Extraversion and Introversion
An extravert and introvert may have some issues with one wanting the other to open up more, and one wanting the other wanting the other to give them some time alone. However, they can also be good to balance each other out, allowing the extravert to feel more comfortable introspecting, and the introvert has someone to encourage them to socialize and try new things more often.
The INTJ prefers introversion to extraversion. The INTJ is energized by alone time and will use it to help sort out their thoughts. The INTJ seeks to understand patterns and underlying meanings behind what people say and do.
The ESFP prefers extraversion to introversion. The ESFP gets energized by people and wants to take in the world through their five senses to better experience it.
Sensing and Intuition
A sensor and an intuitive will face some challenges in conversation. The Sensor lives in the concrete world of facts and senses, while the intuitive tends to wonder more about possibilities and what is not immediately recognizable. While these two types may struggle, they may also balance each other out by being able to get things done and also foresee future issues.
The INTJ prefers intuition to sensing (Through Introverted Intuition). The INTJ wants to understand the underlying meanings and connections between things. The INTJ can form a gut feeling or intuition about the way things are going to play out.
The ESFP prefers sensing to intuition (Using Extraverted Sensing). The ESFP wants to make sense of the world and uses their five senses of touch, feel, see, taste, and smell to better understand the present moment.
Thinking and Feeling
A thinker and a feeler can make for an interesting dynamic. The thinker can help sort through logical issues, but may be seen as harsh to a feeler. The feeler can help the thinker understand their emotions more, but can be seen as too emotional and flighty to a thinker. However, both of these types can make for a very healthy balance.
The INTJ prefers thinking to feeling (Using Extraverted Thinking). The INTJ wants the world to be logical and orderly. The INTJ wants conclusive plans of action and concrete understand of the way things works. This universal acceptance of logic is used to help the INTJ form their worldview.
The ESFP prefers feeling to thinking (Using Introverted Feeling). The ESFP has a rich inner world of morals, feelings, and ideals that it seeks to better understand. The ESFP tends to use this inner guidance as a force to express themselves in the world.
Judging and Perceiving
A judger and a perceiver can surprisingly get along pretty well. The judger prefers to make plans, and the perceiver has little problem with deferring. Problems can arise when the judger becomes to imposing, or when the perceiver’s flexibility of schedules can be seen as an annoyance.
The INTJ prefers judging to perceiving. The INTJ prefers structure, routine, and planning things out versus being spontaneous. The INTJ wants to bring structure, order, and organization to their environment.
The ESFP prefers the Perceiving preference to Judging. The ESFP prefers to leave time for decisions instead of coming to an immediate conclusion. The ESFP prefers new experiences and flexible possibilities to predictable moments.