ENTJ Empathy: How Well the ENTJ Empathizes With Others
When it comes to empathy it can be a difficult thing to teach, but not impossible for people to learn over time. Most of the time though, we have a natural sense of empathy or we do not. Empathy simply means having a strong understanding or natural grasp of the emotions and intentions of others. Being able to empathize means being able to fully step into someone else’s shoes and understand what they are going through, without having to experience it firsthand. Some people can be caring and sympathetic, but that does not mean they are good at empathizing, as this isn’t always an easy ability to manage or deal with.
ENTJs aren’t often seen as people who possess a great deal of natural empathy, since they are so focused on facts and accuracy. ENTJs aren’t really drawn to empathizing with the emotions of others, as spending too much time on feelings can actually be rather draining. They need space to think things through and process the situation from a more logical point of view. For the ENTJ standing by their own morals and knowledge is often more vital than empathizing with someone they really don’t agree with. This doesn’t they aren’t capable of connecting or showing that they care, they just don’t find it natural to empathize with most people’s emotions.
For the ENTJ empathy isn’t something which is likely to come naturally for them, especially when it comes to relating to emotions of others. ENTJs aren’t as connected with expressing or understanding feelings, even though they still feel things deeply in their own way. For them it is better to focus on facts rather than get caught up in what other people feel or believe. For the ENTJ trying to put themselves into someone else’s shoes in order to understand their feelings, is really not something which they can naturally do. It doesn’t come easily for them to empathize with emotions or feelings, but that doesn’t mean they don’t care. ENTJs show that they care when someone is in distress by trying to help them solve their problems logically, rather than by comforting or empathizing with them. ENTJs are naturally strategic planners who believe in working problems out and doing their best to always be efficient. Empathizing with emotions is something which could cloud their judgement and prevent them from focusing on things from their preferred perspective.
Not only do ENTJs prefer to focus on facts and their own internal knowledge and beliefs, but emotions just aren’t something which comes naturally for them to sift through. ENTJs feel emotions just like anyone else, they just don’t always know what to do with them or how to express them. When someone is hurting their outpour of emotions can actually be overwhelming and unsettling for the ENTJ. Instead of trying to feel and experience what that person is going through, the ENTJ just wants to find a way to solve the problems. They want to figure out how to help this person feel better, by finding what caused their stress and troubles. It can be hard for them to solve these problems when someone is being emotional, and so for the ENTJ it doesn’t make it easier to empathize with that person as it would only be more confusing for them. ENTJs would rather problem solve when it comes to trying to show that they care, and will work to be there in a practical way for the people they love. Connecting or empathizing to their emotions however, is a struggle for the ENTJ. They might try to work on this for the sake of someone they really care for, but it does prove to be difficult for the ENTJ. They are just better at focusing on what is practical and working to help someone grow and become happier in this way. This doesn’t mean they don’t feel bad when someone they love is hurting, ENTJs actually care a lot when they see these people upset. They will become stressed about this, even though it might not be obvious because they don’t really know how to show a sense of empathy about the situation. Instead the ENTJ will jump into problem solving mode, wanting to ask questions and figure out what is wrong in a more logical sense. This is just how they show they care, and will try to step in and protect this person from being hurt again. ENTJs will do just about anything for the people they let close to them, and so it isn’t fair to judge their sense of love and caring based on their ability to empathize. They can certainly show sympathy and affection, they just struggle to put themselves in someone else’s shoes when they don’t fully understand what they are going through firsthand.
ENTJ Internal Beliefs
ENTJs do have a strong sense of internal morals and values, which they stand by. They don’t easily empathize because they have their own set of beliefs and information, which is very much connected internally. ENTJs do pick up on a lot of outside information and facts, but this isn’t about relating to others, instead it is about picking up details which they deem accurate based on research. They spend a lot of time and energy diving into this information and wanting to be sure about it before they move forward. Spending time assessing their judgement and knowledge is something which helps the ENTJ stand firm when they are challenged. This also is part of what makes them less like to empathize with other points of view, since they have already spent time working to understand what is factual and accurate. They don’t want someone else’s feelings or desire to sway their opinion or behaviors. They would rather approach things from what they know and are sure of, instead of what other people think or feel about a situation.