How Self-Congratulatory Are You, Based on Your Personality Type

Some people find it easier to congratulate themselves when they have accomplished something, rather than seek this from others. Being self-congratulatory is not always a bad thing, sometimes it comes from a healthy sense of pride and accomplishment. For some people it can be challenging to really give themselves a pat on the back, even when they have done plenty to deserve this. Here is how self-congratulatory you can be, based on your personality type



INFJs do often struggle to really congratulate themselves, even when they have done something impressive. It takes a lot for them to feel like they are really good enough, since they set sometimes unrealistic standards for themselves. INFJs are harder on their own work than on anyone else, and so it becomes difficult for them to always see themselves clearly. For them it is better to congratulate others, than to really turn this inward. Sometimes the INFJ needs a person in their life who can help them learn to be more proud of their own skills and accomplishments.


ENFJs do have moments where they are self-congratulatory, and can actually show a sense of pride in their accomplishments. They do a lot for those around them and work hard to maintain a certain level of perfection in their tasks. While ENFJs can be rather hard on themselves, they do often know how to recognize when they have done a good job. They can be capable of congratulating themselves, even in front of others. Sometimes they do this because they want people to see their impressive accomplishments, and seek out a sense of pride from their loved ones.


INFPs don’t often find themselves being openly self-congratulatory, instead they can be a bit hard on themselves. They don’t often see the things they have accomplished and feel a need to congratulate themselves, especially not openly. They might have moments where they recognize something they are sincerely proud of, but they often want to maintain a humble attitude. INFPs do want to find a way to be proud of themselves, and they desire this inward acceptance which can take time for them to develop.


ENFPs can be self-congratulatory, sometimes they do this just to put of a certain image around others. They can also be this way more as a joke and a way to be playful with those around them. At the same time ENFPs do want to be proud of their skills and accomplishments and enjoy searching inward for this sense of congratulations. They do want to be able to give themselves credit for things they have done, instead of always needing it from others.



INTJs are certain self-congratulatory when they feel it is well-deserved. INTJs don’t like turning to others to achieve a sense of pride in themselves, instead they find it within. They do however hold themselves to very high standards and can have a hard time really feeling accomplished. They don’t congratulate themselves until the job is finished and has met their own very high standards. INTJs simply like to push themselves to always be improving and moving forward with their lives.


ENTJs can certainly be self-congratulatory, especially when they have accomplished something they are proud of. They enjoy being able to show a sense of pride in their own work and capabilities. ENTJs don’t want to constantly be searching elsewhere for validation, and so they do their best to be self-congratulatory when they have achieved something worthwhile. While they can be hard on themselves, that doesn’t mean they cannot also be proud of what they have done.


INTPs are not often self-congratulatory people, and can actually be rather tough on themselves. They sometimes struggle to really see what they have accomplished, always feeling like they could have done more or done better. INTPs can sometimes struggle to really recognize their own accomplishments and often feel like being self-congratulatory is insincere and useless. This can make them lack a sense of pride in their own abilities, even if they have accomplished quite a lot in their lives.


ENTPs can be self-congratulatory sometimes, but this can often be done just to see how people will respond. They find themselves acting rather proud around others and this is something they do for the sake of entertainment. ENTPs do their best to be proud of their accomplishments, wanting to seek inner validation. At the same time they can actually be hard on themselves and struggle to really be self-congratulatory when they should be.



ISTJs do have a sense of personal pride in their accomplishments, and so they will be self-congratulatory when they feel it is deserved. If they have done something which meets their own high standards then the ISTJ does want to give themselves credit for this. They know when they have worked hard and accomplished something to be proud of, and so they feel there is nothing wrong with a bit of self-congratulation.


ESTJs can certainly be self-congratulatory when they feel like this is deserved. They work hard in order to get things done and have very high standards for themselves. Since they hold themselves to these high standards they feel perfectly comfortable giving themselves a pat on the back when they have done a good job. ESTJs want to be able to accomplish things they are proud of, as well as things their loved ones can be proud of.


ISFJs can sometimes have a hard time being self-congratulatory, since this can lack a sense of modesty which they often strive for. ISFJs hold themselves to high standards and sometimes struggle to take time to really be proud of their accomplishments. They are so focused on taking care of their loved ones and making a comfortable home, that they sometimes forget to really congratulate themselves for a job well done.


ESFJs focus a lot of taking care of everyone else, but they do have a hard time really congratulating themselves sometimes. They might overlook their own accomplishments since they always feel like there is something else they should be doing, and probably doing it better. ESFJs can experience a sense of guilt if they sit and congratulate themselves too much, and often seek this type of validation from their loved ones.



ISTPs do enjoy being self-congratulatory from time to time, especially when they have done something to be proud of. They don’t feel guilty if they take time to appreciate their own work and accomplishments like some people do. For the ISTP it is rewarding to be able to take time for themselves and just revel in their own accomplishments and skills.


ESTPs don’t have a problem being self-congratulatory, especially if they feel like it is well-deserved. At the same time ESTPs do seek validation from their loved ones and want to hear that they are proud of their accomplishments. For the ESTP seeking validation from others is often more rewarding than finding it within themselves. They do have moments of being self-congratulatory, but this is often done around someone else.


ISFPs do have times when they are self-congratulatory, but this can often fade quickly. While they want to be capable of seeking inner validation, they do often need this from their loved ones as well. ISFPs want to feel like the people closest to them are proud of their accomplishments and skill. For them self-congratulations are something that takes times to really work on and become comfortable with.


While ESFPs can be self-congratulatory around others, this often comes from a desire to make these people proud of them. They want to impress others and often seek validation from those around them. For the ESFP it can be hard to sincerely congratulate themselves without the intentions of getting validation and pride from those around them.


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