Written By Kirsten Moodie
Here’s How Good You Are at Apologizing, Based on Your Personality Type
Apologizing can be a difficult task for anyone, since it seems to be a rather harsh blow of embarrassment. Some people are much more capable of apologizing than others, and seem to have a natural ability for making amends. Here is how good each personality type is at apologizing.
INFJs are definitely capable of apologizing and might even do it a bit too much. When they care about someone they can take a lot of blame upon themselves for not doing things perfectly for them. INFJs might apologize if they feel like they aren’t doing enough, and become extremely hard on themselves. They certainly won’t apologize to people they don’t feel deserve their remorse though, and can be a bit stubborn in those situations. INFJs aren’t incapable of apologizing though, especially when they feel guilty for something and believe they need to make amends.
ENFJs are definitely good at apologizing when they feel like it is deserved. They can be somewhat hard on themselves and don’t enjoy feeling like they have failed someone they love. If the ENFJ feels like they need to apologize in order to make someone feel happier with them, they will certainly take that step. At the same time ENFJs can be a bit stubborn and want to be viewed as perfect by most people. They can struggle to apologize when they don’t feel like they should back down in this way, and would rather avoid the discussion altogether.
INFPs can be a bit stubborn sometimes, and don’t always see the need for apologizing. Most of their actions are done intentionally, so they can feel just in their choices. When the INFP has upset someone they will likely take the time to consider if it merits an apology or not. They have very strong morals and want to follow what they believe is right, which sometimes means standing their ground. If the INFP has truly hurt someone they love they will likely apologize and try to make amends. They are comfortable apologizing when they believe it is something they should truly do.
ENFPs can be stubborn people, but they are capable of apologizing when it is deserved. They can sometimes say or do hurtful things without intending to at all, and once they realize they have made a mistake they will certainly try to make amends. ENFPs don’t enjoy upsetting their loved ones, and want to find any way possible to make things better. They aren’t too proud to apologize when they believe it is necessary to salvage their relationships. ENFPs don’t enjoy seeing people hurt, especially if they were the ones causing this.
INTJs can struggle with apologizing since most of their actions are done rather intentionally. They think things through before jumping into something, which means they will rarely feel the need to make amends. If the INTJ has done something that hurt someone else, they will take time to think it through and try to figure out if it merits an apology. They won’t simply apologize to someone because it is requested, and have a bit more pride than that. INTJs will only apologize if a loved ones has been hurt and they realize they might have been a bit harsh in their delivery. They aren’t ignorant people and are often aware that they can be a bit tactless sometimes for the sake of accuracy.
ENTJs are not incapable of apologizing, but they can be a bit stubborn about it. They prefer to focus on getting things done and struggle when people hold them back with emotional issues. ENTJs don’t do things to intentionally upset someone, they are simply focused on efficiency above most other things. If they can logically see that they have taken things too far and have hurt someone, they are more than capable of apologizing especially if it is someone they care for. ENTJs just don’t feel the need to constantly apologize for their actions, since most people are aware that they just want to focus on getting things done.
INTPs are definitely capable of apologizing when they have hurt someone and aren’t too prideful for it. They certainly won’t just apologize for no reason though, and dislike embarrassing themselves in this way. If the INTP has analyzed the situation and feels like they should make amends, then they will find a way to make that next step. It can be a long and painful process for them, struggling with the guilt and trying to figure out if they are right to say sorry. INTPs just aren’t great at understanding emotions, especially since they will try to analyze and use facts to figure them out.
ENTPs aren’t incapable of apologizing, especially if they can see they have been a bit harsh. They are fully aware of their occasionally lack of tact, and don’t want to do anything to truly hurt people. ENTPs simply enjoy exploring new things and want to live in a world of possibilities. ENTPs will apologize when they feel it is the right thing to do, especially since they can be rather good at diplomacy when they want to be. ENTPs will rarely apologize to someone they dislike though, and can be a bit stubborn in those situations.
ISTJs can be stubborn when it comes to apologizing, especially since they are precise in their actions. ISTJs rarely do things that they don’t intend to do, and they don’t seek to upset others with their actions. They aren’t the most sensitive people, and aren’t always aware of the emotions of others. ISTJs will certainly apologize towards someone they love, especially if they can logically explain to them how their actions poorly affected that person.
ESTJs aren’t always the best at apologizing, since they aren’t tied to emotions. They prefer to focus on efficiency and getting things done. ESTJs often require someone to logically explain to them what they did wrong, before they will see that they should apologize. They aren’t great at tending to the emotional needs of others, so if someone is simply blubbering and expressing themselves in an emotional way the ESTJ might struggle to respond sensitively.
ISFJs are definitely capable of apologizing, and sometimes might even do it too much. They can feel guilty rather easily and don’t like doing anything that might hurt someone else. ISFJs care for people and their loved ones deeply, and want to be sure everything they do is sensitive to their needs. If someone is hurt by the ISFJs actions they will certainly apologize and try to find a way to make things better.
ESFJs are caring people who truly hate doing anything that might upset someone they love. When the ESFJ feels like they have wronged someone they can be a bit defensive, simply because they don’t want to make those kinds of mistakes. They will certainly apologize and try to make amends if they feel like it is the necessary thing to do. ESFJs simply hate disappointing others and try hard to avoid being in a situation where they have to apologize.
ISTPs can struggle with apologizing, since they might find it to be a bit pointless. They can certainly try to make amends when they have wronged someone, and will find ways to improve their actions in the future. They just don’t always feel like saying sorry is a necessary action, especially if they are apologizing for someone else’s emotional reaction to them. ISTPs don’t feel responsible for how other people feel, and would rather focus on what they can actually change.
ESTPs will certainly apologize if they have hurt someone, especially since they can be rather diplomatic. When the ESTP feels like the best way to gain someone’s favor is to apologize, they can certainly own up to this. They are charming people who know how to make others like them without much effort. ESTPs can struggle to apologize when they are angry at someone as well, and can be very stubborn when they want to be.
ISFPs aren’t too proud to apologize when they feel like they have made a mistake. They are very moral people and don’t enjoy hurting others in any way. They understand that people can become hurt easily by the actions of others, so they try hard not to add to this. ISFPs will apologize quickly if they feel like they have upset someone, and can understand that emotions are an important thing to be conscious of.
ESFPs can be stubborn people and don’t really enjoy doing anything that might hurt their pride. They don’t like having to apologize for their actions, unless they can see someone is truly upset. The ESFP doesn’t enjoy hurting people, especially their loved ones. They might not be good at apologizing over smaller things, but will certainly try to make amends if they feel like they have truly done something wrong.