Here’s How Good You Are at Mediating, According to Your Personality Type
Some people have a natural ability to mediate arguments and bring people together. Here is how good you are at mediating, according to your personality type.
INFJs are excellent when it comes to mediating between two people, since they know how to connect with different individuals. INFJs are great at being able to put themselves in the shoes of those around them, which helps them to understand where these people are coming from. They can often find a way to connect to both of the people in the argument, and will help them reach an understanding. INFJs can often recognize when people are misunderstanding one another and find a way to help them reach some common ground.
ENFJs are excellent mediators, and know how to keep the peace. When they witness to people arguing they can easily find a way to connect to both of them. For ENFJs it comes naturally to understand people and where they are coming from, which helps them bring people together. This ability to readily understand people makes it easy for the ENFJ to find a common ground between two people who are in a disagreement. This ability to connect with people and understand them makes the ENFJ natural at mediating.
INFPs can often understand people but they aren’t always the best mediators. They don’t enjoy having to constantly find a common ground between two people, and might find themselves morally opposed to one side. If the INFP has a strong personal opinion it can cause them to side with one person over the other. INFPs have a hard time holding back when they feel strongly about something, which makes it difficult for them to mediate sometimes.
ENFPs are charming and enthusiastic people, which can help them convince others to get along. They are often capable of seeing where people are coming from if they take the time, but ENFPs prefer not to constantly have to adjust their own views. They have strong internal beliefs and don’t want to compromise those beliefs for anything. ENFPs can certainly use their charisma in order to force people to get long, but they aren’t necessarily great mediators. They simply don’t enjoy having to be the go-between in most situations, and would rather let people take care of it themselves.
INTJs aren’t natural mediators, simply because they prefer to keep to themselves most of the time. INTJs value a sense of independence and would rather let people handle their own arguments. Especially since the INTJ often has their own opinion and beliefs about who might be right, and will likely want to interject with facts and evidence. This can often cause the argument to become worse, or at least prove one side to be correct. Mediating means reaching a common ground and helping people compromise, and INTJs aren’t really great at compromise or keeping the peace.
ENTJs can find ways to be mediators when it comes to the workplace, since they can find a common ground in this environment. For the most part ENTJs don’t enjoy having to be the peacekeepers and prefer to maintain a sense of independence. They would rather let people take care of their own problems, and aren’t great at connecting to the emotions of those around them. Their inability to connect to emotions can make it difficult for them to mediate arguments.
INTPs aren’t in tune with the emotions of others which can make mediating difficult for them. They would rather be in a situation where they can inform and use facts to assist a situation. While INTPs can often find a way to teach and inform people, this isn’t always the best way to mediate a disagreement. They aren’t natural peacekeepers since they prefer to maintain a sense of independence. INTPs also believe in being sincere and precise, and keeping the peace doesn’t really align with that.
ENTPs are charismatic people which does help them mediate in some situations. While they can find a way to bring people together over a common ground, it doesn’t always involve connecting based on whatever they were arguing about. ENTPs might use distractions in order to keep the peace, which isn’t exactly the same as being a good mediator. ENTPs don’t mind disagreements and actually enjoy being able to find ways to learn from them. The fact that ENTPs aren’t afraid of arguments can cause them to become less skilled as mediators.
ISTJs aren’t natural mediators since they aren’t in tune with the emotions of others. They prefer to have a sense of independence and don’t believe in constantly having to mediate between people. ISTJs do know how to reach a common ground but they aren’t naturally skilled at keeping the peace. They would rather let people handle their own struggles without having to interfere constantly.
ESTJs are not great at being mediators, since they often have a mentality that people should handle their own business. ESTJs value efficiency so they can become frustrated by people who let their feelings or arguments get in the way. They would rather see people find a way to overcome their problems so that they can get things done. ESTJs can sometimes find a way to mediate between people if they believe it is necessary in order to move forward, but they aren’t skilled at connecting to the emotions of others.
ISFJs are naturally good mediators and prefer being able to keep the peace. ISFJs can easily connect to the emotions of those around them and want to be able to help everyone get along. They enjoy maintaining a sense of harmony in their environment and will do their best to help people get along. ISFJs can often find a way to reach a common ground and can convince people to settle down and stop their bickering.
ESFJs are excellent mediators because they can naturally connect to the emotions of those around them. ESFJs can find a way to reach a common ground since they can put themselves in the shoes of the both people disagreeing. ESFJs are good at making those connections and will find a way to help people get along. They enjoy keeping the peace and become frustrated when people cannot seem to get along. ESFJs would rather find a way to mediate and keep a sense of harmony in their environment.
ISTPs can definitely find a common ground between people, which helps them find a way to mediate. They simply don’t always have a strong desire to help people come together, since they don’t enjoy hovering. ISTPs prefer to let people do their own things and aren’t fans of having to mediate between people, and would rather let them do their own thing. If they feel it is necessary to help mediate a situation, ISTPs might be overly informative in order to give people the facts.
ESTPs do know how to connect with people which can help them become better as mediators. While they know how to help people come together, but they can be overly informative sometimes. When ESTPs see people disagreeing they will want to inform them and give the facts, instead of simply keeping the peace. They aren’t afraid of witnessing a disagreement, and would rather be precise than simply find a way to mediate.
ISFPs aren’t natural mediators since they prefer to keep to themselves. They don’t enjoy hovering and forcing people to get along and would rather be sincere. ISFPs have strong inner morals which can sometimes get in the way when it comes to mediating arguments. They might have a strong opinion about the situation and will have a hard time just trying to keep the peace when they are asked to mediate.
ESFPs aren’t natural mediators simply because they have strong personal opinions about most things. They can have a hard time understanding others, especially if they cannot personally connect to their beliefs or opinions. For the ESFP it is best to be sincere, so they don’t believe in simply trying to smooth things over. They would rather figure out who is right, instead of simply trying to find a way to maintain a sense of peace.