Written By Kirsten Moodie
Here’s How Each Personality Type Handles Being Misunderstood
While some people expect to feel misunderstood, others struggle with it immensely. Here is how each personality type handles feeling misunderstood.
INFJs sincerely despise feeling misunderstood, but it is a constant struggle for them. It is hard for INFJs to feel truly understood by others, even the people they let close to them. They crave that connection, where someone can fully appreciate them and really get to the heart of who they are. While INFJs rarely feel completely understood by someone else, they also have a hard time letting people in deep enough for this to occur. They are fearful because so many times they have tried to let someone in and feel like those people don’t appreciate who they really are. While INFJ don’t like feeling misunderstood, it is a constant for them.
ENFJs rarely feel completely understood by people, but it is something they crave. They want people to feel connected to them and to truly understand who they are. ENFJs try to seek out connections with people who will put forth the effort to pull back their layers. They are willing to open up if they find someone who they feel will be capable of understanding them. ENFJs dislike feeling like their intentions aren’t fully being appreciated, and want to search for sincerity in others.
INFPs can often feel misunderstood, but they really don’t appreciate it. They try to be completely honest and don’t like when people have a hard time understanding them. INFPs want to feel understood, especially by their loved ones. While this is important for them, unfortunately their complex minds and their unique way of thinking can leave them feeling a bit disconnected. INFPs will continue to search for the person who can fully understand them, since this is extremely important to them.
ENFPs do often struggle with feeling misunderstood, which bothers them immensely. They might not make it obvious to others that they are hurt by it, but ENFPs do want to feel like people can understand them. They are complicated people with millions of thoughts going on inside of their minds at once, which is why people can sometimes struggle to understand them. Their complex inner minds make the ENFP hard to fully understand, with their train of thought taking them off in different directions. When the ENFP does find someone who understands them they will hold onto this with everything they have.
INTJs are no strangers to feeling misunderstood, but they have ways of getting around this. They are factual and precise people, who will present evidence to others so they can comprehend their intentions. INTJs are intelligent people who can amass a large amount of knowledge, which is why many people simply cannot follow them. When people are incapable of understanding the INTJ, they likely won’t waste much more of their time on that individual. They realize that few people truly can comprehend how their minds work, so they don’t take much offense to this.
ENTJs don’t mind feeling misunderstood, as long as they are respected. They realize that most people can’t fully follow their train of thought, and are okay with this as long as they follow their instructions. ENTJs often have detailed strategies on how they want things done, and value efficiency very much. They simply want people to trust their abilities, and will find ways to make things happen in order to prove themselves right. ENTJs do want to have someone close to them who understands how they think and feel, but they are willing to wait patiently for the right person.
INTPs struggle with feeling misunderstood, especially since it is something they crave. They truly want to feel connected to someone special, but searching for that right person is difficult. INTPs rarely feel truly understood by others, which truly bothers them. They want someone who can appreciate how complex their inner minds and emotions actually are. INTPs appear cold to others, which is not the case and is simply another misunderstood part of their personalities. They realize that most people won’t be able to fully follow their train of thought and their unique way of thinking, but they do crave someone who can come close.
ENTPs don’t mind when strangers misunderstand them, and often expect this. They know that their thoughts and inner mind is simply too difficult for most to comprehend. ENTPs simply don’t want to feel misunderstood by their loved ones and the people they care most for. They want the people they connect with to truly understand their intentions and their heart. ENTPs realize that their thoughts can be difficult to follow completely, they simply want to feel like their intentions are being misunderstood.
ISTJs are concise and relatively clear people, so they don’t often struggle with being misunderstood. They know how to make themselves known often the way they want to. When the ISTJ is misunderstood they will often search for ways to make things easier to understand for others. They are often skilled at communicating, even if they don’t always do it in a sensitive manner.
ESTJs are hardworking people who know how to make themselves and their intentions known. They don’t often struggle with being misunderstood as far as communication goes. There are times when the ESTJ feels misunderstood on a deeper level, especially for people who only see them as cold and focused. ESTJs are also caring people, so it often upsets them when their loved ones misunderstand them. They will try to ignore those feelings though and will work hard to push through their struggles.
ISFJs are often great at communicating and making their intentions known to others. They don’t often experience feeling misunderstood because they work hard to care for the well-being of others. It is often rather clear that ISFJs want to provide for their loved ones and that their main goal is make others happy. When they do feel misunderstood it can be a bit frustrating for them, they will try hard to find ways to make themselves clearer.
ESFJs are caring people who often have excellent communication skills. They work hard to make sure that others are taken care of, and this helps them make their intentions more obvious to others. While ESFJs don’t often feel misunderstood, there are times when they encounter people who don’t fully appreciate their natural desire to be a caretaker. When this happens the ESFJ will take this harshly, especially if it is coming from someone they love. They don’t want to feel misunderstood and might feel a bit attacked when this happens.
ISTPs don’t mind being misunderstood on occasion, especially since they don’t expect everyone to fully understand them or their intentions. When it comes to expressing a point ISTPs are excellent at being precise and clear. When they are informing others it is often difficult for them to be misunderstood in these situations. When it comes to who they are as a person, there are times when people fail to fully appreciate their depth. ISTPs don’t mind this though, and would rather wait for people who do understand them.
ESTPs are rarely concerned with being misunderstood, since people who don’t appreciate them aren’t often worth their time. ESTPs focus on working hard and taking care of the things that matter most to them. They are rather precise people so it doesn’t often occur that people will misunderstand them. They are also very detail oriented people which helps them become completely clear to people. When the ESTP does become misunderstood it can push them to find a way to make more sense to others.
ISFPs certainly don’t appreciate feeling misunderstood, especially by the people they love. They are free-spirits who follow their hearts with most of their choices in life. The fact that ISFPs can go after things in the moment, can cause people to misunderstand their deeper intentions. This can be upsetting for the ISFP, since they want the people close to them to really understand them and where they are coming from.
ESFPs can bounce from one thought to the next rather quickly, which sometimes leads to misunderstandings. They aren’t always great at communicating with people, since they are very in the moment people. This can lead to frustrating misunderstandings, which ultimately leave the ESFP feeling hurt and alienated. They want people to understand them and their intentions clearly, and become upset when this doesn’t happen easily.