Written By Kirsten Moodie
Here’s How Each Personality Type Deals with Disappointing Others
While some people realize that they cannot live up to everyone’s expectations, others can put a lot of pressure on themselves. Here is how each personality type handles disappointing others.
INFJs can take it very hard when they feel like they have disappointed someone else. INFJs often put a lot of pressure on themselves to take care of their loved ones. They truly despise feeling as though they have let someone else down and often work hard to ensure they can live up to their expectations. INFJs often put a lot of pressure on themselves and might feel like they have disappointed someone when in fact they have not. INFJs are their own worst critics, which can make it hard for them to process disappointment.
ENFJs really don’t handle disappointing others well and often strive to avoid this entirely. ENFJs work hard to please their loved ones and truly want to make them happy. They don’t want the people close to them to feel let down and often try to find ways to please them. ENFJs don’t want to feel like a letdown because they value their loved ones dearly. They can be extremely hard on themselves and put a lot of pressure on themselves to make sure everyone is taken care of.
INFPs definitely don’t like disappointing others, especially if they feel truly like it was their fault. INFPs care about their loved ones, and want to make them happy. INFPs don’t want to put unnecessary pressure on themselves, but unfortunately it is natural for them to hold high expectations for themselves. While INFPs might have strong morals and beliefs, they still don’t enjoy letting people down. They really want their loved ones to appreciate them, and hate doing anything that might harm them.
ENFPs might appear like nothing phases them, but in truth they put a lot of pressure on themselves. They don’t want to disappoint others and can become very hurt if they feel like they have let someone down. When ENFPs care for someone they truly want to please them, and they try very hard to avoid disappointing them. While ENFPs don’t want to let their loved ones down, they have a hard time doing anything that goes against who they are. They will often try to find ways around disappointment, but at the same time they can’t feel held down.
INTJs do care about their loved ones and want to find ways to make them happy. While INTJs care for the people close to them, they simply can’t go out of their way to please them. INTJs live by their own set of rules and focus on what they believe is important. They won’t compromise who they are for the sake of someone else, and will often take their disappointment as something they can’t blame themselves for. If someone feels let down by the INTJ they will only care if it is a person they value dearly, and will certainly hear their complaints.
ENTJs don’t want to let their loved ones down, but at the same time they don’t hold themselves responsible for the needs of others. If someone is disappointed in their actions, the ENTJ will assess the situation to figure out if they did something wrong. Ultimately they cannot blame themselves for how other people feel, and realize they aren’t capable of living up to the expectations of everyone. ENTJs mostly try to hold up their own values and morals, and work hard to do their best at everything.
INTPs don’t express this openly but they truly dislike feeling like a disappointment. They don’t focus on emotions but at the same time they don’t want to let others down. When the INTP cares for someone they want to please them, even if they don’t do this in the obvious ways. INTPs try to remain independent people, and work hard to be someone others can be pleased with. Their focus on learning and understanding information, and will also pay close attention to how their loved ones response to things.
ENTPs definitely don’t want to feel like they have disappointed others, especially the ones they love. While they don’t want to be a disappointment, they don’t do well having to live up to the expectations of others. ENTPs need to focus on being independent and are always exploring new things. If they feel restrained in some way it will likely make the ENTP miserable, which is why it can be difficult for them to avoid disappointing people. They certainly won’t intentionally let someone down, but they realize they cannot always be responsible for the emotions of others.
ISTJs definitely don’t enjoy feeling like they have disappointed others, especially the ones they love. While ISTJs are not entirely focused on emotions, they want to make others happy. They work hard to be good at what they do, and want to ensure that their actions do not harm the ones closest to them. ISTJs are responsible people, which is why they work hard to avoid disappointing others.
ESTJs don’t want to disappoint their loved ones, and often work hard to provide for them. They don’t expect people to always be pleased with their actions, but they at least want to do their best to make their loved ones happy. ESTJs don’t hold themselves responsible for other people’s emotions though, and can’t expect to always please the ones around them. They simply work hard to provide and be the best they can at whatever they do.
ISFJs work hard to avoid disappointing others, which is often a lot of pressure for them. They simply want to make their loved ones happy and do their best to make sure everyone is comfortable. ISFJs don’t enjoy feeling like a disappointment, which is why they focus hard on avoiding this entirely. ISFJs can cause themselves a lot of stress over their actions, especially if they believe they have done something to disappoint their loved ones.
ESFJs care deeply about their loved ones and strive to avoid disappointing them. They want to make others happy and become very anxious if they feel like they are letting someone else down. ESFJs work hard to make others happy and often value ensuring that they always do their best. They can put a lot of pressure on themselves to be perfect, and to avoid disappointment entirely. This can be stressful for ESFJs, since they rarely feel like they are doing enough for others.
ISTPs don’t put pressure on themselves to live up to the expectations of other people. They don’t want to feel pressured to do what other people want, since they prefer to be independent. ISTPs don’t believe in holding themselves responsible for the feelings of others, which is why they don’t take it too personally if someone is disappointed in them. ISTPs certainly want their loved ones to be happy, but they can’t hold themselves responsible for this.
ESTPs definitely don’t want to disappoint their loved ones, and strive to impress them. ESTPs know that they cannot be responsible for the emotions of others, but at the same time they want to make their loved ones happy with them. They strive to be someone the people close to them can admire, and work hard to live up to their expectations. At the same time ESTPs struggle with their desire to be independent, and dislike feeling as if someone else is controlling them.
ISFPs definitely don’t want to let others down, especially the people they love and value. They try to be someone that others can be pleased with, but they can’t change who they are. ISFPs are independent people who believe in following their own inner morals and values. They won’t do something that compromises what they believe is right, even if that somehow disappoints someone else.
ESFPs certainly don’t want to disappoint others, but at the same time they don’t let that hold them back. ESFPs live very much in the moment and strive to follow their heart when it comes to making decisions. They care deeply about their loved ones but they follow their own sense of morals and can’t be held back by others. ESFPs need to follow their own path in life, and will be miserable if they try to stifle their sense of adventure.