Written By Kirsten Moodie
How Each Personality Type Handles Feelings of Loneliness
We all know that introverts not only relish in their alone time, they also require it to stay emotionally healthy. There is a difference between being alone and feeling lonely, and even introverts experience feelings on loneliness. Here is how each personality type handles feeling lonely.
INFJs definitely enjoy spending a lot of time alone, but they are a complete paradox in the sense that they also crave connection. They desire to feel close to others, and will often become lonely when they don’t feel that connection. The INFJ doesn’t always feel the need to be physically close to people in order to feel an emotional connection with them. Simply having people in their lives that love them, is often enough to keep those feelings of loneliness at bay. INFJs will become depressingly lonely if they do not feel like they are connected to people on a deep and personal level. They have a lot of love to give and simply need to have people in their lives who they can trust.
ENFJs enjoy being around people and simply want to be there for the ones they love. ENFJs will often experience loneliness if they are kept from socializing for a long period of time. They do enjoy their space, since they spend most of their time assisting the needs of others, but too much space will make them very unhappy. If an ENFJ is feeling very lonely than it might help to get out and try some new things. They would do best to throw themselves into a situation where they have the chance the meet new people and make more connections. ENFJ are the ultimate people-people, they enjoy being around others and loneliness can be very hard on them.
INFPs will often experience feelings of loneliness because they truly value deep and sincere connections with others. They do not want to have a shallow meaningless friendship or romance, which can often leave them waiting for something real and meaningful. INFPs enjoy plenty of alone time, but they also truly enjoy simply sitting in silence with someone they love. INFPs just need to find the right people in their lives in order to help cope with their loneliness. It may take time but once they have found those people they will certainly do whatever they can to keep them in their lives. They may go deeper into an introverted shell if they feel too lonely, but eventually they will reach out the people when the time is right.
ENFPs do not enjoy feeling lonely, and will often find people to reach out to when they are left alone for too long. They love feeling connected with others and may feel sad if they cannot share themselves with people. ENFPs will often have many friends, and will even venture out to make new friends if they are feeling left alone for too long. They may experience an overwhelming feeling of loneliness for a while, but will often find people to spend time with in order to quell that problem. ENFPs truly love people and lucky for them the affection is often returned. Their great sense of humor and passion for life often draws many people towards the ENFP. This is good for them since they truly do not enjoy feeling lonely for too long.
INTPs often handle being alone very well and will rarely experience feelings of loneliness. They would much prefer spend their time alone than be around people who simply do not understand or appreciate their presence. It often takes a lot for an INTP to feel lonely, but when they do it is good to have people in their lives who will be supportive of them. Their need for alone time might make it difficult for an INTP to make lasting connections, but the right people will completely understand that this is simply who they are. If they feel like they are isolated from others and people are incapable of understanding them, the INTP will often experience feelings of loneliness. They may cope with these feelings better than most but that doesn’t mean they aren’t still difficult for them.
Even though ENTPs enjoy being able to do their own thing, they truly dislike feeling lonely. They want to be around people and often enjoy making new friends whenever they can. Just because they may become frustrated by people they find “stupid”, doesn’t mean ENTPs don’t thoroughly enjoy socializing. They want to feel connecting to their friends and family, and will often become frustrated if they are alone for far too long. Loneliness isn’t something that the ENTP particularly enjoys dealing with, and they will often not stay still long enough to truly experience those feelings. If they are feeling lonely the ENTP simply needs to go out in the world and meet some new people once again, or maybe reconnected with a close friend that they have drifted away from.
It is often rather rare for an INTJ to experience feelings of loneliness, since they often feel content to be on their own most of the time. INTJs will feel most lonely when they believe that the people around them simply do not understand them. Feeling misunderstood is a terrible thing for INTJs and will make them feel extremely lonely and disconnected from others. They only want to have people in their lives who are sincere and caring friends, which often makes them hold out for the right individuals. They would often rather be alone than build connections with people who are dishonest and shallow. It is important for INTJs to search for like-minded individuals, in order to cope with their loneliness.
ENTJs are often at their best when working with team, which means they enjoy being around others. ENTJs truly dislike feeling lonely, but will often be very good at building enough close connections to avoid this feeling. If they somehow become isolated and feel like the people around them are misunderstanding the ENTJ, they will become very lonely and unhappy. It is important for an ENTJ to have enough trustworthy friends to keep the feeling at ease.
ISTJs truly enjoy spending time alone, but they do become lonely if they do not have anyone special in their lives. They are often very good at finding people who understand them, which makes them able to avoid loneliness. ISTJs who find a romantic partner or one close friend, will often be more than happy with that connection. Having one person to spend time with when they are feeling sad or lonely, makes all the difference for an ISTJ.
ESTJs definitely do not enjoy feeling lonely, and will often become very unhappy if they are alone for too long. They enjoy being around loved ones and value building a sense of community with the people in their lives. If the ESTJ feels like the people around them are neglected them or do not care, they will become very upset. ESTJs truly do not like feeling lonely, since they are very people focused individuals.
ISFJs are often very family oriented individuals and will enjoy surrounding themselves with people they love. They do enjoy plenty of alone time, but will sacrifice this in order to make their loved ones happy. ISFJs dislike feeling lonely, especially since it is very important for them to feel connected with the people they care most about. If the ISFJ is alone for too long and feeling isolated from their loved ones, they will become extremely unhappy.
ESFJs often do not mind time alone, since they may become more productive during this time. They truly do not enjoy feeling lonely though and will often become very sad when this happens. ESFJs want to feel connected to people, especially the ones they love the most. They will often build a close circle of people and will become very sad if they do not feel connected to those loved ones at all times. ESFJs certainly don’t mind being alone, but they truly despise feeling lonely. The people in their lives are the most important thing to an ESFJ, and they try their hardest to make those people feel special and loved at all times.
ISTPs definitely enjoy their solitude, but that does not mean they dislike having connections. ISTPs want to have people in their lives who love them and respect their need for time alone. ISTPs can often cope with feelings of loneliness better than many other times, but that does not mean they enjoy it. They simply would prefer to wait for a more real connection with someone, rather than to quell the loneliness with a person who does not bring value to their lives.
ESTPs truly dislike feeling lonely, and will often do whatever it takes to avoid this. They often have many close friends that they keep in touch with, and may even dislike being alone for too long. They enjoy excitement in their lives and the need to be around people is often brought into this. They will come up with fun new activities in order to keep their group of friends entertained, which is great for the ESTP as well. They dislike being lonely but the ESTP is often very skilled at avoiding this.
ISFPs are very caring individuals and they do often enjoy plenty of time spent alone. Even though ISFPs enjoy their alone time, they still truly dislike being lonely. They would often prefer to spend time with loved ones in silence, than they would being completely alone. If an ISFP feel disconnected from the people they care about, they will often become very unhappy and depressed over this. ISFPs crave connection in order to feel satisfied and happy with their lives.
ESFPs love being around people and will become very upset if they are left alone for too long. They definitely dislike feeling neglected or lonely and will attempted to find ways to avoid this. When ESFPs are alone for too long they will often become needy and demanding, but this is simply because they crave affection from those around them. ESFPs are social individuals who truly do not like being alone for too long and will often become very unhappy if this occurs.
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