INFJ Energy Vampire & Dealing with the Energy Vampire

Being around an energy vampire can be one of the most emotionally and mentally exhausting experiences. They have a way of sucking all the air out of the room, even if they aren’t being obvious about it. Energy vampires have a way of making the situation about them, and playing the victim is their specialty. They are great at getting sympathy from others, and some people are very susceptible to this type of behavior. The more empathetic or caring someone is, the more they become a target to the energy vampire. These people take from those around them without ever giving in return, which is something that becomes very draining after a while, even for the most giving of people.

For the INFJ the biggest struggle with energy vampires, is setting the right boundaries. Since they are naturally empathetic and giving people, they can become a target for these types of people. INFJs care about helping others, especially when they feel some sort of connection with that person. When the INFJ sees someone who is hurting or in pain they want to help ease that suffering, unfortunately this compassion makes them someone who energy vampires are naturally drawn to. They can sense that the INFJ will give them the time and affection that they want and need, and so they find themselves attaching to this.

INFJs and Energy Vampires

The biggest struggle for the INFJ is learning how to set boundaries, since they naturally want to help people. This doesn’t mean they are unaware when someone is draining their energy, but they do want to be able to help when someone is in need. They are drawn to people who are in pain which can make them targets for the energy vampires, since they often notice that sense of empathy from the INFJ. They will try their best to help this person and find ways to improve their situation, but their giving never seems to be enough. They continue to demand things from the energy, leaving them exhausted and they don’t always notice this at first. The energy vampire is great at playing the victim and making people feel guilty for not giving into them. They have a way of convincing people that they just need help, and INFJs gravitate towards that sometimes. The less mature INFJ is even more likely to be drawn to these types, since they have this desire to save people from themselves.

Being someone who is naturally giving is part of what connects the INFJ to these energy vampires, but it is important for them to recognize when this is happening. They will continue to feed on this empathy, and will leave the INFJ feeling emotionally, mentally and even physically exhausted. They don’t give in return, instead they continue to expect more and more from others until without feeling like they should reciprocate anything. When they are asked to help they play the victim, and make the INFJ sound like they are being selfish. This sense of guilt is something which can really hurt the INFJ, since they naturally struggle with it throughout their lives. Being someone who is so used to feeling guilty makes it hard for the INFJ to deal with this type of behavior from others, and so they can be a target of this type of energy sucking person. They can often see where this person is simply weak and struggling inside, and they want to help them but it is often beyond what they can deal with.

The INFJ Energy Vampire

Since someone who is an energy vampire is not connected to personality type, any type can be this type of person. Energy vampires often become this way because they have been through something traumatic in their lives, or they are dealing with giving too much to others for too long without taking care of themselves. It isn’t always something they are conscious of, and they might not realize at all that they are draining those around them in such a selfish way. Sometimes it is someone who simply needs to process what they have been through and seek out help so that they can heal from it. For the INFJ who exhibits these qualities, it can be difficult for them to realize it at first. They spend a lot of time focusing on others, and so they don’t realize when they might have something they should be working through or dealing with. Their desire to help other people can be the exact reason they start to drain those who will actually listen to them or help. Being drained themselves the INFJ might start to sap energy from people in hopes of recharging somehow. They are also very capable of manipulating others, which can make it even worse when the INFJ exhibits these energy vampire behaviors.

How to Handle Them

The first step towards dealing with the energy vampire is to recognize that you are dealing with one. Searching for the signs will help to notice if someone is really this type of person, and one major sign is feeling exhausted when you are around them. Sometimes this exhaustion can manifest physically and causes you to feel sick to your stomach or have headaches. INFJs will want to push themselves to help others, but they need to realize that there are some people they cannot dipleat themselves trying to save. An energy vampire never really gets enough from those around them, and so the INFJ needs to realize they are not to blame for this. They will need to set boundaries, which isn’t always easy for INFJs. It is important that they express when they have had enough, and even distance themselves from this person. This doesn’t mean they need to be cruel or cold, but they do need to learn how to protect themselves and their own peace from this type of person. Sometimes the best way to help is just by being compass


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