less matured ENTP behaviors. Anything which feels good or keeps them distracted from the emotions they don’t really want to face at all. They find themselves shifting between being completely alone, and wanting to be immersed in social interaction. Whether this means going out constantly with friends, or even having a fling here and there. Whatever they can find to keep their minds moving forward and not focused on the pain they are likely experiencing. ENTPs feel those emotions in a way which makes it hard for them to totally process them right away, and so that is often exactly what they need to do. More mature ENTPs mind have learned this about themselves, and will recognize that they can be harder on themselves than they are on anyone else. Seeing that they need to process their emotions they can be good at taking some time alone to wallow and really let it out. For most this is a hard step, and so they are more likely to focus on distractions or things which help them keep distant from the emotions which are plaguing them.
While it isn’t easy or simple, it is important for ENTPs to actually recognize their emotions after a breakup. When they feel totally heartbroken and shaken by the separation, the last thing they need to do is neglect what they are feeling. This doesn’t mean they should spend a long time wallowing, as this can often make things worse. Initially just letting out those feelings by either crying, using art, or discussing it with a trusted friend, can help the ENTP let go. They need to express those emotions whether it is alone or with someone else, before they can find a way to keep moving forward. Bottling up their feelings can often make it harder for them totally move on, and so feeling it is important. After the ENTP has really let things out, then they need to focus on moving forward with their lives. Often a complete disconnect is best for them, as it helps them separate themselves from the past and those emotions tied to their ex. Gaining this distance can give them a more positive outlook on the future, and even help them look on the past with a clear head. Seeing where things weren’t right between themselves and their ex can help the ENTP logically assess the situation, and see where they can improve and learn from what happened. Growth is often a great tool for the ENTP, and helps them to become more positive about what they have lost or what happened in the past. Seeing where they can improve helps give them a sense of hope for the future and the relationship they could have down the line. Having this mindset that they can become better for a future partner, actually helps the ENTP to let go and move on.