Written By Kirsten Moodie
Here’s How Each Personality Type Handles Relationship Struggles
While relationship struggles are common for any couple, some people don’t cope with them all that well. Here is how each personality type handles relationship struggles.
INFJs definitely don’t enjoy having struggle in their relationships, but they are willing to work through them. For INFJs it is important to grow in order to keep themselves worthy of their loved ones. They will often try to find ways to improve the relationship and will be willing to work through things. INFJs may not enjoy receiving criticism but they will go above and beyond to please their loved ones. While INFJs don’t enjoy the struggles, they will certainly stand up and try to make things better.
ENFJs don’t enjoy having struggles in their relationships but they will push to make things right. They can often blame themselves when things go wrong and dislike making their loved ones unhappy. The ENFJ will attempt to solve the problem at hand, and will push their own boundaries to make it right. They will eventually become drained by this if their partner isn’t giving them enough effort in return. While ENFJs are more than willing to work through things, they will reach a breaking point where they eventually give up.
INFPs don’t enjoy feeling tension in their relationships, and want to make things right. They can have a hard time when they are faced with criticism though, and are especially sensitive to the words of their loved ones. INFPs need to feel safe in their relationship, and feel free to be themselves without judgement. They will certainly try and work through things, but they cannot handle constant criticism. They need to feel like things are working towards something positive in order to find ways to improve.
ENFPs don’t enjoy having strain on their relationships, and would rather keep things positive. They can struggle with negativity sometimes, and want to maintain a happier outlook on things. ENFPs understand that nothing is perfect and are always eager to grow and improve. While they enjoy growing and changing, ENFPs don’t enjoy feeling like someone else is pushing them to do so. If they only hear about their flaws the ENFP can have a hard time responding rationally and might become overly emotional.
INTJs are always willing to grow and improve, especially within their relationships. They understand that it is important to do their part in a romantic relationship, and are willing to do so for someone they care for. INTJs simply don’t enjoy unnecessary drama and can become frustrated with people who approach everything in an emotional way. If they cannot seem to reach a middle ground the INTJ will struggle to maintain this relationship. They need to be able to connect with someone who is willing to approach their problems from a more logical standpoint.
ENTJs don’t enjoy having to deal with constant relationship struggles, and would rather things be much simpler. For ENTJs it is important to approach things rationally, so they will have a hard time with relationships problems that cannot be solved with logic. If their partner is being overly emotional the ENTJ will have a hard time processing what the actual problem is. They don’t enjoy this type of struggle, and need someone who can approach them in a calm manner.
INTPs can have a hard time dealing with relationship struggles, especially when it comes to emotions. They don’t readily understand the emotions of others, and even hard a hard time processing their own feelings. They are caring people, they simply don’t do well having to handle constant emotional reactions. INTPs do believe in growth and are willing to change along with their partner, they just struggle to deal with too much criticism that doesn’t seem to come from a rational place.
ENTPs believe in constant growth, especially in their relationships. They understand that struggles will arise and are more than capable of handling them. ENTPs want to be able to find a partner who is willing to work through whatever problems they have. They enjoy being able to find ways to solve the problems and come out the other end improved and even stronger as a couple. ENTPs aren’t afraid of criticism, but they can struggle when it seems like a constant thing. They want their loved ones to appreciate them, but they are willing to make improvements for them.
ISTJs understand that struggles are bound to happen in a relationship and will work towards making things right. They want to provide for their loved ones, but can struggle when it comes to understanding emotions. ISTJs are more focused on practical means, and want to have real ways to solve the problems at hand. For ISTJs it is important to always be improving, they simply don’t want to have to handle someone who is constantly incapable of controlling their own emotions.
ESTJs don’t really handle relationship struggles all that well, and prefer that things work out fairly easily. They will rise to the occasion since ESTJs don’t like to fail at anything, but they would rather not have to handle emotional struggles. They believe in being with someone they can feel connected to without having to constantly deal with criticism. ESTJs don’t handle being criticized all that well, especially within a romantic relationship.
ISFJs work hard to please their loved ones, and they take their relationships very seriously. When the ISFJ feels like they are struggling they will try and find ways to improve the situation. They can often blame themselves when they cannot maintain a sense of harmony, and will want to work around whatever seems to go wrong. The ISFJ doesn’t expect perfection from their partner, but they can be rather hard on themselves.
ESFJs don’t expect their relationships to be perfect but they do care deeply for their loved ones. ESFJs can often blame themselves over time, especially if they cannot seem to make things work. They simply desire communication in their relationship in order to try and make things better. They don’t mind when their partner is emotional, and often feel more comfortable responding to this. ESFJs can struggle with criticism though, and take things harshly.
ISTPs don’t particularly enjoy relationship struggles, and much prefer to keep things simple. If their partner approaches them in an emotional manner, it can be rather difficult for them to understand. They don’t deal with feelings all that well, simply because they prefer to focus on facts. For ISTPs it is important that their partner approaches them in a calm and more understandable matter.
ESTPs can handle relationship struggles to an extent, but can become a bit sensitive to criticism. They don’t want to feel like they are failing, but they will certainly try to improve. ESTPs want to be able to please the people they love, especially their romantic relationships. They want to be able to live up to their expectations, and but can also have high expectations of their own.
ISFPs prefer relationships where things are honest and simple, and dislike having to constantly deal with struggles. ISFPs can have high expectations for their romantic connections, and are looking for something that is very real. They want to find someone who will accept them for who they are, and don’t enjoy receiving constant criticism.
ESFPs certainly don’t enjoy facing relationship struggles and can sometimes ignore them. They have a hard time adjusting their behaviors, and can be sensitive to criticism. ESFPs love being close to someone, but they have a hard time dealing with the negative aspects that can come along with relationships. They just don’t want to constantly be held back by someone who feels like pointing out their flaws.