How Each Personality Type Deals With Conflict

We all deal with discord in different ways, some of of us panic, while others find ways to mediate the issues at hand. Here is how you probably handle conflict based on our personality type.


INFJs are often excellent at finding a way to resolve different conflicts. They are especially good at reaching understanding between people who are struggling with miscommunication. INFJs however, do not enjoy conflict most of the time and will do whatever they can to smooth things over. They are extremely empathetic individuals, which can make this type of discord extremely unsettling for them. They may simply attempt to bend to other people in order to avoid too much of a problem in the situation. They are great at finding the right things to say in order to avoid burning bridges or causing lasting damage between people. Only when the INFJ holds something at a vital internal value, will they be prepared to approach things in an argumentative way. They especially are not afraid of conflict when it comes to defending someone that they love, or someone who is being bullied.


ENFJs enjoy keeping harmony and because of this they might attempt to find ways to remedy a situation. They want to make sure that everyone is kept happy and truly do not want to make enemies of anyone. ENFJs will often work to say the right thing in order to keep everyone getting along. This sometimes backfires when they accidentally say too much in a given situation. They simply do not want people to get angry over pointless things and will do what they can to keep everyone in good spirits. This doesn’t mean ENFJs are pushovers, they are actually far from it. They stand up for what they truly believe in, but are often good at finding diplomatic ways to express what they believe.


INFPs do not mind conflict as long as people are expressing themselves in healthy and calm ways. If someone is becoming overly aggressive or shouting, the INFP is likely to become bothered by this. They do not mind having a disagreement with someone, as long as they are allowed to state their opinion fairly. They will often completely avoid dealing with someone who is becoming too worked up and will simply step away from the situation. They do not enjoy when things become too heated, and might become upset over this. INFPs are sensitive individuals, who simply enjoy when people are honest with them but not in an unnecessarily cruel way.


ENFPs dislike conflict, especially when it is with people they truly care for. They don’t want to burn any bridges and truly want people to like them for who they are. They will often attempt to pick their battles and only approach conflict when they feel they must stand up for their beliefs. ENFPs are certainly not pushovers and are perfectly capable of standing up for themselves. They simply do not enjoy arguing with people, especially people who can potentially say cruel or hurtful things. They want to get along with others and prefer to look towards the more positive aspects of life. They are not naturally violent people, and prefer to maintain discussions in a more relaxed way.


INTPs often have a very logical way of approaching conflict and will attempt to assess the situation. They will often observe for a bit in order to figure out what exactly is going on. INTPs will analyze the conflict and attempt to find a fair way to resolve the situation. They will almost always use a logical approach and hope to find the best way to mend things. They are often rather skilled at figuring out what needs to be done, as long as they are willing to share this with others. Oftentimes the INTP will simply let the conflict slide when it pertains to themselves, especially if they think it will not occur again.


ENTPs do not mind conflict and may even spend time seeking it out. They absolutely love any chance to debate something and are great at making their opinions known. They often see arguments as an opportunity to learn or even educate others. ENTPs truly enjoy debating various topics with people, which often makes them completely at ease with conflict. If they feel like someone is being foolish though, the ENTP will find them extremely easy to ignore or they will simply shut them down with pleasure.


INTJs will often avoid conflict, especially if they feel like it is a waste of their energy. They aren’t afraid of conflict, but simply do not want to participate in it. This is especially the case if the conflict seems overly emotional, since INTJs are not fans of these types of situations. They prefer to make decisions logically and won’t mind a situation that they see a logical solution for. They will often keep a completely calm exterior while they attempt to figure out the best way to solve the problem or crush the conflict.


ENTJs definitely do not mind conflict at all, and often see it as an opportunity to grow. They face these challenges head on and might even take a little bit of pleasure in them. If someone is challenging the ENTJ, they will not be afraid to stand against that person at all. At the same time, ENTJs enjoy hearing what people have to say and do enjoy the chance to hear other peoples opinions. Discord is not something that makes an ENTJ uncomfortable, since they spend most of their lives taking on new challenges and hurdles.


ISTJs definitely avoid conflict when they can, since they prefer to keep things peaceful and relaxed. They are hard-working individuals and dislike when people attempt to bring foolish drama into their lives. ISTJs are not afraid of standing up for themselves though, and will do so if they feel it is necessary. They will attempt to avoid conflict with strangers, since they see no point in arguing with them. With people close to them though, the ISTJ will approach the conflict by trying to remedy the situation.


ESTJs often do not mind conflict, and will approach it head on. They enjoy taking control of most situations and will often attempt to fix things themselves. ESTJs are not afraid of arguing with people and are often rather aggressive individuals. They are perfectly capable of handling conflict and will shut the situation down however they feel it is necessary. They do enjoy keeping harmony in their household, but only if everything is running efficiently.


ISFJs definitely dislike conflict and prefer harmony more than anything else. They are always working to keep their environment peaceful and calm. They want to make their loves ones happy and will often see it as a failure if they cannot do so. If people are arguing in their group, ISFJs might even blame themselves for not being able to keep everyone at peace with each other. They often take the responsibility on themselves to ensure that everyone is getting along and feeling happy.


ESFJs definitely aren’t fans of conflict and will often work very hard to maintain harmony. They would much prefer that everyone get along and become anxious and uneasy when things become too heated. They are perfectly capable of standing up for themselves and are even more capable of standing up for the people they care about. If the ESFJ feels like someone is being cruel to someone they love, this will often bring out a more aggressive side of their personality. In general though, ESFJs prefer to keep the peace and will often find just the right words to ensure that everyone is getting along.


ISTPs are not afraid of conflict, but they will often avoid it at any cost. They prefer to keep the peace, mostly for their own sake. They enjoy being alone and dislike when people attempt to push their problems onto them. ISTPs are logic minded individuals and might be good at finding ways to solve whatever problem is at hand. If they feel like they can fix the issues, then they will definitely attempt to do so. If people are simply being overly emotional though, the ISTP will step away from the situation quickly.


ESTPs don’t enjoy conflict with their loved ones and will often attempt to keep the peace. They value the people closest to them and truly don’t want to be disliked by them. When it comes to strangers though, ESTPs will sometimes snap on people who are frustrating them. They often approach conflict in the moment and will attempt to smooth things over later one. They don’t overthink the situation and will often just react to how they are feeling in that present moment.


ISFPs truly dislike conflict and will often attempt to do whatever they can to keep the peace. They will always stand up for what they truly believe in and will not avoid conflict if they feel like someone is attempting to control them or their feelings. ISFPs simply want to enjoy life and dislike making people angry or upset. They have strong internal morals, which often guide them when it comes to conflict situations.


ESFPs definitely do not enjoy conflict and will often do whatever it takes to keep the peace in a situation. They want to have fun and arguing will often disrupt their enjoyment of life. When people attempt to push the ESFP around they will often become upset and try to find ways to avoid this. They truly dislike arguing and are often good at avoiding them as much as possible.


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