Just How Much Do You Like to Meddle, Based on Your Personality Type

Some people find themselves constantly meddling in the lives of others, but sometimes this is done because they care deeply and want to help. Regardless not everyone is comfortable with being meddled with and would rather have their space. So here is how much you tend to meddle in others lives, based on your personality type.



INFJs try not to meddle, especially when someone really doesn’t want their privacy invaded. While they aren’t likely to inject themselves into people’s lives who they aren’t close, it can be different for the people they really care for. When the INFJ is truly close to someone they can have a hard time keeping to themselves, and so sometimes they might meddle a bit. They don’t do this for any negative reasons, they simply have a hard time keeping out of things. They want to know about their loved ones and what they are going through and do their best to help them better their lives.


ENFJs can definitely be meddlers, especially with the people they care for most. They have a hard time keeping to themselves and want to do whatever they can to help the people around them. When they can see that someone they love needs help, the ENFJ struggles to really keep themselves out of their business. They will certainly seek to meddle in hopes that it can make a difference and really help this person improve their lives. ENFJs can be seen as nosey or meddlers because of this, but it comes from a place of caring.


INFPs don’t like invading people’s personal or emotional space, and would rather earn this. They don’t like meddling or trying to control others, instead they would rather let them do as they please. For the most part INFPs become annoyed with people who like to meddle, especially when they have made it clear they need their space. They prefer a sense of independence and try to provide this for their loved ones as well. There are times when INFPs might become overly curious and so they might meddle a bit, but they do try not to.


ENFPs believe in giving people their space and independence, but sometimes they become too curious for their own good. There are times when they might meddle out of sheer curiosity, or because they feel like there is a reason they should interfere. Most of the time ENFPs try not to let themselves meddle in other people’s personal choices, since they believe in letting people be themselves and not trying to constantly fix things for them.



INTJs don’t enjoy being around meddlers, mostly because they prefer the space to do things on their own. They don’t appreciate when people attempt to be controlling or stick their nose where it does not belong. INTJs often try to respect this in others lives as well, and so they don’t like meddling. Most of the time they will only interfere when someone actually asks for the help, and shows that they really need it. There might be rare occasions where the INTJ decides to meddle, but they try to avoid this.


ENTJs usually try to avoid meddling since they do believe in respecting people’s choices. At the same time ENTJs have a tendency to take control over most situations and so they might not even realize that they are meddling a bit. They want to take care of their loved ones and when they recognize that they need the help, they might instinctively meddle without realizing that they might be invaded where they weren’t invited. For the ENTJ it isn’t about being nosey, it is about being as helpful as they can.


INTPs try not to meddle, especially not in a more obvious manner. They like to give people space to do their own things, and believe in a sense of independence. When people try to meddle in the INTPs life, this is extremely frustrating for them. Because of this they do their best to avoid meddling in their loved ones lives, especially if they see not good reason why they should. They might be curious but they do their best to give people space, instead of seeking to invade their privacy.


ENTPs don’t usually like meddlers all that much, especially since they enjoy their privacy. If someone continues to try and meddle in their lives they might see this as an attempt to grab control. ENTPs do their best to avoid meddling in other people’s lives, although they do have a strong curious side to their personalities. Sometimes their curiosity gets the best of them and they find themselves meddling a bit simply because they want to figure out what is going on.



ISTJs aren’t normally meddlers, especially if someone makes it clear they want space. At the same time ISTJs want to take care of their loved ones, and if they see someone struggling they might have a hard time holding themselves back. They don’t want to invade their privacy but this can become a difficult internal battle when the ISTJ knows they can actually help and make a difference. They might try to meddle in a way that is more subtle, so that they can get away with it.


ESTJs try not to meddle but they can have a hard time holding themselves back when someone clearly needs their help. If someone they love is floundering and really needs assistance, they might jump in without really thinking about the invasion of privacy. ESTJs care about their loved ones and want to make sure they aren’t making too many mistakes, so sometimes they feel like the only way to really help them is to meddle a bit.


ISFJs don’t want to upset their loved ones but they do sometimes have a hard time not meddling. They want to help those around them and when they see someone is in need, they don’t find it easy to hold back. ISFJs meddle when they care about someone and want to see them happy. They don’t do this for malicious reasons, but simply because they want to do their best to improve the well-being of those around them.


ESFJs do sometimes meddle, especially when they see that someone is in serious need of their help. When they care about someone they want to do whatever it takes to make them happy, even if this means invading their privacy a bit. ESFJs don’t do this maliciously but this can be something that upset their loved ones from time to time. When they see someone struggling it is hard for the ESFJ to stop themselves from stepping in and trying to help.



ISTPs don’t like meddling and become frustrated with people who cannot keep to themselves. If someone asks for help that is entirely different, but they don’t seek to stick their nose where it does not belong. ISTPs care about their loved ones but that also means they care about respecting their space and their choices. For them meddling is rude and shows a lack of respect for someone’s privacy.


While ESTPs believe in independence and want to give their loved ones space, they do have moments of meddling. If they feel like someone is in serious need of their help they might have a hard time holding back. ESTPs don’t want to upset anyone by doing this, but sometimes they feel like they can really make a difference and help them improve their situation. If they feel as though they can help their loved one, the ESTP might meddle just a bit.


ISFPs aren’t usually meddlers, mostly because they enjoy privacy in most of their relationships. When they are very close to someone they might have moments of meddling, mostly because they are curious and don’t like being shut out from this person’s life. When they have a deep connection the ISFP wants this to be something special, and this means sharing just about everything.


ESFPs can sometimes be meddlers, sometimes out of curiosity and sometimes just because they care. They want to be there for their loved ones and sometimes find themselves meddling without really meaning to. Sometimes ESFPs think they know what is best for someone, and so they stick their nose in where they might not be entirely welcomed. This comes from a place of caring, but it can sometimes be something that bothers those around them.


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