Written By Kirsten Moodie
Here’s How You Handle Being Chastised, Based on Your Personality Type
While being reprimanded for our mistakes is never a comfortable situation, some people handle it much better than others. Here is how you handle being chastised, based on your personality type.
INFJs certainly don’t enjoy being chastised for their behavior, and might become frustrated by this. They want to feel comfortable to be themselves and sometimes that includes making a few mistakes. INFJs will take being reprimanded rather harshly when it comes from someone they love and care for. INFJs don’t enjoy constantly being reprimanded, especially since they can already be rather hard on themselves. They need support and understanding, and really don’t enjoy someone who seeks to chastise them constantly.
ENFJs often don’t respond well to being chastised, and might become a bit defensive. They are often very responsible people, who prefer to take care of things themselves. ENFJs are already very hard on themselves, and don’t really appreciate when others seek to put them in their place. ENFJs can become rather upset when their loved ones try to reprimand them, and will take this rather harshly. ENFJs seek to be the best they can at everything they do, and struggle when people act like they have failed.
INFPs definitely don’t enjoy being chastised by others, and can become very defensive in these situations. They prefer to feel free to make their own choices, and have a strong moral compass. INFPs are aware when they have made an error in judgement, and dislike when someone tries to bring this to their attention. They need time and space to figure out their own actions, and don’t want people trying to put them down for things. INFPs can also struggle when they feel reprimanded in a relationship, and can take certain criticism rather harshly.
ENFPs are strong people, but there are some things they just don’t handle well and being chastised is one of those things. When the ENFP feels like people are reprimanding them for something they have done wrong, it instantly feels like criticism. They feel as though they are being torn down, and like their very character is being attacked. It can be difficult for ENFPs to handle being chastised, and they might find themselves become angry or depressed over it. They need plenty of space to be themselves, which often includes freedom to make a few mistakes.
INTJs definitely don’t handle being chastised well, which is actually something that shows up from a young age. They don’t enjoy being told that they have done something wrong, and would rather figure these things out for themselves. If someone tries to reprimand the INTJ for their errors, they can become defensive and angry. They have strong morals, but they are very personal and private about them. INTJs don’t want others trying to dictate what they should and should not do, and prefer to make these decisions on their own.
ENTJs aren’t fans of being chastised by others, and can become both angry and defensive. ENTJs prefer to be in control of their own actions without feeling like someone else is attempting to tell them what they should do. ENTJs will often become angry with someone who attempts to reprimand them, which can sometimes be difficult in relationships. They need someone who doesn’t accuse the ENTJ of making mistakes, but rather points out their own personal needs in a calmly manner.
INTPs don’t enjoy being chastised, especially if it is delivered in an unreasonable manner. They can definitely receive criticism in a calm and logical explanation, and are fully aware that they make mistakes. INTPs can already be hard on themselves though, so when someone is reprimanding them continuously, it can deeply upset them. They need to feel like their mistakes can be fixed, and like they can move on from whatever they have done wrong. If the person shows the INTP how they can improve or fix their mistakes, it will be received much better.
ENTPs definitely don’t enjoy being chastised, especially if it is delivered without any real reasonable explanation. For ENTPs it is important to continue growing, so they welcome someone trying to help them on this journey. If someone tells them they have made an error in the judgment, the ENTP simply wants proof along with some helpful ways to fix the problem. They dislike when someone approaches them with useless criticism, especially someone they love and care for. ENTPs can become hurt by this sort of attack, and might feel like they are failing someone they love.
ISTJs can often handle a certain level or chastisement, as long as it is delivered in a helpful manner. They are hardworking people who will take their mistakes as a way to improve. When someone informs the ISTJ that they have made an error in judgment, they will want evidence and tips on how to improve. They will continue to work hard and will often push themselves to be even better than before. ISTJs take everything as an opportunity to improve on themselves, as long as it is delivered in a practical manner.
ESTJs can struggle when it comes to being reprimanded, often because they strive for a certain level of perfection. When the ESTJ has made a mistake they want to be shown how they can improve for the future. They don’t enjoy being seen as flawed, and want to push themselves to be better than those around them. ESTJs might take certain chastising harshly, especially if it is delivered by someone they care for. They might become defensive in some situations, and will try and prove that they have done nothing wrong.
ISFJs definitely don’t handle being chastised very well, and can internalize this in a negative way. ISFJs want to be seen as giving people, and strive to make sure their loved ones are cared for. If someone tells them they have made a mistakes that requires reprimanding, the ISFJ will become deeply hurt by this. They might become defensive, in hopes of proving that they have done nothing wrong. Ultimately they will try to find a way to fix their mistake, and will work towards creating a sense of harmony in their world once again.
ESFJs can sometimes struggle when they feel chastised by someone, especially if it is a person they care for. They dislike making mistakes and work hard to avoid disappointing others. When the ESFJ has been reprimanded they can take this to heart, and might beat themselves up over it emotionally. They will likely spend a lot of time reflecting and will try to find a way to fix their mistakes. While ESFJs might work on improving, they can also take this criticism in a more defensive and frustrated manner.
ISTPs don’t appreciate being reprimanded by others, and might become rather displeased by this. They don’t enjoy having people tell them what they should and should not to, especially in a judgmental manner. ISTPs are independent people who strive to live in the present, and experience life on their own terms. When someone attempts to chastise them, they will either become angry, or ignore that person completely. If their loved ones are upset with the ISTP, they need to approach them in a calm and logical manner and not in a tone of chastising.
ESTPs can be surprisingly hard on themselves, and might take chastisement rather harshly. If their loved ones reprimand them for a mistake, they will either become hurt or very defensive. ESTPs want to be seen as impressive to the people around them, and dislike when people point out their flaws. If they feel like they might lose someone, the ESTP will try and work on their mistakes in order to prove themselves. Ultimately though, they don’t handle being chastised well at all, and can become rather frustrated by this.
ISFPs are internal and emotional people, who believe in following their strong sense of morals. If someone attempts to chastise them for their actions, they can become rather defensive. ISFPs are aware of their own actions and mistakes, and don’t need other people pointing them out. This can often feel like they are being put down or like their character is being attacked by someone. ISFPs prefer to live in a safe space, where they aren’t judged or reprimanded when they aren’t perfect.
ESFPs definitely don’t enjoy being chastised and can become very defensive in these situations. They want to enjoy life, without someone constantly pointing out what they have done wrong. ESFPs won’t often take being reprimanded very well, and will usually take it as harsh criticism. Instead ESFPs would rather someone approach them in a more personable way, and explain why they feel personally hurt. If that person isn’t expressing feelings and instead just reprimanding the ESFP, they will become hurt and defensive.