Written By Kirsten Moodie
Here’s How Passive Aggressive You Can Be, According to Your Personality Type
While some people prefer to express their feelings, others can be rather passive aggressive about what is bothering them. Here is how passive aggressive you can be, according to your personality type.
INFJs are often guarded people, who prefer to keep their emotions private. They can have a hard time opening up to others, but once they do they will feel connected to that person forever. When they are upset with someone they will certainly try not to let it fester and create passive aggressive behavior. They would much rather express how they are feeling, or will live with keeping it bottled up rather well. INFJs are capable of hiding things from others, without giving away how they are feeling. When they care for someone though, the INFJ will want to work through things.
ENFJs often try to remain positive, and work hard to care for their loved ones. They can be a bit aggressive when they are truly angry with someone, but this is only with their close loved ones. The people the ENFJ doesn’t feel close to, can receive the occasional passive aggressive reaction. They might make posts online that express their anger towards someone, without directly suggesting who it is. ENFJs simply don’t want to start drama, but can have a hard time burying how they feel.
INFPs are often very in touch with their own emotions, and try to be open when they can be. While they do have times of openly expressing their anger and frustrations, INFPs also have passive aggressive tendencies. When they feel like someone will not fully listen to the INFP, they might act passive aggressively towards them. They will also do this with people they aren’t completely comfortable with, especially since INFPs don’t want to start drama. When they are attempting to avoid conflict, they can be fairly passive aggressive and will make biting remarks.
ENFPs are considered fairly open people, who want to focus on the positive things in life. While ENFPs can be expressive, there are times when they are also very guarded. This is something that makes ENFPs complex and somewhat contradicting. If the ENFP is truly upset but fears opening up about it, they will bottle up those feelings until they act them out in passive aggressive ways. They will likely have a hard time getting in touch with what is bothering them, and might feel too embarrassed to express it to their loved ones. When this happens the ENFP will definitely make passive aggressive comments, without fully meaning to.
INTJs are not the most open people, but they try not to be passive aggressive. They don’t enjoy avoidance, but in some cases they simply aren’t aware of their own emotions. When the INTJ is attempting to ignore their feelings, there can be moments where they act them out inadvertently. They might exhibit some passive aggressive behaviors, when they feel like someone has slighted them. This only happens when the INTJ attempts to ignore their own emotions. If the INTJ is more conscious of their feelings, they will likely attempt to sort through them without having these sorts of reactions.
ENTJs are not very in touch with their own emotions, and have a hard time expressing what they are feeling. If the ENTJ is hurt or upset they might bottle up these feelings and attempt to ignore them completely. When the ENTJ does bottle things up, and can cause them to act out passive aggressively towards their loved ones. They don’t intend to react this way, they simply aren’t very in touch with their own feelings and sometimes they find their way out in unhealthy ways.
While INTPs aren’t entirely in touch with their own emotions, they definitely dislike passive aggressive behavior in others. They can become frustrated when people try to be subtle but their behavior completely gives them away. INTPs would much rather someone be open with them, so that the problem at hand can be solved. While INTPs often bury their own feelings, they don’t usually express them in a passive aggressive way. They often bottle these feelings up, but eventually they come out in somewhat of an explosion.
ENTPs are not usually seen as passive aggressive people, and would much rather express things when they feel they need to. ENTPs can often avoid emotions, but will use humor as a way to deflect. They aren’t fans of passive aggressive people and can become very frustrated by this. When the ENTP is upset they will try and find ways to ignore those feelings, or they will eventually express them in order to move on. They aren’t generally passive aggressive people, instead they simply find other ways to deflect.
ISTJs tend to bottle up their emotions, since they aren’t comfortable expressing them. This can cause the ISTJ to act out passive aggressively sometimes, even if this is not their intention. If they recognize this behavior then the ISTJ will try to find a way to mend thing. In most cases though ISTJs do struggle when it comes to comprehend and recognizing their own internal emotions. They want to approach things from a logical and practical standpoint, which is often why ISTJs can bury emotions.
ESTJs do exhibit some passive aggressive behaviors, but most of the time they are just aggressive. When the ESTJ is angry they will express this emotion willingly, in order to maintain a sense of control. They might have a hard time understanding their feelings, and will bottle them up until they explode. ESTJs are not afraid to get upset with someone though, even if they aren’t good at figuring out why they are so angry.
ISFJs care deeply about their loved ones and try hard to maintain a sense of harmony in their environment. The fact that ISFJs don’t want to upset others can cause them to bottle up their own emotions. Instead of expressing their feelings the ISFJ will likely keep them locked up. This can cause the ISFJ to express their feelings in a somewhat passive aggressive manner. They don’t intend to do this, but in some occasions they lack control since they have bottle things up for so long. Instead of outwardly expressing their frustrations, the ISFJ will have it seep out in passive aggressive tones.
ESFJs prefer to keep harmony in their environment, and dislike doing anything that will upset their loved ones. They want to please those closest to them, and sometimes strive for perfection because of this. ESFJs might have a hard time expressing their emotions, especially if it will disrupt the harmony. This can cause the ESFJ to bottle things up, but they are more likely to hold these feelings inside until they explode. They can exhibit passive aggressive tendencies, but are more likely to hold things in until they have a moment of letting them all out simultaneously.
ISTPs often dislike passive aggressive people, and would much rather have them express their feelings. Instead of holding it inside the ISTP would rather their loved ones tell them what is wrong so that they can solve the problem at hand. They aren’t great at figuring out the subtleties of emotions, and would rather people just be upfront about them. ISTPs aren’t the most expressive people, and will often ignore their own feelings. Even though they neglect their own emotions, ISTPs rarely express them in passive aggressive ways.
ESTPs can be very passive aggressive people when they are forced to keep their emotions inside. If they are angry and upset about something but are told they cannot express it, they will certainly have a hard time containing this. When the ESTP is not allowed to be angry, their feelings with come out in passive aggressive ways. They might express it with their tone of voice, or simply with a snarky comment. ESTPs simply have a hard time holding back when they are angry or hurt over something.
ISFPs are internal people, who prefer to spend a lot of their time by themselves. They dislike having their privacy invaded, and sometimes they can keep their feelings quiet. When the ISFP is around someone they trust deeply, they will enjoy being open and expressive with them. While they aren’t fans of passive aggressive behavior, there are moments when their feelings can express themselves in this way. The ISFP might find themselves saying things they don’t mean, as a way for their emotions and pain to escape.
ESFPs are open and expressive people, who try not to let their feelings bottle up. They don’t want to keep it inside when they are upset, and try to be sincere. ESFPs would much rather express when they are hurting, and don’t enjoy keeping those things inside. If they are upset and feeling like they cannot express it without angering people, they might show signs of passive aggressiveness. When the ESFP is forced to bottle things up, they will seep out in sarcastic and biting ways.