Written By Kirsten Moodie
Here’s How Each Personality Type Behaves as the Youngest Child
There are different studies that try to show where most types fall on the birth order, but we know these can only be so accurate. Instead of focusing on that, we decided to write about how each type behaves in their birth order. So here is how each personality behaves as the youngest child.
INFJs as the youngest child can often get very caught up on caring for their parents. Their siblings are older than them, so it is more difficult for them to take on a protective role towards them. Instead the INFJ will often stick to helping their parents, even if their siblings move on with their lives. INFJs are younger siblings might have more opportunities to explore a more playful side to their personality, since they are not burdened with the role of the oldest sibling. INFJs are generally very family oriented people, even if they don’t agree with their family’s actions or morals. They will likely begin life looking up to their eldest sibling, and will find themselves admiring them in some ways.
ENFJs as the youngest child often feel a lot of pressure to be the best at what they do. They will especially feel this pressure if their older siblings haven’t lived up to expectations. They will likely have a slight sense of competition when it comes to their siblings, even if they are extremely close to them. ENFJs are natural caretakers, but they can often take on a rather unique role as the youngest child. They will still want to care for their loved ones, but might have a better sense of their own needs from being the “baby” of the family. This can help the ENFJ as they grow old, and become a giving person but also learn their limits.
When the INFP is the youngest in their family it can be difficult for them to find space to recharge. Unless they have a good age gape between themselves and their siblings, it can be challenging for the INFP. They want to have plenty of time by themselves, and will likely try to find ways to isolate themselves. They want to be close to their family, but also desire plenty of space. Although they enjoy having space, INFPs often enjoy being the youngest child in the family. This can help them feel connected to their parents, and they might develop a close bond to one parent more than the other. The youngest sibling usually is allowed freedom to be themselves with less pressure on them to be the stable one, which is actually quite beneficial for INFPs.
ENFPs often thrive as the youngest sibling, since they are freer to be themselves. They feel less pressure to perform, and have plenty of room to grow on their own. They can often watch their older siblings, and will learn from their mistakes and experiences. ENFPs actually do very well as the center of attention though, and enjoy having their family dote on them from time to time. Having the affection of the entire family because they are the “baby” will make the ENFP feel happy and close to their loved ones. They are naturally playful and charismatic people, which makes the role of the youngest sibling a great spot for them.
As the youngest sibling INTJs often need plenty of room to grow and do their own thing. Their parents might struggle to control them if they simple demand action, and instead will do best if they give their INTJ reasons behind their requests. They can be defiant children, especially as the youngest sibling, but this is often done in a sneakier and less in your face manner. They don’t want to be rude to their parents, the INTJ youngest simply wants to be allowed space to do what they please. They are inquisitive children, constantly searching for things to explore and understand.
As the youngest child ENTJs can be a bit bossy, even to their older siblings. They dislike being ordered around, and will not let their siblings take control simply because of their age. ENTJs will likely want to focus on being impressive to their parents, and will feel the need to find a way to stand out in the family. ENTJs are hardworking people, and will likely do very well in school as a way to propel themselves forward in life. They definitely want to get along with their siblings, and find that family is very important to them. They simply believe in loyalty and trust, and want to foster healthy relationships with their siblings.
INTPs might take advantage of being the youngest sibling, since their older siblings can teach them a lot. They might want to learn the higher level information that their siblings are reading in class. They will likely steal their textbooks, since INTPs can become quickly bored in school. Having more information to absorb can really help them feel challenged and entertained. They will likely look up to their siblings in some ways, but will surpass them in intelligence more than likely. INTPs usually enjoy being the youngest sibling in their family, although it seems to be less common. They often feel more freedom to do what they please, without the constant pressure of being the oldest.
The ENTPs constant desire to debate with their siblings can be a bit problematic as the youngest child. They will likely attempt to foster different discussions but if their older siblings dislike this it can be a bit upsetting for them. They might be seen as the pushy and annoying younger sibling, which may not create close bonds between them and their older siblings. ENTPs are definitely challenging for their parents, since they desire to learn and grow even at a young age. They do not take well to being ordered around, and do best if their parents can reason with them in a more mature way.
Even as the youngest sibling ISTJs are often extremely independent people. They definitely need space to do their own thing, and want plenty of time alone. They might not be completely open with their family, but they are often the ones to uphold the family standards. The youngest ISTJ will likely follow whatever rules the household has for them, and wants to be able to please their parents as much as possible. Where their older siblings fail the ISTJ will likely try to pick up the slack in order to make everyone happier.
ESTJs are often very commanding people, and even feel this way as the youngest sibling. They will be sure to make their place in the family known, and dislike being pushed around. They will often fight back if their older siblings attempt to make demands on them, and will find a way to take control. ESTJs as the youngest siblings can often work to find their own way, especially if their family does not let them take control. They will either demand respect, or find their own place away from their family members. ESTJs definitely want to be an important member in their family though, and will work hard to try and make things work.
ISFJs are naturally caretakers, and as the youngest sibling this does not change much. They often find themselves picking up the slack of the other family members, in hopes of improving the household. ISFJs are always working hard to keep the piece, and might find themselves playing the mediator in many situations. They will attempt to get their family members together and help them to get along as best they can. As the younger siblings the ISFJ might place some pressure on the older siblings, since they often look up to them and want to see them succeed.
As the youngest child ESFJs are most likely to draw close to their family and older siblings. The ESFJ can often cling to their older siblings, and will look up to them in a lot of ways. They can often be the one to pick up the slack, and attempt to make life easier for their parents. If their older siblings make mistakes, the ESFJ will attempt to do better in order to deescalate things. They might feel like if they accomplish things, it will take the pressure off of their older siblings to perform. They will likely try to keep the peace in the household, and will do whatever they can to please everyone.
ISTPs as the youngest child are often headstrong and wild. They naturally love to seek out adventure and new experiences, which might make things difficult for their family members. ISTPs are independent people, and dislike being held down by rules. They definitely have a respect for their parents, but might struggle to be contained and will find ways to bend the rules. They don’t want to hurt their loved ones, but simply want to be free to make their own decisions.
ESTPs are wild and adventurous children, especially when they are the youngest. They certainly want to impress their parents, and will work hard to be good in school. They will definitely work hard but at the same time they enjoy playing hard. ESTPs when they are the youngest in the family can often struggle to follow the rules and will want to do their own things without being controlled by their parents. They often enjoy being around their siblings, and want to have a friendship and connection with them.
ISFPs as the youngest siblings often enjoy being considered the “baby”, since they dislike too much pressure being placed one them. Having freedom and room to be themselves is the best thing for an ISFP. They enjoy drawing close to their loved ones, and often look up to their older siblings. ISFPs really enjoy having their family’s attention, which makes being the youngest sibling beneficial for them. They enjoy having siblings to share their time with, but also like having their own space to recharge.
ESFPs often love being the youngest sibling, since they feel like it is easy to receive the most attention. Being the “baby” gives them a comfortable place in the family where they don’t have to work too hard to get what they want. ESFPs simply enjoy being center of attention, and enjoy making other people laugh and smile. Being the youngest sibling gives them freedom to be themselves and to get the spotlight that they cherish so much. ESFPs want life to be fun and hate having to take themselves too seriously, which makes them fit perfectly into the youngest child role.