Written By Kirsten Moodie
Here’s How Well You Handle Toxic People, Based on Your Personality Type
We are all faced with toxic individuals at some point in our lives, for some it can be more difficult to handle than others. Here is how well you cope with toxic behavior, based on your personality type.
INFJs can be magnets for toxic people, since they are so compassionate and understanding. Abusive people can often be drawn towards the warm and giving nature of the INFJ. They often try to help and fix these individuals, and might see the good in them. INFJs will give these people many chances and try hard to help them, even when those people are being somewhat abusive towards them. While INFJs will try and help these individuals, they do have a limit though and once it has been reached the INFJ will shut that person out completely. They often struggle with this during their younger years, but as they grow up they often learn to spot these individuals much better.
ENFJs are often magnets for manipulative and toxic people, and struggle to overcome this. They are compassionate and loving people who try to provide for those around them. ENFJs often see the good in people and want to try and help them overcome their problems. They can sometimes struggle with the idea of wanting to save people who seem to be struggling, which can get the ENFJ in trouble sometimes. They can continue to forgive these people, until they finally reach their breaking point and shut them out completely.
INFPs are very intuitive but sometimes they look past that and try to see the best in people. They care deeply about others and want to help inspire them to improve. INFPs sensitive nature can sometimes draw in the more toxic people around them, which is a bit struggle for them sometimes. INFPs want to be able to see past the negative traits, but they don’t want to drag themselves down doing it. Getting sucked into the manipulation of toxic people can be something that INFPs struggle with at a young age, but they likely overcome it as they get older.
ENFPs dislike being around manipulative people, and often try to avoid this. They are highly intuitive and can often sense when someone is lying to them. While ENFPs are good at reading people, they occasionally look past their initial judgements. When the ENFP ignores their better judgement they can find themselves holding out hope that someone might change. They are caring people who simply want to connect with others, and want to believe that people can change. ENFPs can sometimes get into tough situations because of this, but eventually they will move on when they must.
INTJs don’t enjoy being around toxic people, and will avoid them completely. They don’t want to waste their time or energy on someone who they cannot trust. INTJs are logical people, who will assess a situation without letting their feelings get in the way. INTJs aren’t interested in trying to save someone from themselves, and would much rather focus on people who are stable and trustworthy. Once they witness someone’s toxic behaviors the INTJ will likely remove them from their lives completely.
ENTJs certainly don’t associate themselves with toxic people, and would rather remove them from their lives. ENTJs can sometimes be required to work around certain toxic individuals and in this case they can definitely handle them. They know how to operate around these types, and will simply not allow them to take control. ENTJs know how to handle people they do not trust, and will like enact a reverse manipulation so that they can maintain sense of control.
INTPs definitely don’t enjoy feeling manipulative, and will become very frustrated by this. While INTPs are logical and analytical people, they can sometimes struggle when it comes to avoiding toxic people. They are naturally curious, and in some cases they might find themselves drawn to this odd behavior. The INTP will want to find ways to understand someone who behaves in a way that seems a bit toxic, and might even want to solve and fix them. When the INTP matures though they will likely find themselves uninterested in this type of behavior.
ENTPs are naturally curious people who want to find ways to figure people out. When they meet someone who is toxic the ENTP might develop the desire to keep a close eye on them. They strive to understand others, as a means of protecting themselves against their behavior in the future. ENTPs also enjoy being able to predict other people’s behaviors, which requires some observation. They certainly won’t trust someone who appears toxic, but that doesn’t mean they won’t find themselves interested in understanding them.
ISTJs can sometimes find themselves pulled in by toxic people, but they will eventually recognize the behaviors. Once the ISTJ sees that someone is only going to abuse them, they will quickly cut them out of their lives. They don’t want to waste time with people they cannot trust and will definitely want to step away from those individuals. ISTJs value loyalty more than anything and want to have people around them who they can truly trust.
ESTJs value honesty and loyalty very much and dislike people they cannot rely on. In their younger years they might find themselves caught up in the webs of toxic people, but they aren’t afraid to cut them loose. ESTJs will walk away from a bad relationship and will ultimately do what is right for them in the end. If someone is clearly toxic for them, the ESTJ will find ways to remove them from their lives.
ISFJs can have a hard time when it comes to toxic people, and might give into them too much. They are compassionate and warm individuals, which can make them magnets for toxic people. When someone is manipulative and abusive they are often drawn towards people who are giving, much like the ISFJ. They can have a hard time letting go of those people, and want to find ways to fix their situation. They might believe they can help that person if they simply try hard enough, which puts them in a bad situation.
ESFJs are caring and giving people, who can be taken advantage of because of this. Toxic people are often drawn to the compassionate and warm nature of the ESFJ, making them rather easy targets. They have a hard time letting go when they care for someone, and might want to fix those people. ESFJs often see the best in others, even when that person is hurting them in some way. ESFJs can take a while to realize when it is time to step away from a relationship, but eventually they will reach their breaking point.
ISTPs value their independence and dislike being caught up in other people’s deceit. ISTPs enjoy being on their own most of the time, which can help them avoid toxic people. They aren’t usually the target of manipulation, since they can easily see past it. ISTPs not enjoy being around people who try to deceive them and will avoid being in their lives entirely.
ESTPs can sometimes get caught into the web of toxic people, without fully realizing it. They can become easy targets since they are naturally drawn to people who know how to play certain games. ESTPs are bored easily and really need to be around individuals who can keep them entertained. This can sometimes lead them towards individuals who are a bit controlling an manipulative.
ISFPs are generous and kind people, which can sometimes lead them towards toxic individuals. They dislike feeling manipulated but can sometimes look past the negative traits of people. ISFPs often see the best in others and this includes the more manipulative and toxic types. While ISFPs can easily be drawn into these webs, as they get older they become better at avoiding it.
ESFPs can have a hard time recognizing toxic behavior, which sometimes leads them into negative situations. They don’t enjoy feeling controlled, but they have a hard time seeing past their feelings towards someone. ESFPs can get so caught up in the moment that they fail to fully recognize when they are being manipulated by someone they love.