ENTJ Conflict: Dealing with and Managing Conflict as an ENTJ

Conflict is simply a natural part of life, whether it is something we enjoy or not. Conflict is part of how we come to conclusions about things and sometimes how we advance in our careers or relationships. For some people, conflict is where they thrive and is certainly not something they are afraid of. These people enjoy debating and realize that sometimes conflict is how they grow and improve themselves. There are other people who become stressed with conflict, and really hate being around stressful situations. For these people criticism is difficult and exhausting, and so they would rather avoid it at all costs.

When it comes to conflict the ENTJ is rarely afraid of it, but it does depend on the type of conflict they are dealing with. For them it is only valid if the conflict seems necessary to them, or like it will help them grow and achieve something important. When it comes to emotional or irrational conflicts, the ENTJ often just sees this as drama and wants to avoid it at all costs. For them it is more about investing their time and energy into something which is going to yield rewarding results. When it comes to wasting their time involved in pointless conflicts, the ENTJ would certainly rather find something more useful or enjoyable to occupy their time.

Acceptable Conflict

ENTJs are open to conflict in situations where they know it is completely necessary. Sometimes the workplace will have conflict, and the ENTJ is often good at navigating this. They are natural problem solvers and so the ENTJ will go into thinking mode, wanting to come up with the best strategy to fix the issues at hand. ENTJs are very focused on getting things done and value efficiency. For them conflict is simply a part of life, especially in environments where they have to problem solve. They are often comfortable or even drawn to leadership roles, which means being okay with conflict and not shying away from it. The ENTJ realize that certain conflicts will always arise when they have to manage so many things themselves, and they are prepared for this. ENTJs are actually great at preparing themselves for various situations, never wanting to enter into something without being ready for it. Because of this ENTJs are not fearful of conflict, especially if there is an opportunity to grow from it. They are good at assessing the situation and figuring out whether or not it is worth their time. When it comes to resolving conflicts the ENTJ uses their minds to do this, wanting to figure out a strategic plan to make sure everything falls into place accordingly.

ENTJs are naturally a bit more aggressive than most people, and so they can be intimidating to others at times. They don’t do this to make others feel uneasy, it is just who they are and a natural part of their personality. When the ENTJ wants something they go after it, without fear of hesitation. They don’t want anything to stand in their way or prevent them from achieving their goals. They also don’t expect help or guidance from others, and are independent people when it comes to getting things done. This doesn’t mean they are incapable of turning to others though, ENTJs just don’t want to expect people to carry them through life. For the ENTJ it is important to always fight for their beliefs and their goals, instead of remaining stagnant and unfocused. 

When Conflict Is Stressful

For the ENTJ conflict which is based on emotions and is irrational, is extremely stressful. They tend to avoid drama or anything which doesn’t hold value to them, and so conflict based on people’s personal lives or drama is going to leave them exhausted. ENTJs would rather focus on things which hold a meaning to them, or help them move towards the life they want to have. Of course they will sometimes have to deal with emotional conflict, especially when it is connected to someone they love. Even though they might be tossed into these situations, it can be rather draining for the ENTJ. They will try their best to problem solve and find ways to resolve whatever conflict has arisen, but if the other person is being irrational and won’t be calmed then this can make it difficult for the ENTJ to find some sort of helpful solution. They want to be able to help make things right and they do care when their loved ones are upset, but for the ENTJ this just isn’t something they know how to easily deal with. They are much more focused on logic and reason than they are emotional crisis.

How the Manage.

For the ENTJ normal conflicts are easy to manage, it is emotional ones which can be challenging for them. When the people around them are being emotionally charged or even a bit irrational, it can be hard for them to find a way to deal with this. It is important for the ENTJ to take a step back when this happens and try to find some sort of compromise. They need to be able to communicate with their loved ones and express to them how difficult this type of emotional outburst is for them to deal with. Of course it is best if they can deliver this with some tact, but ENTJs do best with a partner or loved ones who can understand their point of view and compromise as well. ENTJs are often willing to do a lot for the people they love, but they just aren’t naturally comfortable with emotional expressions as they don’t know how to fix these problems or solve these types of conflict. For the ENTJ it is important not to blame themselves if this feels a bit draining, especially if they need to take a moment away from the stress of it all.