Written By Kirsten Moodie
How Each Personality Type Reacts to Compliments
Not everyone reacts the same to receiving compliments. Some of us get a little more awkward, and might completely brush off the praise. Here is how each personality type handles being complimented.
INFJs are often very willing to dish out compliments to people, and enjoy seeing people smile. They often enjoy praise from their loved ones, but it can also make them feel a bit bashful. They will usually feel extremely awkward when someone compliments them in person, and might be too shy to react well. INFJs enjoy knowing that their loved ones think highly of them, but might not handle the praise very well in person. Over text or through writing INFJs will often be better at receiving these compliments. They still might argue against them, and attempt to ensure that person that they aren’t as great as they think. INFJs are very hard on themselves, and sometimes do not believe the praise they are receiving.
ENFJs often enjoy praising their loved ones, and they enjoy receiving compliments as well. They might act a bit bashful, but they thoroughly enjoy the compliments. They love knowing that their efforts are being noticed, since they work very hard to care for others. ENFJs are constantly trying to better themselves and their environment, and are acutely aware of the emotional needs of others. Because of this natural desire to help people, ENFJs actually enjoy being appreciated for this hard work. They are constantly doing good things for the people around them, and they need to know that this is being noticed. When people compliment the ENFJ and show them appreciation, it makes them extremely happy.
INFPs often enjoy receiving compliments, they just don’t always feel entirely comfortable with them. They will often become shy, and might not know how to properly react to receiving praise. They enjoy knowing that people think highly of them and love feeling appreciated, but often struggle with knowing how to react. INFPs prefer compliments that are sincere and well thought out, and don’t want people to just say things that they do not mean. If the compliment comes from someone that the INFP trusts and values, they will definitely appreciate the kind words. The compliments might make the INFP feel awkward, simply because it is drawing a lot of attention to them.
ENFPs often enjoy compliments a lot, even if they act a bit awkward when receiving them. They might attempt to pass them off, especially if they are trying to appear humble. ENFPs enjoy knowing that people think highly of them, and they love knowing that they are appreciated. They are commonly very good at giving compliments, and will shower their loved ones with constant affection. They enjoy making other people smile, and know that using the right words can definitely bring someone’s mood up. ENFPs enjoy hearing what their loved ones think about them, and will often soak up the compliments, especially if they are sincere.
INTJs sometimes feel like compliments are forced, which makes them feel uncomfortable. They feel like they will have to react a certain way when someone compliments them, which can sometimes feel insincere to the INTJ. They dislike being forced to feel a certain way about something, making compliments confusing for them. They are often very critical of themselves, which can make praise almost an annoyance to them. Being told they are doing good at something, makes the INTJ feel like people are being insincere- since they always believe they could be improving. That doesn’t mean they don’t enjoy a well thought out and sincere compliment about the things that they value most, they just might not react very well to this praise at first.
ENTJs enjoy working hard, but also enjoy when people appreciate this. When someone gives a meaningful and well thought out compliment to the ENTJ, they will enjoy it very much. They dislike foolish compliments that are just meant to flatter, and might even become annoyed with someone over praising them. When the ENTJ receives compliments that they believe to be true, they will definitely receive them well. It is nice to know that people are taking notice to their efforts, since ENTJs value being efficient and hard-working.
INTPs can sometimes struggle with receiving compliments, and might brush them off. INTPs can be hard on themselves, and they know that sometimes people just deliver compliments in order to butter someone up. This can make the INTP nervous that people are simply trying to manipulate them, and that their words are not sincere. They prefer actions over words, but that doesn’t mean they don’t enjoy hearing certain compliments from people. If the INTP cares about someone very deeply, then they almost need to hear kind words from them to feel at ease with their relationship. If people can push past the INTPs awkward reactions, they often do enjoy when others attempt to lift them up.
ENTPs enjoy receiving praise from others, and will often take compliments fairly well. They are also good at giving out praise to people, and often know the right words to say if they want to. ENTPs can be harsh as well, and might not always be the most affirming individuals. They don’t mind flattery, and will often play along with it- since they aren’t seen as the most humble individuals. They might have a sarcastic comment in response to compliments if they make them feel uncomfortable. ENTPs aren’t the most emotional people, but they are definitely charismatic.
ISFJs will become uncomfortable if someone compliments them too often, but they do enjoy praise from time to time. They want to be sure that their hard work and efforts are being noticed, especially by the people that they love. ISFJs may act awkward when they receive compliments, since they work hard to be humble people. They do however, enjoy when the people closest to them admire and appreciate them for who they are. ISFJs are very caring people, they love very hard and are constantly trying to make others happy.
ESFJs often enjoy receiving compliments, especially from their loved ones. They are very caring people, who are constantly trying to make others happy. They do whatever they can for their loved ones, which can often leave them feeling drained. ESFJs need to receive praise from their loved ones in order to feel happy in themselves most of the time. They want to be sure that the people closest to them appreciate everything that they do. They often enjoy receiving this kind of praise, and will appreciate it immensely.
ISTJs might not be the most open to compliments, unless they are given the proper way. ISTJs will often enjoy praise that helps them fully understand that their efforts are being appreciated. They want to do their best to get the job done, and without proper affirmation they cannot be sure that they are doing their best. ISTJs often use compliments as a way to decide if they are doing well as a provider, so they find them rather important. They don’t need compliments in a shallow way, but rather in a meaningful and practical manner.
ESTJs work very hard to be the best at everything they do, and because of this they often enjoy receiving praise. ESTJs want to be sure that others are appreciating their efforts, and without compliments they cannot be sure that they are being noticed. ESTJs will often enjoy compliments, even if they act awkward when they receive them. If the people closest to them shower them with affection, it might overwhelm the ESTJ with emotions that they aren’t entirely comfortable with. They need to right amount of praise, but not so much that is makes them feel uncomfortable.
ISTPs aren’t great with receiving compliments, and might feel a bit awkward with them. If someone is simply attempting to flatter them, the ISTP will probably brush it off politely or reply with a sarcastic comment. They prefer when people are sincere with them, and will only enjoy compliments that are well thought out and valuable. ISTPs don’t really need compliments in order to feel good about themselves, so they might not even react when someone is giving them praise.
ESTPs often enjoy receiving compliments, even if they brush them off. They might not act like they believe the kind words being tossed their way, but they definitely enjoy them. ESTPs like to know that their loved ones are taking notice of their efforts. They want to be admired by others, and because of this ESTPs usually enjoy receiving praise. They will become unhappy if they go too long without receiving compliments, especially from those closest to them. If the people the ESTP cares for are not giving them enough praise, they will often seek it out elsewhere.
ISFPs might become shy and feel awkward when people give them too many compliments. ISFPs are sensitive individuals, and although they might enjoy compliments, they will often make them feel nervous. They want to be sure that people mean what they are saying to them, and will definitely appreciate sincere praise from their loved ones. They are kind are giving people, who prefer to be as humble as possible. They will graciously accept compliments, even if they make them uncomfortable.
ESFPs are extremely fun individuals, who enjoy doing a lot for their loved ones. Because of their warm and caring nature, ESFPs often enjoy receiving compliments. They want to know that people appreciate them, and will not turn away praise from others. They are often great entertainers, because they enjoy receiving compliments from others. ESFPs will become unhappy if the people closest to them do not compliment them often, and might even attempt to seek this praise elsewhere.