Written By Kirsten Moodie
Here’s What Each Personality Type Looks Like When They Are Unhealthy
It isn’t uncommon for people to misunderstand how each personality type really works. They will pick apart negative aspects that they have seen, and attribute them to every version of that type they encounter in the future. The truth is that these tests are only a tool to help understand how we process and respond to information. Each type has the healthiest and unhealthiest versions of themselves out there- the good and the bad are present in everyone. Here is what the unhealthy versions of each personality type will actually look like. Please understand that someone who has matured and worked through their failings, will likely have pushed these negative traits aside.
INFJs are generally seen as warm and loving people, who would not want to harm another living soul. The INFJ at their worst often uses their sense of emotions to manipulate and coerce people. The unhealthy INFJ is capable of altering the perception of others in order to get what they want from them. They will also become much more codependent and possibly obsessive when it comes to people they love. The INFJ who has struggled to mature in life will like try to manipulate people in order to keep them present in their lives no matter what. This is something that can be worked through overtime, even for the INFJ who is struggling.
ENFJs are normally seen as hardworking and selfless people, who are constantly striving to help others. The unhealthy version of an ENFJ is much more manipulative, and will often use their strong awareness of emotions in order to get what they want. They will often push others around in a subtle way, and will use their strengths in order to keep people in their lives. ENFJs who are unhealthy are also capable becoming a more gossipy person, and will enjoy chatting about others behind their backs. They likely only do this as a way to feel connected to people, but it can become a bit out of hand.
INFPs are normally imaginative and kind folks, with a desire to do good in the world. The unhealthy INFP is often a bit of an emotional wreck, and cannot seem to handle their emotions properly. They haven’t reached the point in their lives where they can process their ocean of feelings, without becoming crippled by them. They can become extremely reactive to others, and will want to push their own morals onto them. The unhealthy INFP struggles to understand a difference in opinion, and becomes very stubborn if people do not share the same moral code as they do.
ENFPs at their best are kind and enthusiastic people, with passion and imagination. The ENFP who is unhealthy is often a bit manipulative, and has a tendency to push too hard for what they want. In this case the ENFP will become very demanding and will do whatever it takes to get what they want, with little thought for others. The unhealthy ENFP is also very unaware of other people’s emotions, and will have a hard time being sensitive to their feelings. They have not developed an awareness of other people, and will struggle to appreciate when they don’t relate to that person.
INTJs are normally intelligent and logic focused people, who strive to learn. INTJs who are unhealthy become extremely pushy about their “logic” and are often insulting to others who do not agree. They have a desire to shove their information down other people’s throats, and are often rather smug about their knowledge. The unhealthy INTJ can be somewhat manipulative, and will use others for their benefit without considering their feelings. Instead of developing a sense of maturity, this INTJ has struggled to appreciate their own emotions and will often snap without notice because of it.
ENTJs at their best are intelligent and drive people, who enjoy being efficient and helpful. The unhealthy ENTJ is often aggressive, and has a way of pushing others around in order to get what they want. They become controlling and bossy, and have little awareness of the emotions of others. When the ENTJ is unhealthy they become manipulative and struggle to hold back their opinions, with very little tact present even in important situations. This can be difficult especially since the unhealthy ENTJ lacks self-awareness, and cannot seem to recognize their own destructive behaviors.
INTPs are normally logical and caring people, with a passion for understanding. The unhealthy INTP is completely unaware of their own emotions, to a point where it can become toxic for those around them. The INTP who is not at their best will attempt to bury their negative emotions, until they boil over and lash out at their loved ones. This version of the INTP lacks a connection to the emotions of others as well, and tends to be extremely precise, even when it hurts people. They have forgone compassion for a sense of logic, and will often become arrogant about their own knowledge.
ENTPs at their best are intelligent and creative people, who enjoy making others laugh. The unhealthy ENTP is often arrogant about their knowledge, and has little care for the emotions of others. They often lack sensitivity, and would rather be precise than consider other people’s feelings. ENTPs when unhealthy can become pushy with their desire to debate, and enjoy appearing superior to others. They can also become flaky when it comes to relationships, and will jump from one person to the next rather quickly. The unhealthy version of an ENTP is very different from the healthy version, and often lacks a sense of emotional maturity.
ISTJs are normally pragmatic and giving people, with a desire to perform well. The unhealthy ISTJ is often extremely strict, and seen as very cold to others. They lack an appreciation for the emotions of others, and can become extremely focused on getting things done. This version of the ISTJ rarely takes time for relaxing or having fun and becomes solely focused on getting the job done efficiently. They can become stern and unexpressive, with little care for being tactful to others.
ESTJs are normally practical and hardworking people, with a desire to care for their loved ones. When the ESTJ is unhealthy they become a bit aggressive, and far too focused on efficiency. They lose a sense of compassion, and simply want to push others to get things done to their own standards. This version of the ESTJ can appear rather cold, and even cruel when they are focused on a specific task. It can become rather difficult for their loved ones to be around, especially when they are singling someone out for poorly done work.
ISFJs at their best are warm and giving people, who strive to make their loved ones happy. The unhealthy ISFJ is often hovering, and has a tendency to smother their loved ones. They can become rather manipulative in order to keep people close to them, and might become pushy with those people. Unhealthy ISFJs often have a strong desire to be seen a certain way, and can push this desire on their family as well. They want to be sure that everyone in their community is impressed by themselves and their families actions and appearance.
ESFJs are normally compassionate and loving people, with a strong awareness of other people’s emotional needs. The unhealthy ESFJ often uses their emotional connections as a way to manipulative and coerce others. They can become smothering with their loved ones, in order to ensure that they are still needed and loved. Unhealthy ESFJs can become gossipy, especially when they are trying to connect with or impress other people. This version of the ESFJ can be in denial about their own faults, for fear of being abandoned if they are not perfect.
ISTPs are normally logical and realistic people, with a strong sense of independence. The unhealthy ISTP lacks awareness of their own emotions, and will often bottle them up for long periods of time. The fact that they bury their feelings for so long, often results in the ISTP exploding when people least expect it. ISTPs when they are unhealthy become extremely inconsiderate of the emotions of others, and often are more focused on being precise and logical.
ESTPs are normally logical and adventurous people, with a knack for making anything exciting. When the ESTP is unhealthy they can become extremely manipulative, with a selfish desire for satisfaction. They can jump from relationship to relationship, and might struggle to commit to one person. The unhealthy ESTP is often reckless, and will push the boundaries in a rather dangerous way. They often rush into things without even considering the ramifications, and will do whatever they desire in that present moment.
ISFPs are normally warm and imaginative people, with a whimsical personality. The unhealthy ISFP is often overly emotional, and becomes upset or offended rather easily. They can struggle to understand logical patterns, and are far too overwhelmed by their emotions. ISFPs who are unhealthy can become rather intense about their own personal morals, and will likely push them onto others. They have a hard time being sensitive to the emotions of others, and will be more focused on being right. This unhealthy ISFP lacks an ability to be empathetic, and will have a hard time connecting with people who are different from them.
ESFPs are normally fun and exciting people, who enjoy making other people smile. The unhealthy ESFP is often selfish, and extremely focused on becoming the center of attention. They can often use guilt manipulation as a way to get their loved ones to tend to their own needs. ESFPs when they are unhealthy can become reckless, and will only focus on living in the present moment. They lack an awareness of their actions, and will simply do whatever feels good at that moment.