Written By Kirsten Moodie
Here’s How Each Personality Type Feels About Commitment
While some people take their commitments very seriously, others have a serious fear of commitment. Here is how each personality type feels about commitment.
INFJs do take their commitments very seriously, and have a hard time turning their back once they have made a decision. They do take a long time to fully commit to something, and prefer to think it over beforehand. Once the INFJ has decided to make that commitment though, they definitely remain committed. They dislike feeling like they have failed anyone, and will hold themselves to extremely high standards. INFJs will break a commitment if they realize they are only hurting themselves by staying true to it, but it will take them a very long time to come to terms with this.
ENFJs are comfortable with commitments and often take them very seriously. They usually get themselves into way more commitments than any normal person could handle. The ENFJ will commit to many different events and tasks in order to care for their loved ones and make them happy. They usually do not say “no” to people and because of this the ENFJ can become a bit overwhelmed. They usually push themselves through it though, and would hate to let anyone down. They definitely don’t like going back on a previous commitment, and will work hard to remain tied to it.
INFPs often struggle to make commitments, and dislike feeling locked down to something. They simply prefer to go with the flow, and often dislike making plans that are too firm. INFPs are daydreamers, which often causes them to prefer plenty of time by themselves. INFPs do not want to make a decision about something and then feel immense regret over it later on. They want to be able to explore new things without feeling like they are locked down. INFPs will take their relationship commitments very seriously though, and are not afraid of committing to a loved one.
ENFPs can sometimes struggle with different commitments, since they hate feeling tied down to anything. They usually do not get themselves into anything that forces the ENFP to follow through with a previous decision. It is not that they are flighty, they simply prefer to explore new ideas and possibilities. ENFPs love exploring and often dislike feeling like they are being weighed down by a decision. They will usually avoid certain commitments for as long as they possible can, and bounce around from one things to another. When the ENFP makes commitments to people or relationships, they will be entirely different. They take their relationships very seriously, and are not afraid of these types of commitments.
INTJs often dislike people who do not follow through with their commitments, and try very hard not to be that way themselves. They don’t always commit to things easily though, and will spend a long time considering all of their options. INTJs do not want to back out once they have committed to something, and because of this they will do plenty of research before moving forward. INTJs do not commit easily, but once they do they take it extremely seriously. INTJs have a very hard time backing out once they have made a commitment, and will only do so if they know they have exhausted every other option.
ENTJs definitely take their commitments seriously, and dislike being seen as flighty. They become extremely frustrated with people who cannot seem to follow through with their decisions. ENTJs are loyal and upfront people, and will definitely take their relationship commitments very seriously. They do not just jump into things without weighing all of their options and analyzing their choices. Once the ENTJ knows they are sure about their decisions, they will follow through with their commitment without hesitation.
INTPs can often avoid commitments, and suffer from a fear of missing out. They dislike feeling as though their choices have hindered them in any way, which often comes from their constant need to analyze everything. INTPs want to make the right decisions in life, and can be afraid that they will somehow go down the wrong path. This can cause the INTP to avoid making any real commitments in life, so that they can avoid making the wrong ones. Over time though, INTPs can learn to find the right choices for them and will be able to follow through with their commitments.
ENTPs have a hard time with commitments, simply because they like exploring the possibilities. They can often become upset if they feel like their decisions have locked them down or held them back in some way. ENTPs want to be capable of diving into many different things, which often causes them to bounce from one hobby to another. This can cause them to become very avoidant of commitments, even when it comes to relationships. ENTPs are capable of committing when they find something or someone that truly inspires them and helps them feel more alive. They will hold onto that feeling with everything they have, and will certainly not be afraid of committing.
ISTJs take their commitments very seriously, and are not afraid of them at all. They are loyal and dependable people, who will not turn their back on others. If the ISTJ has committed to something then they will do whatever it takes to follow through. They do not go back on their decisions, and will work hard to get the job done. ISTJs are also extremely committed to their relationships, and rarely stray from their loved ones. Once the ISTJ has decided to make a commitment, they would be extremely disappointed in themselves if they backed out of it.
ESTJs believe that commitments are extremely important, and do not back out once they decide to go through with something. When the ESTJ commits to something, whether it be a relationship, job or even a hobby, they will do whatever it takes to get it done. ESTJs truly dislike flighty people, and do not want to be seen as someone who is unsure or insincere. They will do whatever it takes to follow through with their responsibilities. Their loyalty is actually one of the most appealing and noble qualities that the ESTJ possesses.
ISFJs are certainly not afraid of commitment, and prefer to follow through with things. They actually enjoy stability over having many options, and because of this they value their responsibilities. Once the ISFJ has committed to something, it is highly unlikely that they will back out of it. They do not want to be seen as flighty or insincere, and actually become frustrated with people who fit this description. ISFJs realize that their actions affect others, and because of this they want to be sure to make the right choices. Knowing that if they back out of their commitments the ISFJ will hurt someone else, they will be sure to follow through.
ESFJs take their commitments seriously, and dislike feeling as though they have failed someone. When they make a commitment to another person, the ESFJ will be sure to do whatever it takes to follow through with it. They might struggle with certain personal commitments, especially if they aren’t going to affect someone else. When the ESFJ feels like they need to remove certain things in order to care for their loved ones, then they will back out of those commitments most of the time. ESFJs are extremely focused on caring for others, and most of their priorities are based around this.
ISTPs can actually be a little bit hesitant when it comes to commitments, and will often avoid them. They prefer to feel free to make their own choices, and committing to something removes this option. ISTPs actually dislike feeling locked down by their choices, and sometimes have a fear of missing out. They prefer to make choices as they go, instead of committing to something long term. When the ISTP stumbles upon something or someone that is very important to them, they will be capable of making the appropriate commitments.
ESTPs often avoid commitment, especially when it comes to relationships. They prefer to live in the moment, and aren’t always sure how they will feel in the future. They sometimes jump into commitments though, and will find themselves searching for ways out of it. ESTPs aren’t afraid of breaking a commitment if they believe it is the right things for them to do. They will logically assess if the situation warrants a sincere commitment, and if it doesn’t then the ESTP will have no problem backing out of something.
ISFPs prefer to live life in the present moment, which can cause them to become avoidant of certain commitments. They aren’t always sure what they want out of life, and because of this they can appear a bit flighty. ISFPs can sometimes jump in and out of relationships, but this is simply because they have rather high standards. They want to find people and hobbies that truly inspire them, and will not be afraid of letting go when it doesn’t feel right.
ESFPs can sometimes back out of their commitments, especially if they don’t feel like it will hurt someone else. They sometimes jump in and out of different hobbies and will find themselves losing interest quickly. When the ESFP feels like they are done with a career or hobby, they won’t be afraid of breaking their commitment. ESFPs can also be seen as flighty when it comes to relationships, but this is simply because they do not commit until they are completely ready. When the ESFP finds someone they truly love, they will be more than capable of making a solid commitment to them.