Written By Kirsten Moodie
Here’s How Each Personality Type Copes with Feelings on Ennui
Sometimes life becomes overwhelmed, and we can become bored with the same tedious actions. Here is how each personality type copes with feelings of ennui in their current situation.
INFJs do often suffer from ennui, especially in our current confusing times. They can become extremely dissatisfied with their situation, especially if the INFJ believes they aren’t making a real difference. The fact that INFJs deeply feel that they are meant to serve a greater purpose, can make it rather challenging for them if they don’t feel like they are living up to their own expectations. When the INFJ believes they aren’t making a positive difference in the world, they can become listless and feel completely lost. The best thing for an INFJ to do in this situation, is to connect with the people who care for them. They need to see how they have affected the lives of those closest to them, and appreciate how important that truly is. It can also help the INFJ to find a chance of surroundings in order to shake things up and hopefully reach for more important goals.
ENFJs are often the type of people who attempt to distract themselves and push through any negative emotions. Like anyone they can suffer from hard time, and the occasional state of ennui. The ENFJ can become so focused on caring for the needs of others, that they lose sight of themselves and who they truly are. When this occurs the ENFJ becomes detached and overwhelmed by their current situation. When the feelings of ennui strike for the ENFJ, they can benefit from some time by themselves. They need to stop focusing on caring for others, and start actually paying attention to their own needs and desires.
INFPs often experience feelings of ennui, especially when they feel like their current situation isn’t living up to their full potential. The INFP needs to feel a sense of purpose in their life, and truly want to make a difference in the world. INFPs are caring people who believe in justice and living by a strong moral code. When the INFP is in a current job situation that doesn’t make a positive impact on the world, they will definitely suffer from a state of ennui. The best thing for the INFP to do in this situation is draw close to their loved ones, and try to find something that can make them feel like they are helping others. Whether the INFP searches for a different job, or simply takes on a hobby that makes a sincere difference- they simply need to be doing good for the world.
ENFPs are definitely positive people, who try to remain focused on moving forward. They make a conscious effort to avoid too many negative thoughts, and will try to keep moving in order to do this. There are times when the ENFP simply cannot keep themselves propelled forward, and those feelings of ennui might start to seep in. When this happens the ENFP is usually in a place in their lives where they feel like they have made too many mistakes to really make a change. They are feeling stuck, and can see doors being constantly closed to them. When the ENFP feels this way they truly need to break out of whatever negative routine has taken over their lives. It also suites them to find a special person to connect with and help pull them through to the other side.
INTJs are very driven and intelligent people, who are constantly focused on removing ignorance where they can. INTJs knowledge can actually be what gets them into trouble sometimes, and will allow those feelings of ennui to strike them. INTJs are painfully aware of the stupidity and the negative things in the world around them. This awareness can cause the INTJ to lose hope in the possibility of change, which can leave them feeling a bit listless. When the INTJ feels this way they simply need to take a step back, and maybe take a break from their constant research for a moment. They need to explore some of the things they enjoy, and take time with someone they care for deeply.
ENTJs are very driven people, who prefer focusing on getting the job done to their rather high standards. In most situations the ENTJ is capable of overcoming negative emotions, and will force themselves to be positive. There are times when the ENTJ fails at something, or is betrayed by someone they love- in these situations the ENTJ is likely to become caught up in feelings of ennui. They begin to lose sight of their future and the reasons behind their goals and actions. When this occurs the ENTJ is likely going to be more emotional than usual, and a bit distracted from their normal goals. The ENTJ likely needs to connect with the people who care for them, and to regain faith in their own abilities by pushing towards a goal they can readily accomplish.
INTPs can often suffer from a state of ennui, especially since they are very analytical people. The INTP will often spend much of their time absorbing information, and will run over different possibilities in their mind. The fact that INTPs can spend so much time inside of their thoughts, can hold them back from actually taking action in life. When this happens the INTP can feel stuck, and will begin to let the feelings of ennui settle in. INTPs are smart people, but sometimes their cynicism can take over and leave them feeling listless and dissatisfied with their lives. The INTP simply needs to break out of their current situation, and look at the many possibilities in front of them. They need to pick one of their many ideas, and dive into them without caution.
ENTPs are often seen as positive people, who are constantly trying to move forward and explore different things. The ENTP is often so active that they rarely sit still for very long, especially since they dislike stagnancy. When the ENTP does become still for too long, those feelings of ennui can start to creep in. The ENTP might be thinking about the different doors in their lives that are closed to them, and will become cynical and frustrated by this. The best thing for the ENTP who is suffering from these feelings, is to get themselves out there and to jump into something new. They need to connect with their loved ones as well, instead of letting themselves remain alone for too long.
ISTJs are hardworking and pragmatic people, which often helps them avoid negative feelings. ISTJs have a way of keeping themselves focused on the future, and will always strive to do their best. When the ISTJ can suffer from feelings of ennui, it is often tied to a failure in the workplace. When the ISTJ is pushing themselves and does not get any recognition, it can cause them to feel lost and out of place. They strive for excellence in everything they do, and can feel a bit dissatisfied if they aren’t capable of moving forward. The best thing for the ISTJ in this situation is to find a hobby that they can enjoy, and loved ones to share it with. If they can find something that helps them feel efficient and useful, it will help them regain a sense of self. The ISTJ might need to consider a career change if they aren’t getting enough recognition, but that is certainly a large and difficult change for them.
ESTJs like to focus on moving forward and are extremely hardworking people. They are often so focused on accomplishing their goals that they push through any of their negative feelings. ESTJs want to be impressive to their loved ones, and their superiors at work. If the ESTJ feels like they are not being appreciated, or have been abandoned by someone close to them, they can often suffer from feelings of being lost and unhappy. The ESTJ will become overwhelmed and dissatisfied with their life choices, and may become rather depressed. In this situation the ESTJ needs to regain faith in their abilities, and find a way to prove this to themselves and others.
ISFJs are very compassionate and giving people, who are constantly caring for their loved ones. They are very good at remaining positive, and trying not to let negative feelings creep up on them. When the ISFJ can encounter feelings of dissatisfaction, is likely when their family or loved ones move away from them. When the ISFJ is lonely and without the people they care for, they will feel a bit lost in their current situation. ISFJs need to feel connected to their loved ones in order to be helpful and feel useful. When they suffer from these sorts of feelings they need to make new connections, or find ways to draw close to someone they love.
ESFJs are very often focused on taking care of their loved ones, which can cause them to lose sight of who they are. Constantly caring for others can really leave the ESFJ feeling a bit lost, especially when some of those people are no longer in their lives. When the ESFJ loses connections with people, they can begin to feel lost and those feelings of ennui with begin to settle into their lives. The ESFJ can feel like they have spent so much time on other that they simply have nothing left for themselves. The best thing for the ESFJ to do in this situation is to spend some time focusing on their own needs and desires. They need to take time to remember who they are, and to invest in themselves for a while.
ISTPs are realistic and logical people, who enjoy analyzing information. They are usually capable of ignoring their negative thoughts, simply because they see no point in dwelling on them. In most cases ISTPs are lucky to avoid feelings of ennui, but their overanalyzing minds can sometimes push them over the edge. When the ISTP become caught up on the more cynical side of their personality they can become distracted and a bit listless. When this occurs the ISTP likely needs to experience a change of pace in order to break out of their stagnant state.
ESTPs generally try to remain positive and like to continuously push themselves forward in life. ESTPs enjoy keeping their minds distracted and hate remaining stagnant for too long. When the ESTP can experience feelings of ennui, they are usually overwhelmed by a combination of things in their lives. If the ESTP feels like they are failing at work and in their personal life, they will become dissatisfied and confused. They might begin to develop thoughts of running away and starting a new life elsewhere. When the ESTP feels this way they need to reconnect with the things that make them happiest, and find ways to remain focused on the possibilities in the future.
ISFPs are extremely moral people, and are focused on wanting to make a difference in the world. When they witness injustices it can be extremely upsetting for them. ISFPs want to help others, but can sometimes feel like they are failing in their efforts. When the ISFP continues to feel overwhelmed by the pain around them, they can begin to feel lost and dissatisfied with their lives and even careers. When this occurs ISFPs truly need to explore different avenues in order to help them cope. The ISFP likely needs to find a hobby that where they can utilize their abilities, and hopefully help others.
ESFPs are generally very positive people, who are skilled at pushing through their negative feelings. ESFPs would much rather push through their bad thoughts and find happy distractions in their lives. When things become overwhelming and their loved ones abandon them, the ESFP can feel extremely lost and confused. This can be difficult for them to cope with, and in this case the ESFP needs to make a change in their surroundings. In order to reconnect with who they are, the ESFP likely needs to find something that they are truly skilled at.