Written By Kirsten Moodie
Here’s How Each Personality Type Responds to Social Norms
While some people find the idea of social norms to be completely obnoxious, others having a hard time going against what seems “normal”. Here is how each personality type responds to social norms.
INFJs are not usually very interested in fitting into social norms, and much prefer to do their own thing. They dislike seeing people be judged for their differences, even if they don’t agree with those people. INFJs believe in being themselves, and believe in allowing other people that same opportunity. They aren’t fans of being told what to do, and dislike having to fit into some idea of what other people believe is appropriate. INFJs are often drawn to things that are a little odd, or offbeat- which makes them unique and somewhat unusual people.
ENFJs definitely don’t want to become obsessed with following social norms, and prefer to do their own thing. They can get a little caught up in what other people think of them though, especially their loved ones. They just want to be sure that they are doing the right thing, and that they are not disappointing the people closest to them. ENFJs develop their own beliefs about what is right and wrong, and do not follow what society often believes. They definitely won’t follow anything that seems to hurt others, or segregate them in any way.
INFPs truly dislike the idea of social norms completely, and believe in follow their heart. They are moral people, who strive to do what they believe is right. INFPs aren’t fans of any societal rules, and prefer to do things their own way. When someone tells them what they “should” be doing the INFP can become extremely frustrated by this. They prefer to be around unique people, who have their own perspective on the world. INFPs can be seen as misfits sometimes, but they are perfectly okay with that title. They simply want to be themselves, without listening to what others tell them they should be.
ENFPs might struggle with fitting into social norms when they are younger, and will want to be popular with the people around them. This is a struggle that ENFPs often overcome as they grow up, and they will likely start bucking against traditions completely. ENFPs have a unique perspective on life, and prefer to do things their own way. They want to follow their hearts and do what they believe in, without feelings controlled by others. ENFPs don’t like feeling judged, and dislike seeing other people persecuted for simply being themselves.
INTJs often completely disregard the idea of social norms, and prefer to follow what they believe makes logical sense. Having to bend to what society tells them to be, is not something INTJs are likely to fall victim to. INTJs are definitely polite and respectful people, and aren’t likely to go running around breaking laws and being foolish. They simply do not believe that they should have to fit into what other people believe is right for them. INTJs don’t often care much about what society thinks of them, and will follow their own set of beliefs based on logic and practicality.
ENTJs can sometimes get stuck in the middle of caring about what others think, and doing what they want. They dislike feeling controlled by others, and will often see that as a challenge. ENTJs prefer to do what they believe makes logical sense, without following whatever idea other people have of what is right. ENTJs do however want to be respected by others, so they might seek to win people over in some way. Ultimately ENTJs don’t care what other people choose to do with their lives, and want to be allowed that same courtesy.
INTPs aren’t really fans of having to follow social norms, and prefer to do their own thing. INTPs are smart enough to realize that social norms are simply societal constructs, and that they change depending on the time. They prefer to do what they please, and follow their own set of rules. They might not flaunt what they choose to do, but this is simply because INTPs are private people. INTPs dislike the idea of having to play by other people’s silly rules, which is why they care very little for social norms.
ENTPs are enthusiastic and intuitive people, who follow their own set of rules in life. They dislike feeling held back by other people’s pressure, and would much rather do their own thing. ENTPs truly do not care for the idea of social norms, and like find them to be completely ridiculous. Oftentimes ENTPs will take people’s rules as a challenge, something for them to rebel against. They don’t want to be told what they should do, especially by people who don’t even know them.
ISTJs can sometimes get caught up in following social norms, since they dislike stepping out too much. They prefer to keep their personal lives private, and don’t believe that others need to know about what they do. ISTJs are drawn to what they know, and enjoy feeling comfortable. Anything that breaks away from what they know and understand, can leave them feeling a little uneasy. ISTJs simply want to be prepared for things, so that they can ensure that they are properly taking care of their family.
ESTJs definitely adhere to a certain set of rules in life, which leads them to following social norms as well. They want to be a strong and important member of their community, and don’t want to veer aware from that. ESTJs will follow what they believe is right, but ultimately they don’t like stepping too far outside of their comfort zones. ESTJs are drawn to what they know and understand, so that they can be as efficient as possible. They don’t often shove their noses in others people’s business though, and will allow others to make their own personal choices.
ISFJs do tend to follow what they know and are comfortable with, and dislike too much change. They will often adhere to social norms, especially when they are in a public setting. ISFJs prefer not to let people see too much of their private lives, and want to keep those things to themselves. They might have certain things about them that don’t exactly fit into the social norms, but the ISFJ will keep them completely quiet to strangers.
ESFJs believe in making their loved ones happy above all other things. They are compassionate people, who care for the well-being of others. They do often struggle when it comes to change, and want to keep things at a comfortable balance. ESFJs can be a little offbeat at times though, and might not fit into everything that society deems normal. ESFJs will support their loved ones if they aren’t exactly what people expect, and will defend them against others if they must.
ISTPs rarely care much for social norms, and much prefer to do their own thing. They really aren’t effected by what other people think of them, and won’t allow people’s opinions to dictate their actions. ISTPs also don’t care much to stick their nose in other people’s business, and would rather let people be themselves. ISTPs are often rebellious people, who often find themselves challenging authority and what other people deem appropriate.
ESTPs can sometimes fall into social norms, since they don’t want people to dislike them. They can sometimes adjust their behavior depending on their present company. Deep down ESTPs aren’t fans of following rules or doing what people expect them too. Even the ESTP who is trying to fit into society’s rules, will eventually find themselves rebelling against it. They simply prefer to follow their own set of rules, and enjoy seeking out whatever feels right in the moment.
ISFPs aren’t really fans of social norms, and prefer to follow their hearts. ISFPs want to do their own thing in life, and want to do what feels right for them. They dislike when others try and force them to be a certain way, and have a hard time pretending. ISFPs also don’t like seeing people put down for being a little different, and will becoming personally hurt by this. Ultimately ISFPs just want to do what makes them happy, and will live very much in the present moment.
ESFPs can get caught up in social norms, simply because they want others to like them. ESFPs don’t want to be seen as odd, and enjoy being admired by those around them. If the ESFP does go against what is deemed acceptable, it is simply because they are well aware that it will also receive plenty of positive attention from others. They do crave attention, and are naturally skilled at being center stage. ESFPs aren’t afraid of taking chances, especially if they realize it will gain them the affection of others.