Written By Kirsten Moodie
Here’s How Often You Ask for Help, According to Your Personality Type
While some people struggle when it comes to asking for help, others realize that it is sometimes necessary. Here is how you handle asking for help, based on your personality type.
INFJs are independent people, who prefer to handle their problems on their own most of the time. They can struggle when it comes to asking for help, since they don’t want to feel like a burden. INFJs would much rather be the one helping others, and can feel ashamed if they need help for some reason. They strive for perfection in a way that isn’t achievable, which puts a lot of the pressure onto the INFJ. They simply don’t want to do anything that makes life harder for their loved ones, and are always trying to tend to the needs of others.
ENFJs are hardworking people who are always trying to take care of others. They care very much about their loved ones and want to do their best to make them happy. ENFJs will go above and beyond helping others, and truly want to tend to all of their needs. This desire to help others can cause the ENFJ a bit of turmoil when they need help themselves. They will often neglect their own needs for the sake of other people, and have a truly hard time asking for help. ENFJs will try to take care of their problems alone most of the time, and will avoid asking for assistance from others.
INFPs are independent people, who can put a lot of pressure on themselves. They might have a hard time asking for help, especially when they are younger. Most INFPs as they mature, come to realize that it is important to ask for help when it is needed. Instead of trying to be perfect all of the time, they come to the conclusion that everyone needs a little help. When the INFP trusts someone completely, they will begin to ask that person for help when it is truly needed. They will be there for their loved ones, so there is no reason why they can’t ask for assistance from time to time.
ENFPs are certainly independent people, who enjoy being able to take on new challenges. They don’t mind when things get a little difficult, and will see it as an opportunity to grow. In most cases ENFPs want to try things on their own, without rushing to ask for help. They can put a lot of pressure on themselves to do things successfully, and don’t want to feel like they have failed in any way. When the ENFP realizes that they truly need help with something, they will enlist the assistance of someone they trust and depend on.
INTJs are very independent people, who prefer to do most things themselves. They are often well prepared and spend a lot of time researching before taking action. When the INTJ is struggling they will simply work hard to find the best way through their problem. They are excellent strategic planners, and are naturally skilled at remaining calm and finding a way to solve their crisis. This level of self-reliance causes the INTJ to struggle when it comes time to ask for help. They would much rather handle it on their own without having to rely on someone else for assistance. INTJs will only ask for help from someone they can completely trust, which is a rare fine.
ENTJs are very self-reliant people who prefer to depend on themselves for most things. They believe in efficiency and hard work, which often makes it challenging for them to rely on other people. ENTJs rarely find people they can truly trust, and in most cases people just aren’t efficient enough in their efforts. ENTJs definitely have a hard time asking others for help, and in most situations they would just rather figure it out themselves. When the ENTJ does find people they can rely on, they enjoy being able to work as a team, but only when they trust those people completely.
INTPs are introverted and independent people, who prefer to spend most of their time alone. They don’t like feeling as though they have to depend on others for things, and would much rather handle their problems alone. INTPs don’t often ask for help from others, and would rather look inward to solve their problems. In most situations the INTP can figure out a way to solve whatever they are struggling with, without having to enlist the help of someone else. It can be rather difficult for them to ask for help, since they don’t want to feel ashamed or like they have failed.
ENTPs are independent people, who enjoy doing most things themselves. They often find themselves jumping headfirst into new things, which can get them into trouble from time to time. ENTPs learn quickly how to handle most of their struggles alone, since it is more effective most of the time. While ENTPs try to solve their problems alone most of the time, they are still capable of asking for help. They will try to figure things out themselves first, but will turn to someone they trust when the problem is far too big.
ISTJs do strive to work hard and take care of their problems on their own. While the ISTJ is hardworking and self-reliant, they do understand that sometimes they need to ask for help. They will often try to fix things themselves, and dislike feeling as though they have failed. The ISTJ will likely continue to work hard to get things right, but would rather ask for help than let things fall apart. They know that sometimes it is important to enlist the assistance of someone they trust, so that they can ensure everything goes according to plan.
ESTJs are hardworking people, who often prefer to get things done themselves. They are efficient and self-reliant people, who believe in taking care of their loved ones. ESTJs don’t enjoy feeling as though they have failed, which is why it can be difficult for them to ask for help. In most cases the ESTJ depends on themselves to take care of their problems, and want to ensure that everything is done efficiently. When the ESTJ realizes that their problems cannot possibly be solved alone, they will be sure to enlist the help of someone else. They might ask for assistance in a unique way though, which makes it seem like the other person suggested it.
ISFJs are self-reliant people, who prefer to take care of most things themselves. They care deeply for their loved ones and simply want to ensure their happiness. They struggle when it comes to asking for help, since they don’t want to feel like a burden. ISFJs would rather be the one that others can depend on, and are always trying to help those closest to them. ISFJs often have a hard time asking for help from others, and would rather find a way to take care of things by themselves.
ESFJs often have a hard time asking for help, since they prefer to do things themselves. They don’t want to feel like a burden on their loved ones, and would rather be the one helping others. ESFJs are always trying to take care of the people closest to them, and work hard to ensure that their needs are met. ESFJs are warm and compassionate people, who can often neglect their own needs for the sake of other people’s happiness. ESFJs rarely ask for help, and will often push themselves too hard.
ISTPs are very independent people, who struggle to ask for help from others. In most situations the ISTP prefers being alone, which is why they don’t like asking for help. They are excellent problem solvers, who often know how to take care of their own struggles in life. They don’t trust most people to handle their issues, which is often why ISTPs would rather analyze and problem solve alone. People can frustrate them oftentimes, and only seem to cause them more problems.
ESTPs realize that sometimes it is important to ask for help, but it often takes them a long time to get there. They don’t enjoy having to rely on others, and want to seem efficient and successful to their loved ones. When the ESTP is struggling, they will definitely take the time to ask for help from others. They are often there for their loved ones, and realize that it is okay for them to receive that help in return. The ESTP will likely ask for help when it is truly needed, even though they would prefer that their loved ones help without needing to be asked.
ISFPs are internal and independent people, but they aren’t afraid to ask for help. When the ISFP is struggling they will turn to the people they love and trust the most. When things are difficult for them, ISFPs don’t want to feel alone, which is why they will certainly go to their loved ones for help. They want to have people they can rely on in life, especially when things get truly difficult. The ISFP will certainly be there for their loved ones, which is why they want to be able to turn to them as well.
ESFPs are certainly not afraid to ask for help, especially from their loved ones. They are warm people, who enjoy connecting with others. When the ESFP is struggling they know that the people close to them will be there to help. ESFPs won’t be too proud to ask for assistance, and will be willing to return the favor when they are needed. While some people dislike feeling like a burden, ESFPs find that sort of thinking foolish.